WWYD?

MrsT0514

Soo..I'm probably overthinking this, but oh well. Figured I'd get your opinions anyway!

My gf and I were supposed to get together tonight with the kids (her DS and my DS are 6 months apart) for a play date/ glass of wine for Mommy. She just texted and said I'm more than welcome to come over tonight as planned, but her DS has a bad cold so its up to me and my comfort level whether or not I still want to go.

I was looking forward to it, so I debated on leaving DS home with DH and going myself (she only lives down the road), but then I still run the risk of getting sick myself and possibly giving it to DS. I know its not that big of a deal, kids get sick, tis the season..but TBH, if I can avoid getting sick before the holidays, I'd like to. But I also feel bad to blow her off bc her kid has a cold.

WWYD, parenting? Go or pass? I realize im totally overthinking this.

JackoftheBox

Could you ask her if she would like to go to dinner just mommies instead? If not I would pass.

EVA116

First of all that is really nice of her to let you know that!

I would stay home but I just hate dealing with colds in kids. Could you reschedule?

MrsT0514

@jackofthebox I totally would ask her, but she works full time, her son is with a sitter all day, and her H works late a lot, so I doubt she'd go for that.

I'm leaning towards passing, considering DS has been a fussy, teething mess this week anyway, but I didn't want to look that "that mom" that overreacted about a little sniffle. KWIM?

MrsT0514

@eva116 im thinking a rain check is in order. :-( sick kids are no fun to deal with!

s0ulchicken

That's a bummer. I look at it this way though. When I go to the grocery store, there's a good chance that someone there has SOMETHING that I'd rather not pass along to my kids. But I still have to shop for food, right?
Just, wash your hands, don't lick her kid, and cross your fingers. Probably not the best advice, but its what I would do!

tamararachel2

Probably not. Sick kids are the hardest to deal with. A friend of mine's youngest (15 mo) has hand, foot and mouth disease and I've already decided NOT to go to her oldest's birthday party and that's not until the 28th. Even if all of his blisters are gone, he can still spread it if he still has the virus in him. 

SummerSnow11

How ready are you for the holidays?  I think if I didn't have a bunch of stuff to get done that a cold would hinder I would go hang out.  With a cold I tend to want to hunker in and do nothing, so risking it would be based on my to do list.  As for my LO, while I wouldn't want him to get a cold it happens ALL THE TIME at daycare.  Now that I wrote that out though, I don't think I would want to expose him to a known cold.

I guess my vote is no.  And I'm pretty sure your friend would understand.  She's already been exposed to the cold and probably would enjoy the company, but she gave you the heads up because she knows you may not want to risk it.

I'm only working off of six months of parenting experience but those are my thoughts.

ETA: As you can tell I would overthink this too. 

:P

robinsokj

tamararachel2 said:

Probably not. Sick kids are the hardest to deal with. A friend of mine's youngest (15 mo) has hand, foot and mouth disease and I've already decided NOT to go to her oldest's birthday party and that's not until the 28th. Even if all of his blisters are gone, he can still spread it if he still has the virus in him. 

Whoa. Just. Whoa

JackoftheBox

MrsT0514 said:

@jackofthebox I totally would ask her, but she works full time, her son is with a sitter all day, and her H works late a lot, so I doubt she'd go for that. I'm leaning towards passing, considering DS has been a fussy, teething mess this week anyway, but I didn't want to look that "that mom" that overreacted about a little sniffle. KWIM?

Ok plan C. After the kids go to bed rent a movie you both love (or watch one on TV) drink/eat to your hearts content and either talk on the phone or msg each other about the funnies during... or on commercials. I have a friend that lives out of state so this is our "movie night".

tamararachel2

HilarityEnsued said:

tamararachel2 said:

Probably not. Sick kids are the hardest to deal with. A friend of mine's youngest (15 mo) has hand, foot and mouth disease and I've already decided NOT to go to her oldest's birthday party and that's not until the 28th. Even if all of his blisters are gone, he can still spread it if he still has the virus in him. 

No. They are not contagious after the blisters are scabbed over. This is a serious overreaction on your part. 

Actually (taken from Mayo Clinic).....

Although your child is most contagious with hand-foot-and-mouth disease during the first week of the illness, the virus can remain in his or her body for weeks after the signs and symptoms are gone. That means your child still can infect others.

Some people, particularly adults, can pass the virus without showing any signs or symptoms of the disease.

MrsT0514

Thanks ladies. I just told my friend we could do another night, she totally understood.

@summersnow11 I haven't even begun my xmas to do list yet, which was part of my thought process. I still have decorating, shopping and whatnot to do, plus we travel for the holidays. Having to do all that with a sick kid or being sick myself would be no Bueno.

MrsT0514

LovelyRitaMeterMaid said:

How long has kiddo been sick, if it's been awhile it might not be a big deal. I would probably rain check or go alone though.

I talked to her yesterday and she didn't mention him being sick, so im assuming he just came down with it.

MrsT0514

Darbie914 said:

Honestly, I wouldn't go, either.  DD is sick right now and has been a miserable, cranky, clingy mess since Saturday.  If you can avoid it, especially right before the holidays, I would.

Yeah...and honestly, my kid has been a terribly cranky, teething mess for the last 3 days anyway. Today is thw first day this week he seems somewhat back to normal, although he still isnt all that interested in food still. Im just hoping he isnt coming down with something too.

MrsT0514

JackoftheBox said:

MrsT0514 said:

@jackofthebox I totally would ask her, but she works full time, her son is with a sitter all day, and her H works late a lot, so I doubt she'd go for that.

I'm leaning towards passing, considering DS has been a fussy, teething mess this week anyway, but I didn't want to look that "that mom" that overreacted about a little sniffle. KWIM?

Ok plan C. After the kids go to bed rent a movie you both love (or watch one on TV) drink/eat to your hearts content and either talk on the phone or msg each other about the funnies during... or on commercials. I have a friend that lives out of state so this is our "movie night".

MrsT0514

Ugh TB is fucking up big time for me here!

@jackofthebox I meant to quote you and say...what a cute idea that is!

EliseJ

I have a girlfriend with whom we do that "Plan C". We just did Sunday actually. Were trying to get together, didn't work out. So we each poured a glass of wine and FaceTimed each other! Totally fun. And yes, we even "toasted" our glasses to the iPads. Lol now we just sound ridiculous. But its' better than not getting together at all!

klondikebar

I would have rescheduled too. I know germs can be picked up anywhere, but I like to avoid walking into a house full of them. No need to increase my chances of getting sick.

FrickandFrack

I would skip it honestly. There are some nasty viruses going around and you never know if it's just a cold or not. Not worth it, IMO.