Am I seriously the only person who doesn't want her kid's picture/information posted on Facebook?
I never even announced being pregnant on FB. I had planned on saying something once we had the anatomy scan, but both of my parents beat me to the punch and announced both his gender and his name before I had even announced that I was pregnant. After that I just kind of quit caring about it. But the closer we got to our due date, DH and I started really talking about what kind of information we wanted out there about LO. We both asked our parents to refrain from posting anything (in writing even) and if I ever posted anything then they were free to share it. His parents listened. Mine did not. Within two hours, my dad had made not one, but two posts about LO's birth. He removed them when I called him out on it, but even still every time I text/email them a cute picture the first reaction is stil "you should put that on facebook." Grrrr...
Re: I can't be the only one...
My SIL and another good friend both don't want any photos of their kids on FB. I understand where they're coming from, and I totally respect that. You have to do what you're comfortable with.
Now what I do find super strange is that an acquaintance of mine created a FB account for her DD, who is only 5 months old now, and posts all sorts of photos and milestone updates and other stuff. I find that a bit extreme...IMHO. Kid needs to decide for herself if she wants a FB account. My DS won't have one until he's 40 (or something like that. Rules under construction. Lol).
This is a big issue with me. My mom has 300+ "friends," but may only see 50 of them in a year. I've also had to have several talks with her about posting inappropriate things. For example, It's one thing if you want to tell people that you're going to be out of town and your house is going to be empty, but please don't post that I'm going to be out of the country for 10 days starting on X day.
My biggest issue with FB is that I haven't made up my mind about how I feel about creating LO's digital footprint before he can even walk. I can't imagine being in elementary school and my friends being able to see pictures of me going all the way back to the ultrasound with the arrow point at my nether regions saying "it's a girl." Ya know?
The final reason is that I don't like the idea of FB owning the rights to use my photos without my permission. I don't want to open up FB one day to see my son's picture on a Similac ad. FB is a publically traded company right now, and failing. They have to have some sort of new revenue stream and I believe that they will leverage the only thing they really have and that is information about people. I would rather shield my son from that for as long as possible.
We use facebook. I wasn't all into it for quite some time then I realized how important a tool it was for me to stay in touch with my family that now lives 20 hours away from us. I have over 30 close family members back in my home town. I see them twice a year. Facebook allows me to see what is going on in their lives and it allows them to see my daughter grow.
While I don't fully trust the "security settings" I do have it set so friends can see my stuff but not friends of friends. Of course, my family and friends can post my pics on their walls if they choose, but most really don't and I wouldn't much care if they did.
I don't use the weird features that track my every move and tells people where I am shopping and eating etc...that kind of creeps me out.
Sexual predators are everywhere. They could just as easily snap a candid of my kid at the playground or in a bathing suit at the pool with their phone or an ipad than they could steal a picture of my kid through fb. Since I don't hide my children in the basement all day everyday I think the risks are pretty identical. I watch what I say, what kinds of pictures I do post, and utilize privacy settings.
If a predator sets his sights on your child it can quickly become an obsession leading to stalking or worse and he can use the data embedded in your digital photos to pursue your child.
That's a good question about FB, I look forward to seeing if anyone knows the answer!
Edit: I know it's old school, but I just have prints done up and sent out to friends and family. I have a cousin who does a calendar every year with the best photos from the past year.