Not sure what to do...

Misch

I'm 34 and a mother of one child. I'm going back and forth on having a second child. I'm so torn! I feel like I've finally got a handle on things, do I really want to start over? I had a rough recovery with the c section, ended up with melasma on the face, i was very depressed the first year after giving birth, cried all the time and just wasn't happy. I'm just scared to go through it all again and not sure if I can handle a newborn and a hard to handle toddler. I know that there are a lot of super moms out there that have 2 plus kids but I just don't feel I'm one of them. The first two years were hard enough. I do have days I'm all for it but then something triggers me to say, "ya not sure I'm ready." I'm not getting any younger my husband is supportive and is ok if we just have the one but I can tell deep down he would like to give his son a brother or sister and I do too but I'm the one that stays home for hours in a day dealing with it all.

Any advice?

Misch

Thank you Nicb13! I really appreciate hearing your feedback!

LexiPlexi

I cannot imagine being in your position, but I would suggest maybe you get a therapist or someone who can help you talk it out and understand how you're really feeling about having another baby. Also if you've had depression before they may be able to help you more than any of us or your husband can. Good luck!!!