I need some reassurance!!!

alijeff2313

I have been off work for 14 weeks and I start back on Monday. I work in the city and take the bus, so I am gone 11 hours a day. My MIL is watching my LO so I know she will be in good hands. I know this is normal and every mother goes through it, but I can't help feeling extremely guilty. I am so afraid I am going to miss everything. Her rolling over, saying her first words, starting to crawl. I may be acting selfish, but I don't want my MIL to see these first. She is one of those MILs that will rub it in my face whether she means to or not. I knew going back to work would be hard, but not this hard. Any advice to make this transition easier??

CupcakecutieRN

No advice but I feel the same way. I've been back to work 5 weeks now and it gets a little bit easier each week but I still feel like I'm missing everything. The really nice thing that daycare does and I have told my mil and mom the same is that if Emma does anything new I don't want to know about it, that way it's the first time when I see it. Hope that helps!

CaliforniaDream87

I go back on Monday, officially. It's bittersweet. I'm excited to be a working mother and I'm also sad to have to leave my baby. I just keep reminding myself that my mother went to work and I have always looked up to her. She was my hero and I knew I wanted to be just like her when I grew up. My son will be in great hands and when I'm not at work I will spend every moment with him.

Hang in there and GL to the both of us!

WildRumpus

Just remind yourself that even if you miss something, when you DO see it, it will still be the first time you're experiencing seeing your LO do something new and amazing. Good luck!

FeetFirst

As pp have said, our daycare is really good about not telling us about "firsts". I didn't catch on to them with DS until he had been pulling up on things and walking holding on for a week at home and one day his daily report sheet sd something like " it looks like J might start pulling up soon!" And I was like "what? He has been doing that for a while now" and then I realized I had not TOLD his teachers he was doing this new trick for US yet. They were hinting that he had a new trick, lol. It was so sweet and I realized looking back they had always waited for us... I would say "J rolled over!" And they would be so happy, and then his reports would say J is rolling all over the place now! lol

It gets easier everyday... Three days back this week and we were already getting our groove.

LJUTCMommy

I just finished my second week back. Honestly, the stress and anxiety I had about returning to work was much worse than actually going back.

I highly recommend doing as much the night before as you can--choosing clothing, making bottles, packing lunch, etc.

I have our nanny send me pics and texts throughout the day plus she has BabyESP so I can see what they're up to all day.

Good luck OP!

alijeff2313

Thank you ladies for the tips! Crossing my fingers it goes smoothly