bump ladies please help!

beccaxbooxbear

I brought ds home yesterday and cluster fed from 7pm to 430 am. When I tried putting him down he would wake up almost immediately and start crying again. Sometimes he would stay sleep for like 5-10 minutes in his co sleeper but wake up crying. He will only sleep in my arms or in bed with me. I remember someone posting that their newborn would only sleep on them or in bed with them but then posted later that baby was finally sleeping in his own bassinet. Anyone know the poster or in the situation and found a way to get their lo to sleep in their own space? Hoping to find something that works soon. Thank you ladies

SharonB222

I figure my DS will sleep in the bassinet when he can; the solution is Time. IMHO back lying alone is tough on a newborn. He sleeps much better on his side or stomach down on my chest. In my mind anything (safe) goes the 1st few weeks. His 1st cluster feed was as you described but for 12 full hrs. A doozy! He's had 2-3 shorter ones. He blew away the weight gain goal at his 1st pedi appt... At least he's doing something with my lost sleep. DH and my mom are helping with my toddler DD when I can't get DS off the bb, or I can't get off the couch after he's finally settled. I hope you have help.

artistlife

DD still isn't sleeping on her own well. Just remember, it has got to be extremely difficult to go from sleeping INSIDE someone to sleeping by yourself. Hell, I have a hard time sleeping when DH isn't beside me. I couldn't imagine how she feels. 

sarenu1

It happened with our daughter.

What eventually worked for us was keeping up a routine. We would get her ready for bed (bath, feed, swaddle, feed, rock, bed). She would usually stay there for 5 to 20 minutes. Then we would repeat the rocking and/or feeding. We would try 2 to 3 times and then usually bring her to bed.

One night it just clicked and she slept for 3 hours in her crib.

I'd say keep up the bedtime routine and when it fails, do what you need (safely) to sleep.

kailapop

Our first week home was rough too. I had a "napper" given to us at our shower and almost took it back but boy am I glad I didn't. It's the only thing Owen slept in for the first week. He hated his bassinet. So I slept in the spare bedroom with Owen in his napper beside me and it worked like a charm. It also made feedings easier for me as I didn't have to get out up and out of bed (I had a c section). By the end of the of that week he was sleeping in his bassinet in our room.

Ashleyfurillo

Do you swaddle him when he's sleeping? My LO will only sleep in his swing or on me and sleeps better if swaddled. We use the swaddle me brand and they are awesome! (They have a hole do you can buckle and swaddle so he's safe in the swing)

beccaxbooxbear

@ashleyfurillo is that what the hole is for? We have been scratching our heads wondering what the heck it's for.

Thank you ladies for your responses! I finally got him to nap at like 1130 this morning in his swing I just had to make it swing a little faster and he liked it. Went to the pediatrician today and he slept great in his car seat so I might try that again. Hopefully I can get him in his co sleeper soon but till then any safe sleep is fine by me

CJS2011

This was us exactly!!! It just took him a few days of adjustment to figure it out. Our first few days he would only sleep on me or in the RNP. He now sleeps in his bassinet next to our bed with the mattress at a slight incline, because he hates being flat on his back. He also hated to be swaddled for about the first week, but now he loves it! We use the Halo sleepsack, because he wiggles his way out of the best of swaddles!

As for the cluster feeds, he also did this a few times when we got home! They were BRUTAL, because he has a terrible latch (a whole different story). Just hang in there, it will get better! I didn't believe anyone when they told me that, but we are at almost 3 weeks and sleep is much, much better.

Amcabbott

My son went through a patch of only sleeping well in our arms. He hated the little bassinet next to my bed and eventually started hating his bouncer thy he once would sleep great in! So I decided to try his actual crib and it worked! I swaddled him really tight in his swaddle sleep sack and, after feeding him, would just rock him with his paci and sing I him until he was sound asleep. Then as I kept singing I slowly layed him in his crib and then put my hand on him and rocked him while still singing to him. Then I'd slowly leave the room. Some nights were worse than others. If he starts to cry I pick him back up and rock him back into a deep sleep. It can be exhausting at times but I refused to have him sleep anywhere else after this because he had to get used to it. Now he does great! I still sometimes have to go in there and re-rock him back to sleep but he's definitely doing much better! Sorry this is so long! Good luck, I know how rough it can be!

YummeeCookee

OP, I'm experiencing everything you have described too. DD barely sleeps in her crib. She always wants to be held. She is also doing the marathon cluster feedings thru the night. I have even fallen asleep while feeding her. I really wasnt prepared for any of this. I'm glad you started this thread as its reassuring to see this is quite normal. Really looking forward to some semblence of a schedule, or hell even sleeping for a few hours in her crib would be great.