Sleeping issues. Help... Kind of desperate.

ChelsiAnn13

My LO was a perfect sleeper. Suddenly these last few weeks she seemed to develop a fear of the dark. Adding the stary night turtle and another night light helped. Then she started to wake up to go potty which is good but to get her back to sleep with out her flipping out I have to lay next to her bed and sometimes sing. I did do cry it out and I am not oppose to it if you think just sticking through the heart wrenching "Please mommy, dont leave me" and all that, is what I need to do.
Then she stopped going back to sleep. And she can open doosr and I have woken up twice to her climbing in bed with me.

I don't hate the idea of sleeping with her the problem is that I am a full time student and single mother. I moved  back in with my parents so I could do this but I ofter have to go work on homework late at night, at home and on campus. So if I am not home, which is usually more then twice a week, what will she do. My parents still work so her waking them up isn't good. And yes I do have to be gone at night. I am away enough during the day and if I don't leave at night I will never pass my classes or I would have to cut into the limited enough time I get with her during the day. I already feel like a bad mom sometimes with how busy I am.... Its killing me.... Please help.

ChelsiAnn13

Also I am not getting enough sleep and I am on break so I am terrified once classes start again. My classes require all nighters multiple times a week.

JoannaJes

I think you need to let go of your guilt. You sound like you are a good mom (going out to buy her a nightlight). If the short term requires that you need to get more sleep, don't feel bad about that. She is 2.5, not an infant. It sounds like you attending school and performing well in your classes will lead to a better life for both of you. As an anecdote, DD went through the same phase at the same age. She said the same thing. And at times when I could, I did lay down with her and snuggle. And there were times I couldn't, or I didn't want to, and so I didn't. It doesn't have to be all or nothing, and I think the older they get, they don't get confused about it like a baby would. Anyway, GL.

ChelsiAnn13

Thank you! That makes me feel a lot better and I was getting worried that no one was posting. XD

jllmb79

My 2.5 yr old also recently started waking to go potty and uses stall tactics to keep from going right back to bed.  She wants to snuggle, sing, go potty again...etc.  Sorry no solutions, but hoping it passes soon.

ChelsiAnn13

Thank you everyone!

Last night she did sleep through the night and this morning I woke up to the toilet flushing. I checked the monitor to see her standing up. I went to her room and witnessed herself climbing back into bed. She saw me and stayed up but I can not be more thrilled.

smviner

I'm having the same problem.  We would settle down in the living room and he would fall asleep out there and then we would carry him to his crib and that would be it.  But now he wakes right up and we have to let him cry it out.  It's so hard and sometimes I feel like an awful mother but everyone keeps telling me that it's not going to hurt him to cry it out!  I'll go into the other room and take a shower and most of the time he's done by the time i get out.  Doesn't bother my husband as much as it does me.  Is this normal?