Uo Thursday.

smilingeyes2308

Heffafish said:

RoosterWrangler said:

Loppy19 said:

I'm okay with letting LO CIO for up to 5 minutes before tending to her. It usually only takes 4 minutes for her to get calmed down and to fall asleep.

I don't understand how anyone can just stand idly by while their young baby cries.

Even if I wanted to, I don't think I could physically handle it. When DS cries my heart starts racing and I go into panic mode.

Never said you were a bad parent. I was just saying I could personally never do that. However, my DD just fusses loudly rather than full out crying. Every baby is different, no one said it was wrong. So, I'm not the only one? My husband thinks I'm insane because when my daughter cries I act like a mad woman until she's calm. I just hate when she cries. She rarely ever does because I tend to her the second she starts fussing. I never understood CIO tactics. My job as a mom is to fulfill my babys needs..and I don't think it's spoiling at all. Maybe I'll regret this when she's 2...^.^

I would love to have the option to not let my baby girl cry it out, but unfortunately that would mean that she would never ever go to sleep! Every child is different, mine cries a lot...She has from the day she was born, so we have had to figure out which cries are something wrong and which isn't! It doesn't make anyone a bad parent either way....Parenting is about whatever works best for you and your child, there is no one way that is the right way!

JLMcWeeney

I think mall Santas are super creepy. For some reason this year I have started feeling like Santa is a weird thing. I'm not sure why....

llybeck

Oh, I've got another one. I hate making a big deal of my birthday. It's just another day and I don't care if I get presents or anything, I don't like to make it all about me. BUUUUUUT, I absolutely love it when all the employees come over to our table at a restaurant and sing "Happy Birthday" to me. I'm pretty sure I look like a 5 year old all wide eyed and goofball grin just basking in their terrible singing and how awkward they look like they feel, it's my favorite.

So when my co-workers took me out for lunch today and the server told us they don't sing there I actually got a little bummed, I felt like such a dork. But my co-workers sang very loud and off-key and that was even better, other patrons even joined in!

JamieWM

All jokes aside, I obviously wouldn't want to hit anyone or anything....I am just soooo horrified to hit animals. I am the break hitting woman when I see a squirrel

kimberlymacrae

Obviously this is a UO when I started to read our "music" related thread. I like love reggae music. There, I said it. Give me some Bob, Bares, Morgan, Damian, Ky-Mani, Bery, Steel, Tarrus, Jah, Spragga, Wyclef, Collie, Bedouin, Gramps or Ziggy any day of the week. You can keep your Nickleback and Zac Brown Band.

samfam1

I hate the Wonder Weeks book. I don't know if this is an UO or not, but I've read up to the point where my DS is/will be shortly and I've only gotten MAYBE 2-3 semi-helpful tips. I wasn't looking for it to unlock the secrets of the universe, but as a FTM try to learn a thing or two.I swear there are sections that say in the same paragraph something like 'your baby may sleep/eat/interact more or less during this period; however, some babies may not show any of these signs. WTF? Unless anyone has read it through to the end and suggests continuing, I think I'll stop where I'm at and quit trying to predict what's going to happen with LO next.

janelleashu

JamieWM said:

HBirdie said:

Umm, also, animals are not people. I'd much rather hit an animal with my car than a person. I love animals, I really do. But seriously?

Yes. Seriously. Haha

I share this UO. Can't help it!

HBirdie

Loppy19 said:

I think this whole attachment parenting/unparenting movement has gone too far. Yes, children are worthy of respect, but no, they are not mini-adults who should be allowed to make their own decisions all the time. They need to be disciplined and they need to be taught how to function in the adult world. Grow up and be a damn parent.

We are about half attachment parenting and half traditional. I agree with some of the things I've read and then some are just fucking crazy. People have sure taken it to a whole new level.

Alright, fair enough. I shouldn't have generalized so much. I was thinking VERY specifically about a small group of women in my local moms group on Facebook who take it to the extreme. One in particular stand out to me. I've never met her, but here's what I know about her from just her posts on Facebook:

-She has four boys, ages 6, 4, 3, and 1.5.
-She doesn't make her kids bathe, brush their hair, or brush their teeth. Ever.

-She let her 6 year old son walk four blocks home from school in thirty degree weather with no shoes or socks on, and no coat. He was wearing shorts and a t-shirt.

-Her kids eat literally whatever they want for every meal. She said once that her four year old son ate microwave waffles for every meal- for two months.

-Her kids don't have a bedtime, ever. They choose when they want to go to bed for the night, if at all.

-For her two kids that are old enough to be in school, they decide when they will go. If they don't feel like going to school for the day, they don't have to. She complained once that her son's first grade teacher had "the audacity" to try to intervene when he missed three weeks of school in a row.

Basically, her philosophy is this: "Would I treat an adult like this? Would I make an adult go to bed before they want to? Would I tell an adult he had to bathe? Would I dictate what an adult wears to go outside? Then I won't do that to my kids." She basically believes that children are tiny adults, and as such, her children make 100% of the decisions for how they live their lives. She gives "suggestions" and doesn't seem to get upset when they don't take them.

I think this is insane and ridiculous, not to mention irresponsible. How do children become adults? Their parents teach them. They raise them up teaching them the things you need to do in order to be a responsible adult. They aren't born that way.

ajbook

@hbirdie that woman sounds insane and I cringe at the thought of the state of their home & family. Those kids should grow up to be interesting....

TKtravels

"Moist" doesn't bother me in the slightest, and I don't understand why so many people say they are grossed out by the word. 

jlp0528

Sometimes my baby annoys me and I would like to give her away for the day, or two days. Yes I love her but on her scream for no reason no matter what mommy does or does not to help days, I wouldn't mind letting her stay with in laws for a day or two. I'm sure after one day I'd miss her like crazy and want her back but on days like today, adios little lady, see you on the flip side!

imakeeff0rts

TKtravels said:

"Moist" doesn't bother me in the slightest, and I don't understand why so many people say they are grossed out by the word. 

"Moist" bothers me and so she's "panties". I don't know why.

RoosterWrangler

Ughhh I hate "panties". And "pampers".

TKtravels

imakeeff0rts said:

"Moist" doesn't bother me in the slightest, and I don't understand why so many people say they are grossed out by the word. 

"Moist" bothers me and so she's "panties". I don't know why.

For me, it's about associations. 

I hear "moist" and I think of a delicious cake or some other tasty, perfectly cooked food product. 

My association for "panties" is the dirty old man who, when I was 7 years old, called my house and when I answered the phone, asked me what color panties I was wearing.  I've got no love for dirty old men, and no love for the word "panties."

HBirdie

@AbbyMMM, I'm pretty familiar with attachment parenting- I live in a pretty liberal city and I have several friends and lots of acquaintances who practice it. I guess since the people in this FB group I mentioned are very pro-AP and some are "unparents", I lumped them all together and I probably shouldn't have.

But yes, I agree with you. There's a difference between letting your kids learn in different ways and having a less controlling approach to parenting, but the level this woman (and others) take it to is crazy to me.

katdesear

jpryber0528 said:

Sometimes my baby annoys me and I would like to give her away for the day, or two days. Yes I love her but on her scream for no reason no matter what mommy does or does not to help days, I wouldn't mind letting her stay with in laws for a day or two. I'm sure after one day I'd miss her like crazy and want her back but on days like today, adios little lady, see you on the flip side!

Yesterday was one of those days for me.  I walked into great-grandma's and one of LOs favorite aunts was there.  I walked in, handing him to her and said "take him!"  He got passed around between his aunt, his cousin, great-grandma, and great-grandpa.  They got him to settle down and he slept for 5 hours last night.

imakeeff0rts

@Tktravels

ewww.. I'm sorry you experienced that.

JLMcWeeney

jpryber0528 said:

Sometimes my baby annoys me and I would like to give her away for the day, or two days. Yes I love her but on her scream for no reason no matter what mommy does or does not to help days, I wouldn't mind letting her stay with in laws for a day or two. I'm sure after one day I'd miss her like crazy and want her back but on days like today, adios little lady, see you on the flip side!

My baby was crying for no reason for like an hour last night. My husband was holding him trying to get him to sleep, and so I took the baby and Tryed to just get him to nurse to sleep again. I told my husband how annoying I think it is when the baby does that. He totally agreed with me. Lol. Sometimes they are just annoying.