Having a second child

kphipps002112

I already have a wonderful 2 year old son and he is plenty to handle by himself. But I made the appointment and had my IUD removed. I cannot stop thinking about having a second baby! Literally it's on my mind constantly! I feel ready for it, as does my husband but I am worried how a new baby will affect my sons little world. I would never want to make him feel left out or like he isn't getting enough love. I guess I'm looking for someone to reassure me that I'm not causing him long term psychological damage...

JordynLeighx3

I can't relate entirely because I have twins but, we were the type who wanted our kids to be 5 years apart....not 5 seconds so one of my biggest fears was being able to meet both of my children's needs physically and emotionally and feel connected with them each individually. I cannot believe how easy it is to do that. I worried for nothing. When your LO2 is older, I'd consider doing what we like to do which is take the girls out individually to get some real uninterrupted one on one time. It helps so much!

thefarmchick

I have 3 children. Any child you add will change the mix and how you interact with previous ones, but it's not a bad thing. None of my kids remember when their younger siblings were born. It's like they have always been here.
Basically, yes it will change, no you don't have to feel guilty and  you will figure out a new routine and interaction.

mylittlesunshine

I agree with what everyone has said. I got pregnant with DD2 about a month before DD1 turned 2.

I won't lie, somedays I had a lot of guilt bc DD2 was colicky and had digestive issues. I felt like DD1 would resent me or DD2. But, we all survived, DD2 is less needy and you know what? They both adore each other to the moon and back. It makes my heart melt watching the two of them love on each other. It is an adjustment at first, but it will become the new normal for everyone and life will continue and your DS will adjust.

CactusGirl

I think you're overthinking it. We are having our 2nd child and I'm beyond thrilled! I'm sure once this baby comes my daughter will feel left out at times, but we are giving her such a wonderful gift; a little sister. I am very close with my siblings and I can't imagine not having then. They will adjust, you won't be ruining their world.