Thinking about baby #2...

liz1562

My husband and I have a beautiful 9 month (almost 10 month) old baby boy.  We started talking about having a second child and decided that instead of "planning" and stressing about it, I would go off the pill and whenever it happens, it happens.  We were both excited about the decision and decided to share it with our parents (he must have also mentioned it to his sister).  At Thanksgiving last week, his sister said to me, "Are you SURE you're ready to be pregnant again?! I loved spacing out the kiddos!"  I was taken aback a bit.  Since that comment, I have been thinking about it non stop.  Then, a few days ago, my son came down with his first fever and nasty chest cold, at the same time that my dog came down with the flu.  Needless to say, my house was a mess and I was exhausted from being up with both of them.  My husband is so excited for us to be pregnant again, now I'm worried if we can handle a new baby.  Ugh! So much for not stressing!! LOL   

heather_09_15_07

Wow your husband told everyone y'all were having unprotected sex?

Mysterious_wife

I would put his balls in a jar for making that announcement. 

liz1562

Thank you! Just a little piece if mind helped! :-)

EmR22

If it's what you want you will find a way to handle it. It may take adjustment and a "crappy" period until you figure it out but I guarantee you will. 

As far as spacing........My DD2 and DD3 were 20 months apart. At 4 and 6 now they are best buds. And only one school year apart. There are 4 years between DD3 and DS and it's nice because I have the older kids to "help" get diapers etc. but it kind of sucks starting back with diapers and no sleeping again. I forgot how much that part of babies sucked. 

Sure with more kids it gets messy and there is more sickness to spread around but don't let someone's comment deter you if it's what you want. I think it's really easy to overthink it. 

DiveFrog

Just my perspective on spacing, because ultimately people and kids and families are all different so what works well for one family doesn't for another. 

DD didn't STTN until around 11months, and was a high needs baby and we both work full-time. I didn't even start to recover from the year long sleep deprivation until DD was around 13-14months and I nursed her until 15months. After I weaned DD at 15 months, DH and & I started to think about number 2. DD had finally started to get easier and I sincerely thought I would be happy to be pregnant again. Thank god I didn't get pregnant then because now at 18months DD is in true toddler mode. I came home last night and DD basically moved from one meltdown to another and in between was pushing boundaries as best she could. She is teething again also so her sleep isn't the best again. Needless to say we have reassessed our decision and are going to now most likely wait another 6 months before we ttc. Honestly, I would wait until she is 3 and potty trained and through most of the toddler stages, but we have age (mine) and other factors that don't give us that luxury.   

mom2aprincesspie

We have a 4 year old little girl and I was only 25 when I got pregnant so we wanted to wait till either she was in kindergarten or till we were more financially secure to have a second. Since then, which is now been 4 years, we are considering that now might be a good time to start trying.I just had a leep procedure done but it makes me excited to think about having number 2. I did however VERY Much enjoy all the alone time I have and still get just one on one with my daughter. I am nervous about "splitting" my attention when we finally do have baby #2. Good Luck!!!

PunkyBooster

There are pros and cons to both. Ds will be at least 4 years older than #2 but we are doing a wait and see with #3 and I'm hoping for 2u2. You'll be just fine but I do hope the babe and dog are on the mend.

PS. A sick dog is worse than a sick kid IMO!!