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reinedecajun

I suppose my UO could qualify as a vent but im sure ya'll could have a opinion on this as well.

Daycares calling for EVERY little thing! Frankies teachers acted like the child had pneumonia yesterday! "omg Mrs. Patti come here listen to him he sounds soooooooooooo bad, he's coughing he's woken twice with this cough and his chest is rattling"..so im freaking out. I walk in there and he's knocked out sleeping he sounds fine to me but I haven't been in there so I dont know. I call my husband to get him and he comes and picks him up from nap and made him a appoinment for today at noon. Which I have to take him to because big F has his own dr appt to go to at one. So yeah he had a little cough but nothing dire. His mucus is clear and other than that he's fine, running around like a crazy man and eating everything in site. He just has a cough and a little mucus, WTF?

So I was supposed to take off work at 11 today and take him in to his appt. Fuck that, the kid is fine he has a cough and cold, im not killing myself because these women dont feel like dealing with their class. I sware they sent home 3 kids yesterday. He's getting some Zarbees and if they tell me "omg he sounds TERRIBLE", they may as well call DSS on me because he's fine..it's a cold it's WINTER! He wont be there at all next week anyway. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR Stupid old ladies!

Ok your UO/Vent..lol!

hokiemama06

hijoi said:

I hate half decorated trees. Take a few minutes to teach your child to look and not touch the tree, or put ornaments you don't value closer to the bottom, but decorate the whole damn thing. And don't tell me that teaching them not to touch the tree makes Christmas taboo and takes away from the magic of Christmas!

This has been our strategy this year.  My sister lets him take stuff off her tree, so I'm trying to enforce the look and touch, but don't take it off, but with limited success.  I put the soft/nonbreakable ones at the bottom and the ones that are important to me further up.  I can't imagine a half naked tree!

My UO - I'm kinda over Christmas.  Don't get me wrong, I love the family and celebrations, but there's been a lot going on with our families this year (we've had a death and another person have surgery, along with some other messed up stuff that I won't go into) on top of all the normal pressures that just come this time of year.  How we do Christmas is changing this year too, and no one can seem to nail down exactly what is happening, so I don't know how the schedule is going to work for Thomas.  There's also a lot to do to get ready for this new baby, and all the Christmas prep is preventing anything from happening on that front too.  I'm just kinda ready for regular life to start back up and be done with the whole Christmas thing.

JAck5209

hijoi said:

I hate half decorated trees. Take a few minutes to teach your child to look and not touch the tree, or put ornaments you don't value closer to the bottom, but decorate the whole damn thing. And don't tell me that teaching them not to touch the tree makes Christmas taboo and takes away from the magic of Christmas!

Ha! I'm guilty of the half decorated tree. Ain't nobody got time to pick up ornaments 500 times a day. I can hardly touch my toes let alone crawl under the tree to retrieve misc things that she's pulled off.

KarmB

i told Lilah not to touch our tree and she hasnt. we only have plastic due to having cats, 

I will send out cards every year because I love you.

Lilah is not allowed to have sex when shes a teenager (but I know she will)

UO: Im tired of the You dont have to be a super mom blogs/posts. we get it. there seems to have been so many this week. A few I think are clever, but then some just make me roll my eyes.

StokedWifey

Meow84 said:

I hardcore judge anyone who truly believes that teens should practice abstinence, end of story. Get your head out of your ass. On the same note, I am so sick of schools being terrified of what parents will say if they (gasp) teach anything other than abstinence.

Well, I think teens SHOULD practice abstinence, but teaching them that it's the only way is just asking for trouble.  My mom told me that she'd prefer I not do it because of the consequences, but if I had the desires to talk to her and she'd get me protection or whatever.  I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to make them understand that they should refrain from sex at that age, but teaching abstinence only and not how to be careful if they do decide to partake is irresponsible.

OkieMama

I guess my UO is that I did practice abstinence as a teen and I am very glad I did. I will expect that of my kids and don't think it is unrealistic. I didn't choose not to have sex because I was scared of pregnancy or stds and didn't know any other way- I had sex ed in school and knew all about condoms and birth control. I chose to follow God's guidelines for sex in the context of marriage because I know He created those guidelines for our benefit. MH and I dating for so long and being virgins when we got married was a really special gift and we didn't have to deal with heartache and stress I know others had.
I will say though, I understand that my decision was a very personal and religious based one and I wouldn't expect anyone without those same convictions to make the same decision. I agree that teens should be taught and informed on ALL of their options. I just don't agree with the statement that abstinence isn't a valid option.

elizdg

I didn't decorate the bottom of my tree either. My child is into everything and I honestly don't have time to be telling him no every second or picking up ornaments and hooks out of his mouth.

Also, I think "dumb blonde" or "blonde moment" jokes are really played out. I have heard two so far this morning, and I didn't even bother to refrain from rolling my eyes. Very annoying.

punkyshoester

How bout....I don't even have a tree yet. I thought we could get one on Sunday, but I forgot that I have to go try on bridesmaids dresses for a wedding in July and we are grabbing drinks after. We have a family party on Saturday, but we can maybe get it that night. Who knows.

I was fine with waiting until later so as to avoid Will breaking every ornament we own. Much like PPs....just saying "No! Don't touch that please!" wouldn't fly.

lewispm

Meow84 said:

I hardcore judge anyone who truly believes that teens should practice abstinence, end of story. Get your head out of your ass. On the same note, I am so sick of schools being terrified of what parents will say if they (gasp) teach anything other than abstinence.

I think it's one thing to believe that teens should practice and a completely different thing to think they will. I believe they should, but I will never be so naïve as to assume they will. I don't think teens are ready for sex and the consequences that come along with it, but I will always teach my kids the risks and how to be safe while still encouraging them to remain abstinent until they are older.

Boing214

We took the ornaments off the bottom half of the tree after Charlie tried to pull one off and the tree almost fell on her. It's our first real tree and I think it will be the last because it's been more trouble than it's worth. But seeing the tree almost topple onto my baby really made me ok with not decorating the bottom part of it. And putting a gate around it.

I had a personal goal of waiting until I was 18 to start having sex because I'd seen the troubles that come with having children too soon. But agree that abstinence only education is ridiculous, with all those hormones going through their bodies it's hard to tell which way kids are going to go. It's important to make sure they're safe if they do decide to give in to urges.

I have nothing else right now but it's still early and I'm on my first cup of coffee, maybe later.

steelermama86

Our tree is fully decorated and I am shocked that both kids have left it alone for the most part.  We also have a train and the hardest time I am having is they are trying put their play trains on the track.  It is what it is and I don't judge those who don't decorate the bottom half of the tree.

 

My UO don't ask for a list of ideas for the kids and buy the one thing specifically we ask you NOT to buy.  Damn it. 

 

lewispm

 I don't like all this "Happy Holidays" political correctness everyone is so adamant about these days. Of course people practice different traditions, religions, and holidays, but that doesn't mean I can't practice mine as I please and say "Merry Christmas" as I please. I would be in no way offended if anyone told me Happy Hanukah or Happy Kwanza! I'd just say it back and go about my day.

 

 

aylafsu88

mrsrek10 said:

Oh, I have another UO, I say screw saving water when it comes to toilets. Our new house has these super water saving, low flow toilets. They are awful! Every little thing stops them up because there is not enough water pressure to flush things down. They are so bad that I may ask Santa for new toilets! My day started with a plunger and a toddler helper which is never a good way to start the day. So screw saving water! I want to flush! Plus, if I have to flush three times to make the paper go down..I ain't saving water anyway. Grrr :-L

@Msrek10 The water saving shower heads are just as bad. They have no pressure and it takes forever to get my hair wet. I do not think they end up saving water since it takes me 3X longer to shower!

Pandril19

I completely believe in realistic sex education, which to me means covering both the risks and protection methods.

I have mixed feelings on my own high school abstinence.  My BF and I abstained because we watched my brother deal with two unplanned pregnancies at key moments in our relationship.   On one side, that experience taught me a LOT about the difference between making love/having sex and losing that relationship was incredibly painful even without the added dimension.    On the other, that was probably the most formative relationship of my life and I somewhat regret that he wasn't my first. 

hokiemama06

I'm going to echo some of the sentiment on here about sex as well.  DH and I both waited until we were married, and that is incredibly special to me - I wouldn't have done it any other way.  I did grow up in a very conservative family where I didn't even really know how to have sex until I went to college (don't get me started on how dangerous that was...).

DH & I will have the discussion with all of our children about what we believe, the physical and emotional consequences, and how to be safe if they choose to have sex before they're married.  However, like anything, our children will have to make their own choices in life - we just need to give them the information they need to make a good decision, and keep the lines of communication open.  

JAck5209

jfresh said:

@hijoi that was directed at you specifically it seems like people are really judgy of trees in general. And I may be touchy on the subject but it also pisses me off when people are like, just tell your kid not to touch it! Oliver is well behaved (for a toddler) and I'm a good parent but reasoning with the kid not to touch something just doesn't work. I can sit 2 feet away from him and tell him no 193761693 times a day and he will still go for it. FTR we did only a mini tree because of space issues but also largely due to Oliver. No ornaments, just lights.

YES! I posted a picture of my half tree on Facebook because I think it looks funny and a friend made a comment about trying a stern "no" with Olivia. Wow, really? I hadn't thought of that! Apparently her child is perfect and never touched the tree. I think Olivia is really well behaved but she's still a toddler and doesn't always listen. I super eye rolled her post. STFU lady!

RTaylor12

I think the tree decorating issue really just depends on how mischievous your kid is. I was pleasantly surprised with Taylor, we told her no once or twice but for the most part she stays away from it. If she was constantly picking ornaments off I would probably take them all off and just do lights. We have plastic ornaments, but none of them have the strings on the top and I don't want her to swallow an ornament hook. It's dumb to make a blanket statement saying you can or can't tell a toddler no. With some of them it works, with some it doesn't. They're little humans like that.

KarmB

jfresh said:

@rtaylor12 I didn't mean you can't tell a toddler no I just meant that sometimes it really doesn't work and I felt kind of judged. Kind of like people who have kids that are great sleepers but judge people who sleep train, ya know?

I felt like we were being judged for having toddlers who don't touch the tree. I know stfu was said in fun but still made me frown. It goes both ways.

KarmB

emilypc said:

My UO is that I don't really like when people say things like Happy Anniversary to their partners over FB unless they aren't going to see each other that day. Even then, they can use the phone. MH did that today and now I feel like I have to say something to him on FB too. But I already left you a card when I left this morning, and I sent you a text, and I'm going to see you after work tonight. Why do I have to say it to all of FB too? 

Cuz it's not official until it's on FB

KarmB

jfresh said:

The STFU was aimed at her friend in that specific circumstance. And it sounds more like it was directed to her because she offered up saying no, like she hadn't thought of it yet.

Yup. I read it. Still made me Frown. It's allowed to.

I also think two pages of whether or not to decorate your tree is silly. But I don't think that's a UO anymore lol

reinedecajun

Decorate the bottom of your tree or dont..whatevs. Ours is decorated it looked nice for like half a day now the ornaments randomly move around the tree here there wherever he feels like they need to be. They are all plastic and it doesn't bother me that he plays with them. No hooks just string to hold them on so I let him go for it.
He does have limits on other things like climbing the dining room table or digging in the trash..you know have to keep up standards and all.

I agree 100% with Meow, and if you were a teenager and saved yourself good for you. Heres your angel wings. I was raised Catholic and was preached to about no sex before marriage, had strict dating rules, etc. All that did was NADA, I had sex as a teenager and the only thing I learned about protection was from school. My parents teached/preached abstinence and nothing else.
If you think teaching your teen abstinence and instilling good moral values are going to stop them from having sex your fucking insane. I taught my son to NOT have sex before marriage but I also told him that if he ever reached that point that he could come to me about it. He went to his dad instead, which I get but at least I know he was safe when he did have sex. 

I also dislike bake sales, they make me fat. Yes spoons made me fat ;0)

reinedecajun

mrsrek10 said:

mrsrek10 said:

Oh, I have another UO, I say screw saving water when it comes to toilets. Our new house has these super water saving, low flow toilets. They are awful! Every little thing stops them up because there is not enough water pressure to flush things down. They are so bad that I may ask Santa for new toilets! My day started with a plunger and a toddler helper which is never a good way to start the day. So screw saving water! I want to flush! Plus, if I have to flush three times to make the paper go down..I ain't saving water anyway. Grrr :-L

@Msrek10 The water saving shower heads are just as bad. They have no pressure and it takes forever to get my hair wet. I do not think they end up saving water since it takes me 3X longer to shower!

@alayfsu88, we have already replaced the shower head! It took two showers of greasy, "still have conditioner that won't rinse out" hair for me to head to Lowes! Take that, environmentally friendly builder! Ha! Too bad toilets cost more than a shower head. Total FWP!

We have low flow toilets at work, major fail! MAJOR

reinedecajun

chipmunk112511 said:

Oh lordy be, this is a fun one.

Anywho, I put plastic unbreakable ornaments at the bottom and yes I have to tell him "look dont touch" and "no dont touch" daily but I will continue to do so until he learns that these are in fact not toys.  I let him touch the tree and teach "be nice" but when he starts hitting it and pulling my lights/ornaments off is when I step in. 

I will be VERY open about sex with my son and make sure that he feels comfortable talking to me about it.  Same if we ever have a daughter. My mom was a teen mom, my grandma was a teen mom, and my great grandma was a teen mom..see the line? Well guess who was not. My parents were very open with me especially my mom and so when I decided to have sex at 16 I made sure to be safe, that I felt the timing was right for me personally and never once have I regretted it.  I told my mom I wanted BC, we went to the dr was put on it and that was that.

I have no plans to ever do elf on the shelf. Who really wants to come up with 24 things to do with it for 10 years (give or take)...yea not me

Oh good lord yes...that creepy ass elf! Because I totally need to remember to make "mischief" every night. That I also have to clean up in the morning. Or even remember to move the stupid thing.

"mom elfie hasn't moved in 4 days"
"elfie is in a coma, he had to much eggnog"

StokedWifey

I guess my UO is that I can't wait to do the Elf.  I am a total kid all year 'round, but Christmas makes me giddy.  MH already has so many awesome ideas and is thrilled about it too.  Who decided to let two children parent???  

JAck5209

Sorry if I made you frown, @KarmB. STFU was directed towards random Facebook friend with perfect children. Sorry if that wasn't clear.

@hijoi You didn't offend me even a little bit. I was just venting about a silly friend. Your fully dressed tree works for you and my nearly naked works for me. No biggie!

nesenotes

mightybee said:

Maybe this is a PU, but I love the terrified, screaming, tears streaming down the face pictures of toddlers with Santa. I get a smile on my face everytime I see a new one. It's worthy of its own PIP thread.

Me Too!! Its evil but so funny at the same time. I'm morbid.