Twins and then singleton....

amd1982

Our twins are almost and year old and dh and I had a whoops. We just found out I'm very early on however (assuming) with one baby this time. Our due date will be when the twins are 19 months old. I guess I'm wondering how things change from 12 months to 19. They are standing but not walking yet so it's still difficult to imagine having another baby. But I keep trying to remind myself that we have nine months of changes before this baby comes along. Anyway just looking for some moral support. Thanks.

whitehousem

DD is 18 months and running around. She is always climbing on me. She is starting to say a lot of words and understands most of what I say to her. It's a really fun age but she is def into everything. She can be "helpful" at times like if I tell her to throw something in the trash or go get something. She's a great sleeper, 12 hours at night and still two naps (but they usually go down to one around this time). We are starting time outs when she doesn't listen. She def wants attention. Since I've been typing she has eaten dog food (something I thought we were past months ago), pulled my jacket off a chair and is moving it around the house, touched the lamp and monitor which she is not allowed, and now trying to open a drawer in our buffet (and I consider her well behaved). You will have your hands full but with two they will play together and entertain each other (and get into trouble together). DD will be 23 months when our twins arrive. Either way, you and I will both have our hands full.

Edited to add: I have been watching a boy who is three months older than DD for a year now. They do entertain each other a lot and are on the same nap and eating schedule (I made sure of this). I think it would be totally doable to add a newborn to that mix. Don't worry, you will adjust.

raraavis28

No experience, but congratulations!! My thought is if you can survive twins, you will be A-ok!

KatieGummow

Congratulations!! 19 months, huh?  I couldn't imagine, but it will be fun, and hopefully "easy" compared to having twins?  

Momof8inSC

My first two babies are 18 mos apart. But not twins and a singleton.

ckred27

I have 2 singletons (3 and 17 months) and have twins coming. Once your guys start walking, they are going to really start getting into stuff. My 17th month old wants EVERYTHING he isnt supposed to touch. The stereo, tv remotes, cleaning cabinet, ect. Now is def the time to big time baby proof if you havent done so and get everything out of reach that they shouldnt get into.

TobieRose

Congratulations! My situation is the reverse of yours--DS1 was 19 months to the day when the twins were born. He runs around, talks a lot and is very verbal, etc. One thing that is much easier now than when he was 12 months is his ability to communicate, which makes a big difference. He can also entertain himself for a half hour or more (although he does still need lots of attention from Mama, particularly if he's feeling left out when I'm caring for the babies). 

He can certainly get into plenty mischief, but he's old enough to listen and understand obedience, which is pretty important when I'm trying to nurse two babies while he's trying to scale a bookshelf or unroll all the toilet paper! He listens pretty well (I put a lot of work into making sure he knew to before the babies came!!), BUT he can be pretty sneaky too. In other words, it's difficult, but not impossible.

Honestly I think you'll find one baby is a lot easier than two! I keep finding myself thinking how much easier it would have been if I'd had twins first ... which may not be true, and in any case I wouldn't change our family for the world. But you've got a lot of practice under your belt! 

MagPie08

We had the exact same situation. B/G twins were 9 mos when I got a bfp- luckily a singleton. One thing I'll recommend is keeping the twins in daycare/having a sitter come while you're on maternity leave. At 18 mos, mine were into everything. You will want a few extra hands around those first 6 wks at east to give you time with the babe. Aside from that, I just remember DD spending a lot of time buckled into her infant carrier in our living room for her own protection- lol!

Oh- we also got a ton of use out of a triple stroller. I would recommend it.

My twins are now 3yo and DD turns 2 in March and it's a blast! They are all so close and good buddies. Congrats!

LottaLattes

A friend had her twins and then another when they were 16 months (total whoops). She said that first year was a little nuts, but obviously survived. I second the pp in getting your twins into part-time care or getting a mother's helper if you can. My guys are 18 months old and while I can walk them out to the car now, I still have two hands to hold and they need help down steps and touch every blessed thing along the way. I have heard from a number of people that a single after twins is way easier, I had my singles first so it is harder to compare after many years of gap but one baby...way easier. Good luck!!

melcass

I'm with you! My twins are 18 months old and I am due in March with a singleton.....they will be 20 months apart. I found out I was pregnant when the twins turned 1 and freaked out. A lot has changed in 6 months, they are way more independent, play together....I can now picture handling another baby where 6 months ago I was in tears thinking about it. My twins both want only me sometimes and fight over my lap but it does get easier each month. Congrats on your surprise whoops! Ours was as well, we did IVF for our twins and 5 year old, we were told 1% chance of getting pregnant on our own......1% happened!