Struggling

lwatkins12

My twins are almost 7 weeks old now. My husband just went back to work on Monday so I'm finally alone with them and I feel like I'm losing my mind. They're both very needy and fussy and I'm BF. I can barely find time to eat anything other than something that I can eat standing up while holding one. We have two swings, 2 RNPs that we only bought because they've been congested all week & the Peds office said to try to let them sleep elevated. Sometimes they like to swing and other times not. I have a 19 year old son so I'm not a FTM but having twins is a whole other ball game. Being a SAHM had always made me cringe because I've worked since I was 15 and value my independence and solitude to keep me sane. I just don't know how to keep my patience and adjust to my new life with two screaming babies. My sister also has twins and I always thought I'd die if I had them and now I do. My MIL is coming tonight to help til Thursday. That's how stressed and desperate I feel. I gained 27lbs with them and have now lost 37 without even trying. I can't lose much more without looking ill. Also, my incision from my c section is still partially open. I had a wound vac for two weeks and my husband packing it twice a day the rest of the time. It just seems like this torture isn't going to end.

bumpuser924057

You are right in the middle of the hardest part right now. IT GETS BETTER. Do as much as you reasonably can, call in whatever reinforcements you have available (MIL is great, and try to take anyone else up on offers of help), remember that a few minutes of crying never really hurt anyone, and EAT. If you are BFing twins, you need calories. Stock up on granola bars, lunch meat, cheese, things that can be eaten with one hand and don't require cooking. I still eat a lot of drive-thru lunches because eating while driving is easier than eating while holding two babies . You will make it!

raraavis28

Huge hugs! PP.is right; it is sooo hard right now, esp if you are BFing or are still healing or are on your own....or all of the above! Just take it a moment at a time, focus on surviving, and get whatever help you can. It will get better!

mamatotwins0812

I am pretty sure that any MoM can relate to this. I literally can barely remember the first 6 months. It was pure survival and mostly a blur, and I too had very little (almost no) help. While this might not sound encouraging, I can tell you that it does absolutely get better and as crazy as this might sound, one day you look back and think "wow, I survived that? I rock!" At 3 months things got a LOT easier and at 4 months I started feeling human again. At 6 mo they started STTN and that made all the difference for me. Ditto the food suggestions (musts) that PP stated. I also bought carnation instant breakfast bc it was a super quick way to get nutrients. Ensure, protein shakes, anything quick and easy. And just sleep any minute you can and keep your eye on the light at the end of the tunnel. You CAN do this! Hang in there!! Hugs.

LottaLattes

((hugs)) I also projected my mind out a year when things wouldn't be so hard. It is so hard at first but does get better. Also if your husband can, have him make you a couple sandwiches before he leaves for work. As little as that seems, it helped me feel like he was a part of the whole day sometimes. Hang in there sweetie!

lwatkins12

Thanks ladies. I really appreciate the support. My MIL is here for several days and caught up our laundry. I think with BF I feel like so much is on me and there is only so much anyone else can help. I have a pump and also rented one from the hospital for a month just to get thru traveling and visitors during the holidays. I usually tandem feed which obviously can't be done as discreetly as one. I'll just try to breathe and get thru one day at a time. I guess one of our boys is like his dad was as a baby...fussy, needy, always busy. He's been fighting sleep most of the day and is his cranky self now. I drank ensures and protein shakes when DH was still home. I guess I'm going to have to go back to them now.

Wishing35

It will get better! Its so hard I know but you will make it through. I had a fussier one who would scream her head off everyday , the best thing I did was strap her in the Moby and wear her as much as possible. She hated the swing and I remember even the "easy" one had a few weeks of purple crying every night. Things got so much better starting around 3 months, hang in there.