I need to vent to people who understand. DS has a sesame allergy. When we're home, we're good. We're used to it, we know how to shop for foods, home is our comfort zone.
People around us don't seem to "get" it so eating elsewhere is so stressful. I have even been told by my BFF that DH and I are ridiculous for changing out lifestyle and not eating out very often anymore and "That's why we have an EpiPen."
We were invited to a neighbourhood family party tonight, where everyone was asked to bring an appetizer. I let the host know of his allergy and she informed others, but there was still a dish of hummus and all sorts of crackers (no boxes to check labels for those). With kids running around and eating informally, plates everywhere, we were watching DS like hawks. He freaked out us at one point by telling me his mouth itched, but nothing else seemed off. I told DH we should've stayed home and that next time we could do it at our place and provide all food. Now I am a wreck and am checking in on him every few minutes while he sleeps.
We've been lucky to not have any accidental exposure since the Dx, but I feel like it's inevitable and it's going to happen one day. I am absolutely terrified of ever having to use his EpiPen. He's only 2 and his allergist told us last month that the latest literature shows that sesame allergies are persistent, so she doesn't expect him to grow out of it or it get better.
So, moms of older children, does it ever get easier?