Tantrums

remlap235

My LO is almost 17 months

She has tantrums at times where she head buts and throws her self back  . I am not sure what to do

cause I don't want her to get hurt  or hurt any one else . she has other little tissy  fits too .

Can some one help  is it too early for the terrible 2's

 

RoryorHenry?

I believe the terrible two's is actually a bit of a misnomer and generally it is in full swing by 18 months. Sounds like you are right on track.

My daughter is almost 14 months and it is beginning already.

My understanding is that most of the tantrums are really just frustration. At this age they have a lot of wants and desires that they can't communicate. It must be very frustrating to not be able to get there point across!

I found the book Happiest Toddler on the Block to be very helpful. Also, we do a lot of signing and I find it really helps because the more my daughter can communicate the less she has tantrums.

I've really made an effort to understand what my daughter wants and I either let her do it if possible or let her know that I know she is mad, hurt, frustrated and then try to redirect.

An example, the other day I threw away an apple core and my daughter started a tantrum. I got the apple out of the trash can and let her throw it away. She was immediately happy because she got to help. Almost always when she gets frustrated it is because I'm not including her in the task at hand.

Obviously it is not always possible but I think as adults we often don't slow down and let our toddlers help.

Edited for typo.... But I'm sure there are more. Lol
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RoryorHenry?

Was trying to add...

Good luck! It isn't easy and not all tantrums are avoidable. I just try to give hugs and love. They really aren't trying to be difficult but it must be so hard not being able to communicate.

DiveFrog

It depends on how forceful the tantrum is. DD is 18 months and the majority of tantrums I can place her somewhere safe and then handle it like Nicb13 handles them. However, occasionally her tantrums can be particularly physical and I am worried she is going to really hurt herself. In those cases I will place her in a safe hold (in between my legs  facing away from me,with my legs wrapped around her legs and my arms wrapped around her middle holding her arms down) until she calms down. I will talk calmly and softly too her when I have to do this to try and help soothe her/calm her down. 

remlap235

Thank you Ladies !

 My biggest Concern is her hurting her self

I have tried signing with her she was good for a while but then just did not seem interested

She mostly reacts big time to the word NO ,

We are working on it some days it is worse than others ,

Thank you all for the help