Poor 3rd child: a circumcision question

Meery82

WashingtonQueen said:

cfwesolowski said:

My son was born premature at 29 weeks, I had already decided he would be circumcised  before he was born. Done deal, get that taken care of while he's young and never look back. I made this decision for numerous reasons and the first is probably really selfish and maybe a little offensive to some but here it is: because I broke up with every guy I ever dated once I found out he was not circumcised. As a woman it just totally grossed me out, it was weird, I could not deal. I mean I broke up with the guy who was sweeping me off my feet because I could not handle that.. I didn't want my son to go through that one day. I realize super trivial, and for all I know he might meet a girl who loves a  guy with foreskin and she can be pissed at me for having him circumcised. But probably not gonna happen. My BFF-her husband was the first man she was ever with who was circumcised.. so I mean we are all different, but she did like his cash n prizes more than the other guys lol 

 

I am 100% totally ok with a woman breaking up with any of my sons because he is not circumcised. At least he gets to find out sooner rather than later that she is not worth his time and he can find someone who actually deserves him.

Completely agree.

How ridiculous. My younger brother is uncircumcised and he doesn't seem to have any problem with girls. 

JesseKhloe&Me

We didn't circ our twin boys. All the right reasons for us. It's a personal choice. You will make the right one

PrimRoseMama

PPPPPPPEEEEEEENNNIIIIIS CRUSADERS!!!!


Carry on.

PrimRoseMama

joules235 said:

about time for some gifs @PrimRoseMama

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BrookieAsh47

Since so many others have voiced their opinions for it in regards to religion, I'm going to voice my opinion against it for religious reasons.
We have decided not to have our son circumcised, not only because there isn't enough substantial medical reasons for it, but also because of our religion. We are pagan (don't judge if you don't know) and changing the way our gods and goddesses have made us would be wrong in our eyes.
Some religions support it, but not all religions do.

rowanthefrog

Really this is a 6 of one, half dozen of the other issue. You will read all sorts of scare tactics about circumcising...yes, there can be complications, but there can be complications as well if you don't. I think these complications on both sides are pretty rare. 

On the FOR side there is evidence to show that boys/men who are circ'd have a slightly lower risk of contracting HIV and other STDs. The American Academy of Pediatrics issued a report in August 2013 essentially saying that the benefits of circucision outweigh the risks:

https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/130/3/e756.full?sid=bd9574fb-4575-4d35-a46e-a63394e68331

One the AGAINST side it is technically unnecessary surgery on a very sensitive area. There is the issue of "choice" and whether or not your baby should be able to choose to have this when he is old enough to make that decision on his own. 

However, a circumcision on an older child/teenager/man is a bigger deal than doing it on a newborn. I have one friend who didn't circ her son and when he was 14 he decided he wanted to do it on his own because he was embarassed that his penis looked different. I think more and more boys are un-circed these days so hopefully that is less of an issue, but its impossible to look 14 yrs into the future to know how your son will feel about his penis then.

If you decide to do it, make sure you request and that they give your son some numbing creme, local anathesia or something stronger than sugar water. It can hurt them, though it doesn't always. The healing takes about a week. Request a loose circumcision, they shouldn't take too much off so that later on, when he has an erection its not too tight or painful for him.

Both my sons are circ'd and I will circ this one as well. I left the decision up to my husband and he decided to do it. I don't think he did much research into it and in retrospect I wish that I had...I'm not sure if I would have done it or not. But its a done deal now.

At the end of it all, its a personal decision and a personal preference. I hate the scare tactics used on both sides of it. The reality is that most men will not have an issue with being circ'd or not. Go with what feels right to you and hopefully it will all work out.

A

zou bisou

cfwesolowski said:

I made this decision for numerous reasons and the first is probably really selfish and maybe a little offensive to some but here it is: because I broke up with every guy I ever dated once I found out he was not circumcised. As a woman it just totally grossed me out, it was weird, I could not deal. I mean I broke up with the guy who was sweeping me off my feet because I could not handle that.

Interesting.  I'd never through of not circumcising for extra insurance against a guy spending his time with someone so silly and shallow.  That's one more point in the no-circ column if you ask me.

Meery82

cfwesolowski said:

Meery82 said:

WashingtonQueen said:

cfwesolowski said:

My son was born premature at 29 weeks, I had already decided he would be circumcised  before he was born. Done deal, get that taken care of while he's young and never look back. I made this decision for numerous reasons and the first is probably really selfish and maybe a little offensive to some but here it is: because I broke up with every guy I ever dated once I found out he was not circumcised. As a woman it just totally grossed me out, it was weird, I could not deal. I mean I broke up with the guy who was sweeping me off my feet because I could not handle that.. I didn't want my son to go through that one day. I realize super trivial, and for all I know he might meet a girl who loves a  guy with foreskin and she can be pissed at me for having him circumcised. But probably not gonna happen. My BFF-her husband was the first man she was ever with who was circumcised.. so I mean we are all different, but she did like his cash n prizes more than the other guys lol 

 

I am 100% totally ok with a woman breaking up with any of my sons because he is not circumcised. At least he gets to find out sooner rather than later that she is not worth his time and he can find someone who actually deserves him.

Completely agree.

How ridiculous. My younger brother is uncircumcised and he doesn't seem to have any problem with girls. 

And that's awesome for your sons and I'm glad you both did what was best for you sons. Like I said, pretty insignificant reason on my part. Me personally, not that I've been around a bunch of penises my whole life or anything, but I just never knew any different till I was finishing college, and by then I guess I had developed a preference? IDK. I know it's silly and ridiculous, but it just totally freaks me out. I'm sure your sons won't have any issues and will be total ladies men and that's awesome and good for them and for you, you made a totally valid decision. But don't bash me and my way of thinking or feeling because of YOUR decision and the way you HOPE your son's lives will go. I don't care if your kids or husbands or brothers or fathers are cir'd or not.. I just care that my son and my husband are.. Everyone's cash and prizes looks different, even the female parts do, it is what it is. Take it or leave it, but don't be upset with ME or make backhanded comments because of your belief.   

There was nothing backhanded about my comment. You're ridiculous. You shared your opinion and I shared mine. Simple as that. I can't speak for Washington, but my response was not about whether or not we chose to circumcise. We actually chose to (oh wait, you don't care). My response was about how shallow and backwards it is to disregard a man who has the little bit of extra skin that he was born with.

Meery82

golfergirl08 said:

zou bisou said:

cfwesolowski said:

I made this decision for numerous reasons and the first is probably really selfish and maybe a little offensive to some but here it is: because I broke up with every guy I ever dated once I found out he was not circumcised. As a woman it just totally grossed me out, it was weird, I could not deal. I mean I broke up with the guy who was sweeping me off my feet because I could not handle that.

Interesting.  I'd never through of not circumcising for extra insurance against a guy spending his time with someone so silly and shallow.  That's one more point in the no-circ column if you ask me.

Right, because everyone circumcising should be lumped into the same category as this person.

Not positive, but I don't think she meant it that way.

Nikgoss11

Ok.. I have read through all 3 pages of this BS and first off cannot believe how someone asking a simple question has turned into this. Anyways, I am going to back up the lady who said she got her son done because she personally didn't like uncirced penis. I got my sons done because I didn't want them being made fun of in the locker room at school because their penis looked different or having girls run off because they didn't know what the hell was going on. I did it for them at a day old because that way they wouldn't have to make the choice when they were 16. How can they miss something they never knew they had until much later in life? So yes, I probably made a selfish decision based on my own thoughts but o well.. every decision for my child is made by me until they are old enough to know better, how is this any different?

Giraffealaff

Out of curiosity, how many no-circ parents are STM's? Do any of you have daughters? Are their ears pierced? When did that happen and did they ask for it, or did you choose to go and have theirs ears pierced before they were old enough to make a choice about it? How is this any different? Aren't you physically (and sometimes painfully) altering their bodies?

WashingtonQueen

Scromlette said:

Out of curiosity, how many no-circ parents are STM's? Do any of you have daughters? Are their ears pierced? When did that happen and did they ask for it, or did you choose to go and have theirs ears pierced before they were old enough to make a choice about it? How is this any different? Aren't you physically (and sometimes painfully) altering their bodies?

Currently a mother of 4, 3 boys and a girl. All boys are intact. Girl will not have her ears pierced until she asks for it.

karelaorange

Wow, I can't believe this thread is still happening.  

I am still undecided, though leaning one way.  I started this thread because I was so divided and I was really curious how others have come to make this decision.

What I find most shocking is that the reasons for or against are so often based on such (in my opinion) poor reasoning.  I think there are really valid reasons either way, such as religion, STDs, personal choice, etc.  But so they match their father?  Would any of you care if your vagina matched your mothers?  I find it creepy to even consider that the state of my vagina would be somehow linked to my mothers.

Or asthetics?  What absurd reasons!  

I do think it's an important decision, though I happen to feel it doesn't have a clear cut answer (some of you clearly feel it does).  I do think everyone should make their own decision, but please do so for thoughtful reasons.  Sheesh.

Meery82

Jesus, this thread will never die.

WashingtonQueen

Meery82 said:

Jesus, this thread will never die.

I thought the hospital gown thread would never die.

Meery82

WashingtonQueen said:

Meery82 said:

Jesus, this thread will never die.

I thought the hospital gown thread would never die.

Ugh, I know!

Meery82

eagle+eyed said:

Hi all, sorry didn't realize I couldn't comment on a controversial topic after there hadn't been any replies in a certain time frame, enlighten me, what's that time frame? So as to avoid the rude comments after giving the OP answers directed to their personal question... guess I didn't realize commenting on a day old conversation was taboo, but hey, I'm new here :P

Did I say you weren't allowed to post? And what exactly was so rude? Quit trying to stir up shit.

PrimRoseMama

WashingtonQueen said:

Scromlette said:

Out of curiosity, how many no-circ parents are STM's? Do any of you have daughters? Are their ears pierced? When did that happen and did they ask for it, or did you choose to go and have theirs ears pierced before they were old enough to make a choice about it? How is this any different? Aren't you physically (and sometimes painfully) altering their bodies?

Currently a mother of 4, 3 boys and a girl. All boys are intact. Girl will not have her ears pierced until she asks for it.


My Daughter's ears are not pierced.
My son is in tact.

zou bisou

Scromlette said:

Out of curiosity, how many no-circ parents are STM's? Do any of you have daughters? Are their ears pierced? When did that happen and did they ask for it, or did you choose to go and have theirs ears pierced before they were old enough to make a choice about it? How is this any different? Aren't you physically (and sometimes painfully) altering their bodies?

Son is intact. Daughter's ears will not be pierced unless she wants them to be.

If that was supposed to be a "gotcha" kind of question, sorry @scromlette. No dice.

Giraffealaff

@zou bisou

No, not a gotcha, just an honest question to see why its okay to excuse one type of pain but not another. I was actually curious if those who are anti-circ stick to their guns on all levels of modification and so far the few of you who answered the question have stated that you choose not to circ and you choose not to pierce. 

NoelyH

My Husband is not Circumcised his father and little brother are it has made no difference to him growing up looking natural. When we had our first son I was unsure what we should do in the end I left it up to dad to decide even though I had much pressure to have it done by my mother needles to say my son is all intact like he should be and so is his brother everyone we know with boys there circumcised and our boys aren't I'm fine with that. I have to say from a sexual experience the penis is more sensitive then a circumcised one. 

If you want to know how terrifying it could be watch this https://youtu.be/MUTcwqR4Q4Y

A circumcision gone wrong 

I'm fore what ever you want to do but I couldn't even bring my self to watch a baby be circumcised on YouTube its to barbaric even by today's standards. I feel if were born with it leave. Also you can tell if a uncircumcised male is a virgin just like a female theirs a piece of skin frenulum that is attached to the foreskin and penis and it will eventually brake like the hymen on a female.

Meery82

NoelyH said:

My Husband is not Circumcised his father and little brother are it has made no difference to him growing up looking natural. When we had our first son I was unsure what we should do in the end I left it up to dad to decide even though I had much pressure to have it done by my mother needles to say my son is all intact like he should be and so is his brother everyone we know with boys there circumcised and our boys aren't I'm fine with that. I have to say from a sexual experience the penis is more sensitive then a circumcised one. 

If you want to know how terrifying it could be watch this https://youtu.be/MUTcwqR4Q4Y

A circumcision gone wrong 

I'm fore what ever you want to do but I couldn't even bring my self to watch a baby be circumcised on YouTube its to barbaric even by today's standards. I feel if were born with it leave. Also you can tell if a uncircumcised male is a virgin just like a female theirs a piece of skin frenulum that is attached to the foreskin and penis and it will eventually brake like the hymen on a female.

Oh, ok. I assume you're going to tell us that a girl is no longer a virgin if she uses tampons? And unless you have a penis yourself, you don't know which is more sensitive. That's totally subjective.

And thanks for the 45 minute video.