Bursting to tell I am pregnant!

TCHanson7

I just got a positive pregnancy test yesterday (3 days before expected period)! I was really surprised as this was only our 2nd month ttc and I haven't had any symptoms. I am just bursting to tell my husband we are expecting but I am going to wait to tell him until Christmas Eve! I don't know if I can handle waiting 10 days! I am planning to wrap up a Christmas onesie and say: "Next Christmas we will be a family of 3, congrats dad!" 

Did any of you wait that long to tell your spouse? 

Did anyone else tell/are planning to tell their spouse they were/are pregnant around Christmas? What did you do to share the news?!? 

The main reason I am waiting is that if I try to give him the present any earlier, he will know I am pregnant before he even opens it :-)

Ravertink223

I am waiting until Christmas to tell my hubby also!! It is so difficult not to tell people, that's for sure. I am planning on wrapping up my pregnancy test and giving that to him, with a note that says "I hope you like your present, because there's no return policy!" LOL Congratulations, and good luck!

TCHanson7

That's a really cute idea! Congrats to you too! :-) 

spacepotatoes

I told my DH right away. We'd also talked about it when we started TTC and he said he'd want to know right away. I get the whole Christmas thing and it's cute in theory, but I personally wouldn't wait.

mamaloaf

I'm going to throw my 2 cents in and say I think you should re-think this idea. My husband would have been terribly hurt if I had not told him for 10 days. I get that you want it to be cute, but I wouldn't do it.

bhaddon

That is such a cute idea! Congrats! When I first thought I was pregnant I got a false negative. When I took my second HPT, it was on my boyfriend's birthday (December 9th) and that was my positive. He had just left for work, so when I called him I was hoping I could catch him before he got too far. Unfortunately, he was at work and when I told him I had to talk to him when he got home he wouldn't stop prying. So I said, "I have the biggest birthday surprise for you....we're pregnant!" Definitely wasn't how I wanted to tell him, maybe next time I'll be able to keep it quiet and do something cute.

BlckRoses

I agree with PP that my DH would have been sad and hurt if I kept the news from him for so long. We found out at the same time and it was a wonderful experience for us to have together.

ILoveBoys

NO. Awful idea. Such a joyous (I'm assuming in your case since you're excited) event should be shared from the beginning.

Plus heaven forbid, but what if you miscarry in the next 10 days? Will you tell him "I was pg but I'm not anymore"? Or would you just not tell him at all. Either way I disagree wih your thinking. PLEASE reconsider.

spacepotatoes

ILoveBoys said:

NO. Awful idea. Such a joyous (I'm assuming in your case since you're excited) event should be shared from the beginning. Plus heaven forbid, but what if you miscarry in the next 10 days? Will you tell him "I was pg but I'm not anymore"? Or would you just not tell him at all. Either way I disagree wih your thinking. PLEASE reconsider.

Yeah, I was hesitant to bring that up but it is so true. Obviously we all hope that it doesn't, but from personal experience, a lot can change in 10 days at this stage of the game.

allardr

spacepotatoes said:

I told my DH right away. We'd also talked about it when we started TTC and he said he'd want to know right away. I get the whole Christmas thing and it's cute in theory, but I personally wouldn't wait.

This. DH would be mad and rightfully so if I didn't tell him right away. 

chelle7620

While I do think that your idea is really cute I would also recommend telling your husband now. There are many things your husband should be aware of, fainting (many women faint during pregnancy, car accident, m/c, certain foods you can't eat, etc. of course what works for one person may not work for another. Just reconsider. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!

colorsplashstudio

Why not give him the onesie now? Just tell him you have an early Christmas gift for him? My DH and I couldn't keep secrets like that. He's my main team and was my main nurse through my miscarriage so I used to even tell him when I thought I might be PG and wasn't when we started trying. It's stressful keeping that kind of secret.

Congratulations to you! What a great Christmas news!

josiebegosie2002

I don't think I could wAit but it's a cute idea. Congrats!!

Meery82

I agree with PPs about telling him now. Save Christmas for telling the grandparents-to-be.

mikescutie7

I think my DH was disappointed I knew about the pregnancy 6 hours before he did! lol there is no way I could have waited until Christmas. I am going to tell my parents on Christmas tho and I can't wait!

[Deleted User]

Mine wasn't cute but he knew practically at the same time I did. I took the test and the yes or no lines only showed one half of the plus but not the negative line- I was so confused! I called him into the bathroom and blurted out something stupid like "babe, I don't get it." Now, granted this was at like 6 am and I was still half asleep. It wasn't until my blood test later in day until I was 100% sure but I think we both knew that morning.

I'm on the bandwagon with everyone else- tell him now. If nothing else for the fact that soon, most likely, you're going to feel nauseous, moody, have sore boobs, you've got to avoid certain foods/alcohol. Better you tell him than he ends up guessing :-/

TCHanson7

To follow up with everyone, I do appreciate your input and I actually told him last night because I couldn't keep it a secret anymore! His response was that he didn't believe me and won't until I go to the doctor (but he said if it's true he was happy). I asked him if he would have been mad if I waited to tell him until Christmas eve and his response was "why?"...that's my husband for ya! I know that may seem really weird to a lot of people but my husband is very unemotional and goes off of facts so to him, I won't be pregnant until the doctor confirms (my appointment isn't until the end if December). Because of this, he explained he would have been fine not knowing until then. Like I said, that might seem really weird but that's just how he is which is why I didn't think waiting to tell him would have been an issue. But despite all that I'm glad it's out because I was having a hard time keeping it in!

spacepotatoes

Whether he believes it or not, I think it's better that you're both on the same page so it's good that you told him.

Is your DH aware that all the doctor does to confirm is give you a pee stick that is often not as sensitive as the one you probably just took at home? Blood tests and early ultrasounds are not standard procedure for most practices. Initial appointments are usually just taking history, discussing questions you may have, and possibly a pelvic exam. There's really no reason for him not to believe the HPT. They're pretty darn reliable.

SuperMom17

Meh... Tell him on Christmas. It's a nice idea and a super cute gift. If he gets that bent out of shape over your efforts to make his Christmas that much more special, you have bigger fish to fry.

TCHanson7

Haha no, he doesn't know anything about pregnancy. I had to pull up mayos website to get him to believe the first two weeks they count of your pregnancy that you aren't even technically pregnant! He just needs medical confirmation. He's a skeptic about everything but I think the fact that we got pregnant so quick is hard for him to believe.

usernewname

Tell him. My dh was disappointed I didn't test with him. I told him it's hardly glamorous sitting on the toilet. But i left him for the onesie to find.

spacepotatoes

SuperMom17 said:

Meh... Tell him on Christmas. It's a nice idea and a super cute gift. If he gets that bent out of shape over your efforts to make his Christmas that much more special, you have bigger fish to fry.

For some of us, the trust we share with our spouse is pretty big fish. I get that for this OP, her husband wouldn't have seen it as a big deal. But that doesn't mean it's ok for all of us to just dismiss our partner's feelings on this subject. If he were to feel hurt, that would absolutely be legitimate. It's his child too.

[Deleted User]

I hate to put a damper on this, but if you are only 5 or so weeks on Christmas and something were to happen to this pregnancy in the future, then Christmas time will always be a reminder of a baby you lost.  Best of luck to you!!!

sunflowermama42212

TCHanson7 said:

To follow up with everyone, I do appreciate your input and I actually told him last night because I couldn't keep it a secret anymore! His response was that he didn't believe me and won't until I go to the doctor (but he said if it's true he was happy). I asked him if he would have been mad if I waited to tell him until Christmas eve and his response was "why?"...that's my husband for ya! I know that may seem really weird to a lot of people but my husband is very unemotional and goes off of facts so to him, I won't be pregnant until the doctor confirms (my appointment isn't until the end if December). 

If that was the response my husband gave me I don't know if I could stop myself from kicking him. 

ahjahbaba

Congrats! I told DH almost right away. I took one of the digital tests that say "Pregnant" and wrapped it up in a little package.

LifeInANutshell

I told my DH that same day... I was going to wait until the next morning so that I could be all cute with the delivery of the news but it didn't work out

That being said, I see nothing wrong with waiting if you think its a surprise he'll enjoy most on Christmas Eve.

cinderella0617

I told my husband the same day. I wrote " congrats you're going to be a dad" on the inside of the pizza box