Just got BFP on digital... History of m/c and chemical pregnancy... Just looking for support

Erin0303

Just got a 1-2 week pregnant positive result on digital clear blue, with a history of m/c at 6 weeks and last month a chemical pregnancy. I really want this one to stick. I'm kind of on a limited time schedule because of my age at 35 and my husband doesn't want me going through all the drastic up and downs of TTC. I won't be telling him until I'm a few more weeks, based on his "cautiously optimistic" attitude and he won't let himself get excited until a baby is born (miscarriage and bad stories with friends, etc) I get it but I need support and want to know what kind of stories moms have had which might be similar. I can't get in to see my obgyn until late next week and have a history of low hcg and borderline progesterone levels with each of the past 2 pregnancies. I have a happy, healthy toddler. Any advice or support I will indulge!

jenandtim828

I haven't been in your situation but welcome and good luck. You're pregnant right now so try to enjoy it. I'm sure that's easier said than done, but I've heard other ladies say it and I remind myself of it whenever I'm feeling scared. I hope this is your sticky baby!

TeacherVicky

Congratulations!

I had two m/c's before having DS1. The PgAL (Pregnant After a Loss) board is an excellent source of support from women who are going through the same thing. I definitely recommend making an intro there.

Erin0303

TeacherVicky thanks for the heads up! I will check it out and I hope this sticks too... I hope to be able to stay posting on this area of the board

PrimRoseMama

The best to you.

I have to say this & please hear me out. I know your husband is less than excited & possibly not ready to hear your good news, but Heaven forbid something happen this time around? He really deserves to know. It's his baby too & you need his support as much as he is able to give it. Even if not as much as you feel you need from him. My husband would be devastated if I kept a pregnancy from him. Please consider telling him before too long.

I hope this baby is a take-home baby for you.

Erin0303

I know. I just want to see the doctor first and get my levels tested to at least see any increase. The last time I told him I was pregnant last month his response was asking me why I decided to test so early (broke my heart a little). He can be on the pessimistic side unless proven otherwise, which is why I know he will be very excited when I am further along. He's a very good dad and husband. I know he will be a better support for the type of emotional support I need later on in the pg were likely talking weeks). I had no issues conceiving the first time with my toddler who is 4. I just want it to work out and stick. It's also tough because I've been in transition with a new ogbyn because my old one left her practice that I've been slipping throughout the cracks. I di appreciate your thoughts and understand.

LuluPMW

With your history I find it hard to believe your OB can't see you earlier. Did you remind them of your history when you booked the appointment? You might have to advocate for yourself and baby. You could also ask for a referral to an RE who will monitor your first trimester more closely.

Erin0303

Since my original OB left the remaining OB has been apparently swamped and unless got a positive test, they couldn't get me in until early Jan. It's been tough. And I travel for work which is added stress about trying to time BD, but it has worked a few times now. I leave for out of town Monday thru Thursday. Technically the nurse said I'm not an established patient if the remaining OB, so they have to treat me as a new patient. I'm not all together happy about it but now that I got another positive I'm hoping to get in Friday for labs. Neither by previous OB or my PCP (which I had to see last CP) put me on progesterone but levels have both been low borderline.

mtrhomegirl

i have also had a history of m/c i would recommend calling your dr.ASAP and they should get you in for blood tests.  After i got my blood tests done i was put on progesterone supplements since my numbers were a little low.  I stayed on those till 10 - 11 weeks and now i am 13 weeks along:)  Good Luck!!!
 

rowanthefrog

Hi,

Early congrats and big hugs. I've also had several early miscarriages, but I'm currently pregnant with my third healthy child. So there is hope! I hope this is your sticky take home baby!

A

Erin0303

update: just experienced a CP. Hello AF. It's a repeat of last month. So disheartened.

Meery82

Erin0303 said:

update: just experienced a CP. Hello AF. It's a repeat of last month. So disheartened.

Sorry to hear this.

kd&cd

I'm sorry