Back to work?

mrsyoo

It's been a week since my miscarriage. I feel like I should be back to normal by now, but I'm so not. I told work I'd only take a week off, but seeing that I can't even go outside to check the mail without having an emotional breakdown, I don't think I'm ready. I still have cramping and while it's not too bad, it's a constant reminder of the baby that almost was. We've been TTC for over a year and were so out-of-our-minds excited about being pregnant that I just feel completely heartbroken. Anyone else having trouble getting back to their routine? Just wondering how much time others have taken off before going back to work.

Campow83

I'm so sorry you are going thru this. I went thru my 1st loss 1 month ago and wasn't sure how much time off I was going to need. I took 2 days off and went back. For me, it was worse to stay home because I just dwelled on everything and had nothing else to think about. Work was a good distraction but my boss was so good during the moments that I just needed to step away and cry. It will be hard for awhile. Cry and grieve as long as you need

heathersf11

 Last week I left early on Tuesday and didn't return until Monday. Going back this week has been good for me. Work has been a pleasant distraction and a way to get back to a normal routine. Everyone's needs are different. You should listen to your heart and return when you feel ready. I'm sorry for your loss. 

ankanyo

I left early Tuesday when my OB called about my levels, left early Wednesday to go see her for a blocked/infected duct, took Thursday off and spent the day in the ER and got conformation of no heartbeat, not going in today (Friday), have D&C Monday so not going in, and not going in Tuesday. Everyone at work has been amazing. They told me to let them know Wednesday if I want to come in, so we will see. My mind is just gone and emotionally I cannot work. Take the time you need, it's different for everyone.

MoreThanSparrows08

I am the operations manager for a small company in my area, and so I am actually the only person in the office.  I didn't have the option to take time off.  I left Monday for my regularly scheduled 1st prenatal appointment, where we found that I would probably miscarry, and then I left early on Wednesday to go back for confirmation of MC.  I was in the office Tuesday and again Thursday and Friday.  

I agree with @campow83 - Work is a good distraction for me; it keeps my mind otherwise occupied so that I'm not constantly thinking about the babies that I lost.  It's different for everyone, though, so if you feel like you need more time to grieve, then you should take it.

So sorry for your loss. ((hugs))

mrsyoo

Thanks ladies for your replies. I was still too emotional last week, so I took an extra week off. I'll be returning to work tomorrow. I know I'll have to answer lots of questions about where I've been for the last 2 weeks from co-workers and clients. Hopefully, they'll accept my vague excuses and I'll be able to make it through the day and keep my emotions at bay. I've been feeling a little bit stronger every day.

bissea83

no hearbeat Monday, i had emergency d&c Tuesday (due to lots of pain)and i'm still in a lot of pain. i have to go back  to work Sunday because I'm the only one who works weekends and they can't find coverage for two days. I really don't know how im going to manage it. only 1/2 of the staff know i was pregnant but now they all know i mc because my boss had to beg someone to come in and cover and the only reason they got one weekend day covered was because they told her what happened... I'm not looking forward to all the starring, whispering and gossip that i will have to face this week... i really wish could just transfer departments or at least  not have to face the drama my department will be causing all week ... good luck to you i hope you are able to find peace and feel normal again soon.

this+gamer+chick

No heartbeat Thursday, D&C Friday.  I'm going back to work tomorrow but only because I don't want to keep using sick leave I will (hopefully) need when we try again.  I am devastated, lost, and not ready, but I can't justify burning leave just to stay home feeling sorry for myself.  I have to have hope for the future because it's the only thing keeping me going right now.

erinrow33

I miscarried on December 29th. I ended up going back to work on Jan. 2nd, but was exhausted and sore and wished I hadn't gone in. I'm an attorney and self-employed, so if I don't work I don't make money. I am struggling with working. I just have no desire. I know for some it helps take their mind off of things. I find that I just feel angry that everyone is moving on with their lives and have no idea what I'm going through or my pain. I'm finding it hard to be compassionate about my clients real and created "problems." Hopefully work will not feel so miserable soon.