I am a SAHM with my 10 month old son. He is mine and my husband's first, a surprise baby after we were married for about 2 and a half months. We got married before any of my close friends and clearly now we also have a child long before them. I have been feeling a bit out of the loop, watching them still go out to the movies or out for a girls' night on occasion and I lack an invitation. I clearly don't expect, or want to, do any of these activities frequently, but on occasion it'd be nice to have something planned out where I can get a babysitter or have my hubby watch him and have a little time to myself. I got really hurt seeing constant pictures posted on facebook of activities they all do together and I know that a part of me is a little jealous...but when confronted they don't see that they are doing anything wrong. I'd still like to be invited, even if I need to decline the invitation. They say that I need to plan more events then...I feel so overwhelmed with parenthood in general, now I'm supposed to plan events and things to make sure that my friends feel included. They say they understand what it's like to not have time to yourself or time to do anything...and I don't doubt that their lives and jobs have their own stressors...I don't belittle that at all. However, having a child? You don't get a break. You can't decide you've had a long day and a stressful week so you'll call it an early night and veg out for a while before heading to bed early. I feel like parents don't have the same option as single friends. I try so hard to understand where they are coming from...and I suppose they guess they are being understanding? But it just makes me feel like I'm doing a whole lot wrong. I barely have time to talk on the phone, so I try to text people every now and then...but people seem to get frustrated that I don't just call to see how they are, when in reality I'm exhausted pretty much all of the time.
Not sure if any other Momma's out there have some of these same issues. I love this group of girls and we've been friends for 15 years...but I think it's unrealistic for them to think that I can put as much time and effort into my relationships with them as I used to with a LO that needs to spend time with his Momma and is right at the age where he is into everything...am I being totally unreasonable?