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Transition to new daycare room not going well

Ugh, I can't believe I cried at daycare drop off, first time ever. 

The last 2 weeks DD has been visiting her new room.  Some days they said she cried, other days she was fine.    Monday was her first full day and drop off in the new room.  DH did the drop off and said it was bad and he didn't really like the teachers. I was sad it was a bad drop off, but kinda blew it off. 

Today I did drop off.  It was HORRIBLE.  She even started crying on the way to school.  Then hysterical when we got in the room.  I introduced myself to the teachers and tried chatting a bit....although they weren't as chatty and personable as DD's last teachers.  

I kissed DD and tried to quickly leave the room.  She started doing that toddler stomping feet thing yelling for me not to go.   One of the teachers started doing the same stomping feet thing saying "I don't know what you're doing but you need to tell us what cereal you want for breakfast". 

I'm probably being way oversensitive and just having a bad morning....but to me, that teacher was mocking her. 

I know it takes time to adjust and she'll probably be just fine, but it's hard for me to get past that mocking and the not so great vibe I got from both of them.  I know the afternoon teacher (she helped in DD's previous room).  When I picked DD up yesterday that teacher said she did fine....but she's super nice and DD really likes her. 

Ugh, this sucks, thanks for letting me vent. 
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Re: Transition to new daycare room not going well

  • I would be upset, too.  Her teachers need to be supportive and interact with her in an age-appropriate way.  They need to be sensitive to her needs while transitioning including helping with drop off.  I would talk to them about it.  If they are not receptive, talk to the director.  If you don't see a change, look for another daycare.  

    We recently moved out of state and changed from one new daycare to another because my older daughter was literally crying for an hour before school.  She called her new school the "sad school".  We switched after one month to another school where they are very nurturing and helpful and drop-off rarely involves any tears.


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  • Thanks for the reply!   That's the thing, they are not helping with drop off at all!   They don't really try to engage with her.  The only distraction they try is asking what kind of cereal she wants...when she doesn't answer and cries they say "well, you need to tell us, that's not an answer".  Are you kidding me, she's 2! 

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  • I would be upset too.  My son just transitioned to a new room and the drop offs were rough for a couple of weeks.  However, the teachers in the new room were very supportive.  They would take him from me, walk over to the window, talk about what they see outside, etc...to distract him.  He's always fine right after I leave the room.  After two weeks, drop offs are much better, no tears!  I think you should talk to them about helping comfort her as you're leaving, and throughout the day.  It's a big change for a little one.  If they aren't receptive, I agree that you should talk to the director and/or look for a new school.  It's important that you both feel comfortable with the people taking care of your daughter.
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  • I've worked at centers before and the mocking the child is so inappropriate. I'd be upset too. I'd go straight to the director of the center and let her know my feelings. The teachers should try to interact with her as soon as drop off begins to try and get her into a routine that she enjoys and becomes comfortable and familiar with. Call throughout the day if you feel the need, I always welcomed and invited parents to call. I also know its hard, but a kiss, I love you, and leaving is easiest for parent, child, and teacher.
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  • That would bother me too. DC changes are really hard on children and the parents. The teacher mocking her behavior is unacceptable. I'm sorry that happened to you. I would monitor their actions ongoing to see if anything like that happens again before I mentioned it. As far as LO it may take a few weeks before she is okay. DD took 10 long days, and every once in a while she has a meltdown still. GL!
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  • Thanks so much for the replies.

    This was day 3 and DD did not cry in the car on the way to daycare, but had a total meltdown when we got to the room.  I hadn't really had a chance to talk to the lead teacher so I sat down and held DD while we talked.  Lead teacher seemed ok.  The assistant teacher that mocked DD was there but didn't say a word, she just said quietly watching the other kids play.  

    So not a great drop off with all the crying, but at least the teachers didn't do anything to enrage me!   I could go to the director about the mocking, but she'll be in that room for a year and I don't want there to be "awkward tension"....but if there's another incident I'll go to the director or say something directly to the teacher.

    This is my first time experiencing any crying at drop off and I'm not handling it well :)
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  • I was completely in love with my sons day care for 2 years. He moved up a few weeks ago and I put in my notice to them within the first week....I did not care for his new teachers whatsoever!  They were mean, they sent him home with skid marks in his underwear and said they dont wipe kids in that classroom. I was like well nobody told me that!!! He is newly potty trained and doesnt know how to completely wipe himself! Anyways, there were several issues in a short amount of time and I pulled him out. He's in a new day care way closer to home. I just started him a few days ago. He screams and cries when I drop him off and it is heartbreaking but he is a mommy's boy regardless of what day care he goes to. He cries if I go to the bathroom without him!
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  • That would bug me. She's 2. It's their job to make her feel comfortable in the new room. My almost 3 year old still cries almost every day at d/o, but her teachers, god bless them, every single day pick her up, hold her, try to engage her in something, get her to help them with something, etc. I'd give it a few days, but I'd think about saying something.
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  • Hi.....I think that the lady who did the foot stomping would have found MY FOOT shoved up her ***.Totally and completely in appropriate.....I would have found the director and addressed it at that very moment.
    What kind of person is working in a day care with little ones thinking that is okay to do to a little one.    Please address this again if necessary and I know how hard it must be to see her go thru that every day........Good luck

  • When my DD#1 was in DC the teachers knew she needed to be held and engaged with them for me to be able to leave with out tears, so they would always take her from me when we arrived. Maybe I am one of "those" parents but I would talk to the director right away and see if there is a solution to ease drop off.  Any issues I ever had with daycare I always called the director right away.
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