MIL Monday

Schell2013

I've been saving mine for a couple days now.

MIL lets DD chew on everything.. Like even her cell phone which we all know are super full of germs it drives me crazy. I don't know if its worth bringing up or not.

Lets hear em!

watuzzigal

My MIL texted my H about buying me a "special necklace with all my favorite things" for Christmas. She spelled my name wrong. I almost never wear jewelry. My ILs seldom remember my interests.

We've been married nine years and dated for three.

watuzzigal

allydncr said:

watuzzigal said:

My MIL texted my H about buying me a "special necklace with all my favorite things" for Christmas. She spelled my name wrong. I almost never wear jewelry. My ILs seldom remember my interests.

We've been married nine years and dated for three.

So... you're complaining because your MIL is going out of her way to put thought into a present for you? Maybe she thought that you'd like a special necklace because you never wear one. 

Ummmm no. I'm venting that after knowing me for 20 years of my life (and being involved with her son) she can't spell my name right, she doesn't know I don't wear jewelry (even though we've talked about it MULTIPLE times), and she would have no idea what my favorite things are because she STILL asks me the same questions about my interests after said time.

ETA: After some thinking, I can see why it came across that way. I vented my frustration/hurt on here (and i still feel that way) because if that is what she decides to get me, I would definitely thank her and make her feel that it was nice of her. She would never know that it's hurtful to me to have her spell my name wrong off and on or to know she doesn't actually take the time to get to know me. I wouldn't even say anything to my H. I try to steer her in the right direction when she asks, but even though she seldom listens/remembers, I've never complained about anything she's gotten me.

kailamitchell

Ugh....how aweful!!  That's worth letting them know how hurtful it is.

kyliensc

Not mil, but my fil gave dd chocolate sauce and dhs aunt tried to give her deviled eggs on Thanksgiving. this is after i told them she couldn't have anything bc of her reflux.

MrsM1111

MIL bought a holiday dress for Ab (even though I told her months ago my mom had purchased one and if she wanted to she could do Christmas jammies) and at their annual Christmas block party she got upset that she wasn't wearing it. It was night time and freezing. I was cold in thermals, a sweater and a pea coat! Ab was in a bear suit and her nose and cheeks were icy cold! MIL kept telling everyone she bought a dress but I wouldn't let her wear it. Um your crazy if you think I'm going to let her wear a short sleeved dress and thin stockings when I can see my breath outside. She said it so much I'm thinking of forgetting that we have it and put Ab in the dress my mom purchased for Christmas Eve, day and New Year's Eve, just to spite her.

Also I made pulled pork for the pot luck and she kept mentioning how dry it was and giving me tips for next time I make it. She can hardly boil pasta properly and she was giving me tips on cooking. Come on, really? The pork was perfect. It was the first dish to get finished and I had people asking for the recipe. Wonder how many people asked her for her pre made mini quiche recipe...

amcongdon

This one feels a bit bratty on my part but I'm still annoyed. Very good childless friends of ours wanted to have dinner for the holidays this Saturday. DH asked his mom to watch S for 3 hours so we could have dinner with them - BTW we haven't gone to dinner with them since S was born - and she said she couldn't commit because it was ice fishing season. Really? You are turning down time with your grandson who you haven't seen in over a month because you MIGHT go ice fishing. And then you will inevitably complain about how you never see the boys. 

She also bailed last minute on watching S so I could fly to DC to speak at a press conference with the Department of Transportation. 

High five to my mom for being awesome and driving 2 hours each way to pick up her shit slack.

john5111

Over Thanksgiving we were staying at my in laws and I was worried about how cold our room would be for LO..(its teh coldest room in their house) and I always freeze.  We put him down for a nap and our monitor says its freaking 62 degrees in there. DH goes I turned your heat up and shes like to what?!?!?  Shes like you still dont give him blankets? Ugh I will never get over that one and rolls her eyes.  Um even if we gave him a blanket that is still too cold for a baby and he moves around so much he would not keep a blanket on. She proceeded to tell her sisters at the ext dinner the next day while Im 2 feet away from her..I can hear you! UGH.  Wish me luck this weekend for Xmas.

PumpkinAndThePeanut

mishy2006 said:

So we went to hershey hotel for brunch Sunday. GMIL had a chocolate martini that had a hershey kiss at the bottom. She fished out the kiss and tried to get C to eat it. She was about to put it in her mouth when I shouted at her are you insane that is dripping with alcohol! It wasn't enough that the kiss alone is the exact shape as LOs trachea. She was all butt hurt and told me to loosen up it was just a lick. Who the fuck tries to give a 6 month old a fucking vodka laced hershey kiss??

Also... Who the fuck has a chocolate martini with brunch? I mean, a mimosa, or just plain sparkling wine, hell yeah. But vodka with your French toast?

Eta that's crazy @mishy2006. I would have been livid.

MeeksandMads

If anyone in our family tried to feed my baby a Hershey kiss, with or without alcohol, I would punch them in the face. Wow!

This makes me think that being annoyed at my MIL for sending a text yesterday that said "your dad is out of surgery. He's doing okay", after not ever telling us he was HAVING surgery, is a little peevish. It made DH and I feel like assholes, when we had no idea how to respond.

coffeeandbooks

@watuzzigal
I feel you on this one.  My MIL historically has never asked me anything about myself.  I have felt almost as if I have no identity when I am with her.   She never asks me about my job, my friends, my interests.  It is a very passive aggressive form of antagonism that is very grating.  It is kind of like they freeze you out.
My mother always says though that it ain't over till its over...the relationship still has time to grow and change so here's hoping for small improvements!