Lets walk down memory lane....

Bunnyfer

So most of us are at or now past our BFP anniversary dates....I have been thinking a lot about my BFP, the feelings, the emotions, the pure joy....and then there was the talk on how and when to tell the parents.....I got my BFP on 12/12. DH and I had decided we would just hold out and tell his parents on Christmas Day, since they were coming to town that day to visit. We had ordered a cute onesie....but by 12/24, it had not arrived. So plan B, we bough a digi, I peed on it(it turned in like 30sec...LOL) we cleaned it up, then taped it to a box, wrapped it and waited. On Christmas Day, plans got all screwed up. It was getting late, and we still had not done the gifts, so before we went to dinner, we finally just handed his mom the box, and told her to open it. She looked at it at first, and it did not click...then she looked at it again....and was just like...No....really!!!???!!!!...then we all began to cry. It was a great Christmas. I called my mom, who was very sick, and she said it was the best gift she ever got.

So share your stories....How did you tell the parents...how did they react..

(edit - posted before I was done)

LokiLahve

I planned to wait until Christmas and send both of our parents a gift to let them know. Yeah, I called my mom maybe a week later and told her...I couldn't hold it in!

DaniB091

We found out Christmas morning, best gift ever! But we wanted to wait to tell our families until close to 12 weeks. That plan backfired when his mom made us dinner, and there was an ingredient I couldn't eat! So we had to tell them. It was still a very cool moment though. I always jokingly say she tricked us into telling them early

Then we told my family to be fair. Everyone was very excited!

kwrecks

We found out on Dec. 22, and we gave our parents a christmas card on christmas morning from the baby

kkay1982

We found out early December and told my family on Christmas. We bought two onesies (grandma's special gift and grandpas special gift) and wrapped them up and gave them to my parents. I had my cell phone on my lap and turned the camera on so we could catch the moment. It was great to watch.

carrotcake06

We found out in late Nov. We didn't tell our families until Christmas, though - which was after we found out we were having twins.

I don't do reveals or anything, so we just told them. We did have u/s pics, so of course we showed them those after we told.

I told my family and H told his - everyone kind of knew when we said "so we have something to tell you...", but they were all floored when we told them twins.

Wjoyner08

I took a test five days before DH's birthday on the 16th. I had told myself if it was positive that I would save the result for his birthday. Yeah, so didn't work. I was so excited I barely kept it to myself for two minutes!

We wanted to wait until at least eight weeks to tell our families but at DH's party that weekend my mom totally guessed. His mom was in the hospital so we still had to wait to tell them, but I was so glad I didn't have to keep a secret like that from my mom! 

RK125

We found out on 12/18. We had decided a few days before that we would put ttc on the back burner for a few months. I cried when I told dh because I wasn't sure how he'd react. He literally jumped for joy.
We got cards to give our parents on Christmas. (See picture) My il were so excited. My parents were not...kinda killed the excitement.

katharine25

We held out for xmas - I had my first ultrasound Xmas eve at the RE's and put my ulstrasound with the little spec 5w4d that was DS in a mug that says "Memere (aka grandma) says I'm a keeper". We wanted to do something fun since the last 3 times I told her I was pregnant were in tears telling her I was losing it, ad the first pregnancy there was no fan fare. It made me nervous to be so "confident" so early, but I knew I would need her support either way.
Turns out the cup was spot on

KQuinonez

We found out 12/6 but waited till Christmas. I wanted to wait till after our doctor's appointment but DH said it would be perfect to make it a present. We bought bibs for each grandparent that said I love Grandma and I love Grandpa. We wrapped them up and they were shocked when they opened them. It was the best gift ever.

BlondieBia21

We found out 2 days before Christmas but didn't tell until after I could get into the doctor. We both come from Catholic families and knew there would be mixed emotions because we weren't married yet. We decided that we each only have our first child once so we wanted to do something special, rather than just tell them. We made onesies that said "I love my Grandparents" on the front and "ETA: 8/25/13" on the back. We wrapped them up and on NYE and first gave the gift to my parents because we figured they'd be the least excited. We figured right. My dad wouldn't talk to me and left the room crying. My mom started crying about how this isn't what she wanted for me blah blah. (All because we weren't married.) Before we left they did say they were happy, they just wished it was a bit different. His parents were excited, his mom was a bit confused. They both started crying and told us that we needed to plan the wedding. 

Overall, everyone is excited now. It had its ups and downs but everyone loves our little girl!

nnikki10

We found out on Nov 28th. I wanted to wait till Christmas but because of being a police officer I had to tell work right away. My dad retired from same department and still sees some coworkers weekly. I was worried if we waited someone from work would congratulate my dad before we told them.

So I bought baby picture frames found a cute poem and printed it. Gave it to ILS first then my parents like 2 days later. They were all happy. The first night we told my mom she just keep saying " I don't know but I'm nervous for you".

Caz1221

Today is our BFP anniversary (though I had suspected for a little bit since I was temping and charting). We waited until 12 weeks to tell our families. My family is local, so when we all got together for my brother's birthday in January, we gave my parents a baby outfit all wrapped up and said it was a belated Christmas gift. It took a minute for them to get it after they opened it, but then they were excited. We called my ILs since we weren't going to see them in person for a while.

Lorjo2022

We found out on January 4th! I just had a feeling (and very sore boobs) to take a test. DH wasn't as optimistic because we kept getting negative after negative. As soon as this one was positive, we decided to wait until after our first ultrasound to tell our parents. That lasted all of one day! So we wrapped up a pacifier in a box and brought it to each of our parents as a belated Christmas gift! There were happy tears all around

PB102012

I found out 12/10 while down in Southern California on vacation. My story isn't so exciting.... I told my parents over FaceTime, and told everyone else over Christmas. Crazy how we were barely pregnant this time last year and this year we have all these cute babies!!!

alexkylee

BFP Nov 26, but celebrated at Christmas. We had Christmas Jan 4 with my family so we revealed at 9 weeks. I wrapped up a picture frame with a pic of the u/s for my parents. The picture frame was one from our alma mater and said "I'm a little cowpoke." I got my sister a mug that said "I'm the crazy aunt everyone warned you about." We had them unwrap the gifts at the very end and they were so shocked and happy we all started crying.

Revez

We found out Dec. 8. H's birthday is the 9th so I wrapped up the test to give to him as a gift (it took him a while to catch on).

We waited until Christmas to tell my family. We put a bunch of "it's a girl", "it's a boy" and smilie face balloons in a box for my parents to open. Tied to each balloon was a "coming soon" or "this August" movie poster that H had made in photo shop.

For his family we flew to England in march and gave them a "coming soon" frame with a sonogram picture in it. That trip was the nicest they'd ever been to me, go figure. :-?

V&G101808

I found out after thanksgiving but waiting until Christmas Eve to spill the beans to our parents.

First we had my inlaws over for dinner. After dinner we did our usual gift exchange. MH acted like he has forgotten a gift in the room once we were done. Inside the box we put a frame with a picture if the ultrasound. The picture said: only the best parents are promoted to grandparents. Baby S coming Aug 2013.

We did the same thing for my parents when we went to their house late that night.

lkobriant

We found out right after Thanksgiving but wanted to wait until after the first tri to tell anyone so his parents got some baby pjs and mine got picture frames with ultrasound pictures in them.  I can't wait to let DS spill the means for #2 if/when that happens!!

ELauren88

We found out 12/8, and we waited until the 12th to tell our parents (after verifying with the doctor). I wanted to tell my parents, IL's, and then my bio dad. But, my parents were busy, so we were going down to tell IL's first, but bio dad randomly called! So we ended up telling everyone in the exact opposite order we intended.

I'll just tell you how we told my parents since the IL's had the shittiest reaction ever.

We bought a card that said "This card has no purpose", then on the inside it said "but I sent it anyways". We scratched out the inside and wrote in "except to announce Grandbaby #2! Due 8-8-13!" (EDD changed after sono). My mom immediately started crying/laughing, my dad started shouting that he "knew it". My mom then gave us both big hugs and we started talking about names and nurseries. It was a great moment.

We waited until Christmas to tell everyone else.

MinnesotaMomma91

I found ourlt november 26, i was terrified! I didnt tell my parents in any cute way. I sat them down in my dads office started sobbing abd word vommited that i was pregnant.

Texasmomma13

We for our bfp on the 19th. I was 5 weeks. Everyone except dh's Dad was at our house for Christmas day. We bought a three pack of baby caps and put each one in a gift bag. It was the last gift they opened. Mil got what was immediately but my mom was clueless. She had just finished chemo and radiation for breast cancer and I had been getting her caps and scarves. So she looks at it and thinks it's a chemo cap. She kept saying "i don't think this will fit me. It looks awfully small". She didn't even notice the tiny bear ears on top of the damn thing.
We didn't tell anyone else until second tri, due to our previous loss.

Michelle N

I found out December 8th. We had just had a miscarriage (Nov. 14th), so there wasn't a big announcement this time. The first time, DH and I drove almost 10 hours to surprise my parents. The second time was a phone call to my parents, and we told ILs over the holidays. 

Texasmomma13

Zever000 said:

We found out Dec. 8. H's birthday is the 9th so I wrapped up the test to give to him as a gift (it took him a while to catch on).

We waited until Christmas to tell my family. We put a bunch of "it's a girl", "it's a boy" and smilie face balloons in a box for my parents to open. Tied to each balloon was a "coming soon" or "this August" movie poster that H had made in photo shop.

For his family we flew to England in march and gave them a "coming soon" frame with a sonogram picture in it. That trip was the nicest they'd ever been to me, go figure. :-?

Don't fell too bad it,@zever000. I think it's just a British thing. My mil is biotch too.

Revez

lisarene77 said:

Zever000 said:

We found out Dec. 8. H's birthday is the 9th so I wrapped up the test to give to him as a gift (it took him a while to catch on).

We waited until Christmas to tell my family. We put a bunch of "it's a girl", "it's a boy" and smilie face balloons in a box for my parents to open. Tied to each balloon was a "coming soon" or "this August" movie poster that H had made in photo shop.

For his family we flew to England in march and gave them a "coming soon" frame with a sonogram picture in it. That trip was the nicest they'd ever been to me, go figure. :-?

Don't fell too bad it,@zever000. I think it's just a British thing. My mil is biotch too.

Seriously! They got mad at me today because churches here don't sing Christmas carols, they just sing hymns. Because that's my fault and everything.
:-L

Kebert618

We found out Dec. 5th and waiter until Christmas to tell our families. We have a golden retrieve which DH parents adore, so we took a picture of Kaycee the dog wearing a sign that said "I'm going to be a big sister- August 2013!" The funny thing was, Kaycee had the typical golden expression and looked so sad! When his parents opened it they just said aww how cute! We had to say, "no read it!" They were excited once they figured it out!

For my parents, they both live coffee do I had a mug made for each of them. I'm the youngest of 4 and my mom still calls me her baby. So her mug said "my baby is going to be a mommy!" With August 2013 on the other side. My dads said "great dads get promoted to Grandpa!" Dad was confused for a minute...everyone very excited.
My brother also proposed to his GF the night before so they shared that news too! I actually I think I kind of ruined it because I spotted the ring on her finger and ran over to her! She's one of my best-friends....they met at my wedding!
We felt bad for also sharing our news the same day....but they didn't care.

CaliforniaDream87

My mom told me. She has a weird intuition and called me the day after we got our BFP to tell me I was pregnant. I was floored.

BabyE143

This memory is bittersweet. We found out Dec 8th and waited until Christmas. His mom already had a charm bracelet and we bought her a charm that said grandma on it. She needed her glasses to read it at first then when it sunk in she started to bawl.

We bought my mom a charm bracelet with a baby carriage charm (for baby on the way) and an M for my niece. It took her a couple tries to figure out what it all meant. She thought the bracelet was about my niece at first. My aunt told her to think again and then it dawned on her. Her eyes got big, she looked at me, and said in a shocked voice "You're pregnant." It was the last thing she was expecting because a month before (when I didn't know) she asked me when we were going to try and I said not for a looooong time. She was SO excited.

I'm so grateful I got pregnant when I did because she was able to be there for her birth and meet her before she passed away.

This is her bracelet. (We would have added more this year if she was still alive.) She made sure she wore it for LO's birth.

CaliforniaDream87

BabyE143 said:

This memory is bittersweet. We found out Dec 8th and waited until Christmas. His mom already had a charm bracelet and we bought her a charm that said grandma on it. She needed her glasses to read it at first then when it sunk in she started to bawl.

We bought my mom a charm bracelet with a baby carriage charm (for baby on the way) and an M for my niece. It took her a couple tries to figure out what it all meant. She thought the bracelet was about my niece at first. My aunt told her to think again and then it dawned on her. Her eyes got big, she looked at me, and said in a shocked voice "You're pregnant." It was the last thing she was expecting because a month before (when I didn't know) she asked me when we were going to try and I said not for a looooong time. She was SO excited.

I'm so grateful I got pregnant when I did because she was able to be there for her birth and meet her before she passed away.

This is her bracelet. (We would have added more this year if she was still alive.) She made sure she wore it for LO's birth.

Such a beautiful story ((hugs))

BlueJewelM

I had been worried about being pregnant for a few weeks. DS1 was 18 months and starting to be a real challenge on bad days, but pure joy on good days. I wasn't ready to share my time yet, selfishly, I was (and am) so in love with DS1!

I took the test mid December and my first words were. "Oh crap!" And called my husband who started laughing and I was crying. I remember him saying," it will all be fine! Oh wow!" And I may have cursed at him for laughing at me.

I called my mom after the 11 week ultrasound but still wasn't super excited yet. She was wonderful. My little brother was a big surprise when I was still very little...so she assured me I wasn't an awful person for not being over the moon right away and that just like DH said, everything will be ok! I remember her saying "I will be excited for you until you are ready!!!"

I waited to tell extended family at 20 weeks when I knew he was a HE! Seeing him on the ultrasound screen I finally got that feeling of overwhelming love and realized it was all going to be ok.

I honestly think I was in shock for the first few months. And though it sounds silly now, at the time I really was worried id never be able to love anyone as much as DS1.

Turns out your heart just doubles.

BlueJewelM

BabyE143 said:

This memory is bittersweet. We found out Dec 8th and waited until Christmas. His mom already had a charm bracelet and we bought her a charm that said grandma on it. She needed her glasses to read it at first then when it sunk in she started to bawl.

We bought my mom a charm bracelet with a baby carriage charm (for baby on the way) and an M for my niece. It took her a couple tries to figure out what it all meant. She thought the bracelet was about my niece at first. My aunt told her to think again and then it dawned on her. Her eyes got big, she looked at me, and said in a shocked voice "You're pregnant." It was the last thing she was expecting because a month before (when I didn't know) she asked me when we were going to try and I said not for a looooong time. She was SO excited.

I'm so grateful I got pregnant when I did because she was able to be there for her birth and meet her before she passed away.

This is her bracelet. (We would have added more this year if she was still alive.) She made sure she wore it for LO's birth.

Agree, That is such beautiful story. And a lovely bracelet. Such a wonderful keepsake for your LO! She will always know how much her gma loved her.

Texasmomma13

Zever000 said:

lisarene77 said:

Zever000 said:

We found out Dec. 8. H's birthday is the 9th so I wrapped up the test to give to him as a gift (it took him a while to catch on).

We waited until Christmas to tell my family. We put a bunch of "it's a girl", "it's a boy" and smilie face balloons in a box for my parents to open. Tied to each balloon was a "coming soon" or "this August" movie poster that H had made in photo shop.

For his family we flew to England in march and gave them a "coming soon" frame with a sonogram picture in it. That trip was the nicest they'd ever been to me, go figure. :-?

Don't fell too bad it,@zever000. I think it's just a British thing. My mil is biotch too.

Seriously! They got mad at me today because churches here don't sing Christmas carols, they just sing hymns. Because that's my fault and everything.
:-L

Well, here most religious Christmas carols are hymns. What did they expect frosty the snowman?

BabyE143

@CaliforniaDream87 & @BlueJewelM Thank you, it was an amazing time in our lives. I'm grateful for having that moment with her.

mommabmb

V&G101808 said:

I found out after thanksgiving but waiting until Christmas Eve to spill the beans to our parents.

First we had my inlaws over for dinner. After dinner we did our usual gift exchange. MH acted like he has forgotten a gift in the room once we were done. Inside the box we put a frame with a picture if the ultrasound. The picture said: only the best parents are promoted to grandparents. Baby S coming Aug 2013.

We did the same thing for my parents when we went to their house late that night.

Seriously @V&G, we are sistahs from different mistahs because I did the same phrase on a plaque.

We got the BFP after 7mo TTC. It was the month I was told "this isn't the month because you didn't ovulate".... Someone was WRONG!! We found out on 12/29, told my mom on 1/3 and the ILs on 1/2.

Revez

BabyE143 said:

This memory is bittersweet. We found out Dec 8th and waited until Christmas. His mom already had a charm bracelet and we bought her a charm that said grandma on it. She needed her glasses to read it at first then when it sunk in she started to bawl. We bought my mom a charm bracelet with a baby carriage charm (for baby on the way) and an M for my niece. It took her a couple tries to figure out what it all meant. She thought the bracelet was about my niece at first. My aunt told her to think again and then it dawned on her. Her eyes got big, she looked at me, and said in a shocked voice "You're pregnant." It was the last thing she was expecting because a month before (when I didn't know) she asked me when we were going to try and I said not for a looooong time. She was SO excited. I'm so grateful I got pregnant when I did because she was able to be there for her birth and meet her before she passed away. This is her bracelet. (We would have added more this year if she was still alive.) She made sure she wore it for LO's birth.

This made me tear up a little. That was beautiful.

Revez

lisarene77 said:

We found out Dec. 8. H's birthday is the 9th so I wrapped up the test to give to him as a gift (it took him a while to catch on). We waited until Christmas to tell my family. We put a bunch of "it's a girl", "it's a boy" and smilie face balloons in a box for my parents to open. Tied to each balloon was a "coming soon" or "this August" movie poster that H had made in photo shop. For his family we flew to England in march and gave them a "coming soon" frame with a sonogram picture in it. That trip was the nicest they'd ever been to me, go figure. :-?

Don't fell too bad it,@zever000. I think it's just a British thing. My mil is biotch too.

Seriously! They got mad at me today because churches here don't sing Christmas carols, they just sing hymns. Because that's my fault and everything. :-L

Well, here most religious Christmas carols are hymns. What did they expect frosty the snowman?

That's what I said! "They're not going to be singing Rudolph if that's what you're thinking." I think that made the more mad... Oops. 

kanned0121

We found out on 11/28.. it killed me, but we waited to tell our parents until Christmas Eve. We got a little poem about growing the family tree and gave them a bottle of sparkling cider to celebrate. I just cried while my mom read it. They knew we had been trying for a few years and my mom literally jumped up and down with excitement. It was really cool.

rooftop

I put the ultrasound in an envelope and told my parents their gift was on "back order" so they could just see a pic of it for now.

MissyCee

We found out 12/15 we were expecting but waited until Christmas to tell. My previous pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage so I wanted to get the blood work results back to know things were progressing like they should be.

I bought a calender, opened it, and marked the day of the first ultrasound. I wrapped it up and gave it to my parents. They seemed a little confused when they unwrapped it so I said "oh I just marked some important days on there for you" so they looked and saw "Baby Lastname's First Ultrasound" and started crying. Then when we saw the rest of the family later in the day they went around showing everyone the calender. It was a great moment!

shelbell1028

I got my BFP the day before Thanksgiving. DD wore a big sister shirt to Thanksgiving dinner with my family. My mom said she already knew because I didn't have a glass of wine at dinner the night before, lol! My first ultrasound was 12/20. We announced to the rest of our family and friends on Christmas Eve. It was such an exciting time!!!

tdmklm

I got a super squinter a couple of days after Thanksgiving. I called DW at work and recounted the morning, saying, "J woke up at 7:30, we had toast and jam for breakfast, I took a pregnancy test and it was positive, James picked out his clothes this morning, blah, blah, blah". The "Wait, WHAT?" was awesome.