Have you thought about how early you will announce your pregnancy the next time around? For me, I told my mom right away, before the beta. DH waited until after the beta but I was still less than 5 weeks along. I miscarried at 5 weeks.
My mom knows the ins and outs of everything (our appt schedules and what not) so I know that when the day finally comes with another BFP, I'll tell her pretty immediately. DH says he was hesitant to say anything so early last time and this time even more so. I said it's up to him but my question was Ok, what if you don't tell them and we have another miscarriage. You'll never say anything? To me, that's like acting the baby never existed. He said it was a good point and seems to be pondering now.
So, just curious what everyone else feels about this topic. I won't go shouting it to the rooftops when it happens, not until well after the first trimester, but for close family...I feel like I want them to share in my joy.
Our Novel of TTC:
*Male Factor (low count and low motility), High Prolactin, and Polycystic Ovaries (March 2013)
*Recurrent Miscarriage testing also revealed high anti-phospholipids & single MTHFR mutation. (Feb 2014)
*IVF (07/2013): BFP-Natural Miscarriage @ 5 weeks* Madison Riley *FET #1 (10/2013): BFN *FET #2 (12/2013)- BFP-Missed Miscarriage at 8 weeks Kyle Andrew *Chromosomes and Karotyping tests were both normal.We lost a healthy baby boy *FET #3 (04/2014) was cancelled after finding Chronic Endometritis
*Miraculous BFP July 2014!! (I was taking baby aspirin and Cabergoline to stay regulated while "taking a break from TTC" and waiting to consult with a reproductive immunologist!!!)
Our healthy baby girl was born 03/10/15 thanks to daily Lovenox injections and baby aspirin. There are no words for how grateful I am for our rainbow baby.
I think the sharing in the joy part is very important - but it is also important to me to have a few folks, besides my husband, to help share in the loss if there is one.
This is where I am right now. DH and I shared right away the last time. It really sucked when we had to tell every one we weren't pregnant. We are waiting until after our first ultrasound at 7 weeks to tell anyone. God willing.
Thanksgiving was really hard yesterday. DH said he was bursting at the seams to say something.
36 DH 33 TTC for over 3 years First mini-IVF Sept 2011... Only 1 egg! ... BFN Switching RE IVF#2 May 2012 9 eggs and only 2 sperm, WTH! BFN
IVF #3 March 2013~Tesa with back-up Donor Sperm,Tesa, unsuccessful used DS~ Chemical
Switching RE's within practice
2 frosties waiting for us, November 2013!!!!! Transferred 2 "average" blasts 11/20/2013
I'm in beta hell now and we had told our parents. Because of our previous cp m/c they understand what beta hell is and why I was a bit more emotional yesterday because of it. I am close to my parents so I need them to know and understand. But I know if I wasn't or if they had said hurtful things last time to me we wouldn't have told them.
We told our family right away and the only person I regretted after the m/c was my BIL and his fiance. Well, mostly the fiance. We've decided that we will tell my mom and sister and his mom after a confirmed 2nd beta... all other family after we see and hear a healthy heartbeat. I would definetly need the support of my mom and sister if something were to happen again.
If we are ever lucky enough to get PG again, which is highly unlikely, we won't tell anyone, including our family, until it's physically overly-obvious that there is a baby in my belly. Seriously. Not one day sooner. I would probably deny being PG until after the baby was born. For real.
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Me: 42, Hubby: 35, TTC since Jan 2010. Dx: DOR due to advanced maternal age.
Also: Hypothyroidism (100mcg Levothyroxin). Positive for MTHFR (hetero-C677T), Factor V Leiden, and Fragile X (on DH side). Taking pre-natal vitamins. First natural PG 9/27/11; mc: 1/20/12 First RE visit: 8/8/12, Saline Sonogram: 8/28/12, IVF injection class: 10/11/12, add FaBB Tab for FVL, +Vitamin D. IVF #1:
10/17/12 Baseline: FSH- 9.4, E2- 24, LH- 3.7, Prog- 0.3 The u/s
showed 6 follicles in my right & 9 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle &
150 Menopur SQ nightly. 10/21/12: Add Ganirelix SQ every morning.
ER 10/28/12: 13 Retreived. 7 Mature. 6 Fertilized. 5 Made it to PGS. ET
11/2/12: CANCELED. All 5 came back from PGS as having "severe
abnormalities." IVF #2:
1/7/13 Baseline: FSH- 8.8, 4 follicles in my right & 6 in my left.
Rx: 150 Bravelle & 150 Menopur SQ nightly. 1/11/13: Add Ganirelix SQ every
morning. hCG Trigger 1/16/13
ER 1/18/13: 9 Retrieved. 5 Mature. 5 Fertilized. 2 Made it to PGS. ET 1/23/13:
CANCELED. All embryos (he even sent the ones not growing) came back from PGS as
having "multiple severe abnormalities." IVF #3: NEW RE! 3/1/13 Baseline: FSH- 9.6, E2- 61, Prog- 0.94, 3
follicles in my right & 4 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle& 150
Menopur SQ in PM. 3/7/13: Add Ganirelix SQ in AM. hCG Trigger 3/9/13 SQ. ER 3/11/13: 6R, 2M, 2F. Day 3: one 8 cell, grade 0. Five day ET 3/16/13: one
early blast, grade Fair. 3/24/13 AF came a day before beta. BFN IVF #4:(Added acupuncture to this cycle.) 3/25/13 WTF & Baseline:
FSH-11.8, E2- 56, Prog- 0.84 3/26/13 Start stims. 3/30/13 u/s: 5
follicles in my right & 4 in my left. Rx: 225 Bravelle& 225
Menopur SQ in PM. 3/31/13 Add Ganirelix SQ in AM.hCG Trigger 4/3/13 SQ. ER 4/5/13: 5R, 3M, 3F naturally. Day 3: two 8 cell, grade 0, one 8 cell, grade 2
(Scale 0-best to 3-worst). Five day ET 4/10/13: two blastocysts (the 3rd
stopped growing.) Beta 4/18/13: 2.5 BFFN. RE recommends we stop trying and
focus on living childless, due to the extremely poor quality of my
eggs. ***Decided
to stop trying and live CFNBC. I couldn't adjust. So, six months later... IVF #5: Changed RE. Going to one of the big name clinics now.
OWDU: 10/29/13. Update: HORRIBLE experience. Disgusted and distraught at their complete unprofessionalism and how much money and precious time they cost us. Sickening. Have now changed RE again. New Patient appt. 1/30/14. BFP! Out of nowhere, I got KU the old fashioned way! POAS 1/26/14 - Positive! FDLM 12/30/13. Beta #1 16dpo= 373. Beta #2 18dpo= 801. EDD 10/6/14 2/4/14 1st U/S revealed a 5wk2day sac but no fetal pole. Started 200mgs of progesterone suppositories daily 2/11/14 2nd U/S revealed a perfect 6wk1day "diamond ring" embryo with a beating heart! 138bpm! Add 1mg folic acid and 40mg Lovenox 2/25/14 3rd U/S: perfect 8w1d embryo, 178bpm. 3/6 start spotting. 3/11 10w1d U/S shows no heartbeat. Scheduling D&C. The Stork has forsaken me again. IVF #5.2: New in-state RE. Supplement priming for 1.5 cycles prior to start of cycle, including DHEA 50mg (stopped 5/15), CoQ10 200mg 2x/day, L-Arginine- 1000mg 2x/day (stopped 6/5 due to cold sore!), myo-inositol- 2g 2x/day, melatonin- 3mg, and Neevo (prenatal for MTHFR). 5/16/14 Day 2 bw cycle prior: FSH- 12.22, E2- 38.37, Prog- 1.35, LH- 9.46. 6/2/14 Day 19 bw: Prog- 23 6/12/14 Baseline: E2- 122.7, Prog- 0.4. 5 follicles in left, 4 follicles in right. Start stims: 375IU Follistim & 150IU Menopur. 6/19 Increase Follistim to 425IU, Menopur still 150IU. 6/18 add Ganirelix. 6/23 Ovidrel trigger SQ. 6/25 ER: 8R, 8M, 5F naturally. Start Medrol & Doxy. 6/26 Start Endometrin. 7/2 Start Lovenox. 7/8/14 Beta= 137.4 BFP!!! (My first from IVF!) E2- 1109, Prog- >60. Stop CoQ10, myo-inositol, and melatonin. 7/9 2nd Beta= 281.4. TSH- 2.70. Increasing Synthroid to 100mcg daily. 7/24 6w3d u/s measured 6w3d, hb: 121bmp! 8/5 8w1d u/s measured 8w3d, hb: 164bpm! Graduated from RE to OB. Now I just need to find an OB! EDD 3/18/15!
If we are ever lucky enough to get PG again, which is highly unlikely, we won't tell anyone, including our family, until it's physically overly-obvious that there is a baby in my belly. Seriously. Not one day sooner. I would probably deny being PG until after the baby was born. For real.
I feel the same way. DH thinks I am crazy but I just don't know if I could celebrate until the baby was safe and in my arms.
TTC#1 since April 2011 IVF#1 July 2012 5R, 3 made it to blast, sET c/p FET#1 Aug 2012 2 blasts transferred BFN IVF#2 Oct 2012 16R/6M/6F/2-8 cell grade 1 transfer Beta 1-237.9, Beta 2-566, Beta 3-8657 US 6w3d shows one baby w/ HB 115 US 7w1d no more heartbeat/ D&C 11/30/12 normal karyotype IVF#3 Mar 2013 6R/4M/4F 1 compacting and 2-8 cell transfer ectopic pg MTX given 3 month break from TTC
IVF#4 Sept 2013--BFN IVF#5-7 Apr 2014, Jun 2014 and Aug 2014 banking embryos for CCS testing. Praying for normals!
ive never had a mc but ive always felt the best time is like weeklyplanner said around 12-14 weeks. i live with my inlaws and i really need some privacy during my cycle because its hectic and overwhelming enough as it is, i wouldnt want anyone else asking me questions all the time.
plus idk if any of you feel this way, but i kind of feel like if i tell too early i will kind of be made fun of? idk.. ive seen some random friends or people ive heard of that have announced their pregnancy (whether it was natural or ART bfp) right away. and they have gotten some sarcastic and rude comments from some people saying ohh u probably rolled out of bed after BD'ing and announced it. and i dont want to feel sorry for me if that makes sense. to say "awww it was so hard for her so shes too excited to keep it in lol"
only ppl i would tell right away is u girls, because only IF ppl understand the ups and downs of this journey.
**SIGGY TICKER WARNING**
Me: 27 High FSH (POF?) DH: 33 Slightly Low Morphology / Married Aug '08TTC since 7/2009 6 rounds of clomid = no luck IVF w/ ICSI & AZH #1 - Jan/2011 = ET cancelled OHSS FET #1 & #2 - March/2011 & June/2011 = Chemical Preg. IVF w/ Half ICSI #2 New RE - May/2012 = BFN! May '12 - Sep '13 - Took A Break Dec '13 IVF w/ Half ICSI #3!!!!! Switched RE Protocol - Lupron trigger/Follistim/Ganirelix/Estrace/Vivelle/Crinone
12/27 - BFP! TWINS! EDD 9/3/14 ...Team PURPLE! 6/27/14 - Emergency C/S @ 30w2d - Baby A 2lb 14oz, Baby B 2lb 11 oz
If we are ever so fortunate again, I think I will tell only my dad, my sisters immediately and a few very close friends after a couple reassuring betas.
I'm thinking my husband will probably want to do the same
Me (32) DOR, elevated NK Cells/ 2 copies of MTHFR mutation/ MH (35) azoo/high DFI
(TTC#1 since 2009)
IVFs#1-4: (4/10-2/12) all BFN
Surprise Bfp (9/11) - c/p
DS IUI#1-2 (9/12, 10/12) - BFN
DS IVF: (11/12) - BFN
DE/DS IVF#1: (10/13) - 2 day 3 embies transferred-BFFN
FET of 2 day 6 blasts: (12/13) - c/p
DE/DS IVF #2: (4/14) - 1 day 5 blast transferred...BFFN...again.
FET 5/14: 1 day 5 hatching blast transferred...another BFFN
I had 2 back to back I was nervous about announcing 2nd time but I did at beta with only DH mom and my mom and bf. at 5 weeks I mc and its hard to deal with so next time around ill probably do this again hopefully it sticks but it was nice to have close support again
Me: 28, DH: 30
TTC since March 2012 PCO & MTHFR Homozygous/Severe MFI (undescended teste & double hernia as baby)
I miscarried at six and told a lot of my close coworkers and family and close friends. I won't do that again... Just my dad and DHs dad and maybe two BF and my sisters. Everyone else can wait till I'm out if first tri
Me 34 and DH 39 married in aug. 2002
Did 5 round of clomid 2010 =BFN
High levels of NK CELLS DX sept.2012 DOR:# 0.02
IVF #1 May 2012 ER 4, EF 2, ET 2 =BFN
MINI IVF Oct.2012 Cancelled 10-27-12
Ivf #3 Antagonist Protocol April 2013
Shared cycle..Donor cycled in July Got 12 eggs 9 fertilized and 8 frozen!!
DE FET #1 Sept. 3rd 2013 FIRST BFP EVER 5dp5dt
miscarried Sept 24th at 5 weeks 5 days
Etopic D&C and hysterscopy Nov 5 2013
dx with pre genetic blood clotting dec 2013
FET #2 Jan 31st 2014
Miscarried for a second time again at 5 weeks 5 days
Currently fostering to adopt an amazing little 1 year old boy..P.J!
If we are ever lucky enough to get PG again, which is highly unlikely, we won't tell anyone, including our family, until it's physically overly-obvious that there is a baby in my belly. Seriously. Not one day sooner. I would probably deny being PG until after the baby was born. For real.
I feel the same way. DH thinks I am crazy but I just don't know if I could celebrate until the baby was safe and in my arms.
I haven't had a mc but I agree with this. DH doesn't fully agree but I'm hoping if/when the time comes, he will be supportive of my decision to wait.
TTC #1 Since May 2011 ~ Everyone Welcome
Me (34): DOR d/t chemo/radiation, Immature Endometrial Lining, Hypothyroidism
DH (35): MFI d/t testicular torsion and removal, Low T, Oligospermia, Anti-Sperm Antibodies, Currently on T supplements Sept '11-April '13 ~ Testing, failed multiple MFI treatments, saving & TONS of praying January 2014 ~ IVF/ICSI & PGS ~ no response to stims ~ converted to IUI ~ BFN February 2014 ~ On to donor embyros ~ 5 blasts!!! March 2014 ~ FET #1 ~ Transferred 2 blasts ~ BFN July 2014 ~ Kliman's mock cycle with endometrial function test Sample too small for EFT, HE slide showed immature cells New protocol planned, saving for another biopsy for EFT January 2015 ~ Considering adoption options April 2015 ~ Privately arranged adoption of planned pregnancy DD#1 ~ Lillyana Violet Marie born 6/15/16, Finalized adoption 12/20/16 July 13, 2018 ~ BFP....WTF?!?! 7/16 Beta #1 ~ 466...7/18 Beta #2 ~ 1,077...7/23 Beta #3 ~ 5,291 7/23 US #1 ~ 1 gestational sac seen and yolk sac 7/30 US #2 and 1st OB appt ~ 1 perfectly round gestational sac, 1 perfect yolk sac and 1 teeny tiny heart beat seen!!!
The first bfp we told our moms who unfortunately didn't keep the secret very well. It was so hard when people I hardly knew came up and asked questions after the loss. The second bfp we told my mom but not mil. I told my three closest girlfriends too since if need their support if things are good or bad. The first time I knew something was wrong because my symptoms disappeared. The second I had no symptoms from the beginning so it didn't even seem real. We were just about to start telling people because the first u/s was so great and I was almost 10 weeks. This time around I don't think anyone but my mom and three girlfriends will know until at least 14-15 weeks.
TTC since 3/2011 Adenomyosis, LPD, hypothyroidism.
BFP on 7/20/12 after 4 cycles Clomid + IUI
2 large subchorionic hematomas & no heartbeat at 7w6d
D&E 8/18/12 Sonohysterography found septum and necrotic tissue.
For me, I did not tell my family until the day I found out I was going to miscarry (family meaning dad, mom, very close aunt) and I regret that I took the joy that they could have shared with me for 3 weeks. This time, I will tell them after beta or second Beta... Depending on the numbers.
I waited until almost 10 weeks to tell my family, on Thanksgiving last year. I miscarried 3 days later and while I thought that it would be something I wanted to discuss with my family, I didn't. If I were to get pregnant again, I honestly have no idea what I would do. Logically, I would want to wait until after 12 weeks, but in reality...who knows. I hate the thought of letting my previous miscarriage ruin the first trimester of a future pregnancy, but I know I will be too nervous to ever relax and enjoy it the way I would want to.
Me 36 with endometriosis, PCOS, fibroid and ovulation issues, DH 40 TTC #1 since 04/12, BFP 10/12. Missed MC/D&C at 10 weeks 11/12 TTC #2 since 12/12 6 clomid cycles since 7/13, all BFN
IUI #1 (2 b2b) with clomid and trigger shot on 1/20/2014 BFN
IUI #2 with arimidex and trigger, B2B IUI's 2/24 and 2/25, BFN IUI #3 with menopur injections and trigger, IUI 3/23, BFN 7 month break
Fibroid surgery 10/14
IVF cycle 1 beginning Nov. 1st...cancelled due to follicle issues. On hold for Dec. due to holidays.
While I've been pregnant four times, I never told anyone other than DH. We were getting ready to tell our parents about the first one and found out it was a missed miscarriage. I'm glad our families don't know about our struggles because although I'm sure they would be supportive, I just don't think I could handle their constant questions and suggestions about what we should be doing or trying.
I don't know when I'd feel comfortable telling anyone if I get pregnant again.
We told our parents after our second beta this time only because I have been talking to them throughout this cycle (as opposed to last ones where we haven't). I know they have been thinking about us & praying for us, so I told them the news, but they also realize it is just one step at a time & we have a long way to go. We won't tell anyone else until 12 weeks, for sure. I just hope and pray that we get to this time!
My TTC Journey:
Dx: Hypothalamic amenorrhea
/ mild PCOS (Pretty much a hormone/ovulatory disorder)
Progesterone to induce period w/ the goal of Clomid - never got period (September 2011). Referred to RE.
Femera - never responded to the meds (December 2011)
Clomid with TI - BFN (February 2012)
Injectables (Menopur) - hyperstimulated/canceled (March 2012)
Injectables #2 (Menopur) with TI- BFN (May 2012)
IVF - OHSS (transfer canceled), but 11 frozen! (June 1012)
FET - 1 transferred on 8/09/12. Beta#1 (11dp5dt): 350.3; Beta#2: 365; Beta#3: 157. Biochemical pregnancy.
FET # 2 - 1 transferred on 11/01/12. Beta#1 (11dp5dt): 337; Beta#2: 769. BFP!!! 1st ultrasound 11/28/12 showed heartbeat, but measuring 5 days behind. 2nd ultrasound 12/05/12 - miscarriage.
FET # 3 - 1 transferred on 1/24/13. Beta#1 (11dp5dt): BFN.
FET # 4 - 2 transferred on 3/21/13. Bet #1 (11dp5dt): 660; Beta#2: 1,300. Miscarried at home @ 6 weeks.
FET # 5 - 2 transferred on 7/12/13. Beta #1 (10dp6dt): BFN. Attempted an IUI in late August 2013, but didn't respond well. IVF #2 with PGS - Stims started 10/28 with retrieval on 11/11. Of 14 mature eggs, 10 fertilized, 4 made it to Day 5 & 1 made it to Day 6. We did PGS on the Day 5 embryos, and 3 of 4 were normal. Had ET on 11/17. Beta #1 (8dp6dt): 203. Beta #2 (10dp6dt): 618. We since had two ultrasounds & on 12/19, our RE released us to the OB. On 1/02/14, we had our first ultrasound with the OB where we heard the heartbeat. We are so thankful for the blessing & crossing every finger & toe for a healthy & successful pregnancy.
We told our immediate families when I knew I was miscarrying... We needed their support- I was a mess.
Next time we have discussed waiting until after the first sonogram with our families and best friends...the rest of the world will know somewhere well into 2nd trimester.
***siggy/ticker warning***
Me:36 DH:38 TTC#1 since 4/2012 Me DX: Hashimotos,Hypothyroid, DOR, MTHFR, DH: normal
IUI #1-#4 BFNs and a few cancelled cycles in the mix. - poor responder ***Suprise BFP on 6/13/13. Natural MC @6wks 3days IVF#1 and 2- Cancelled due to no response on max stimms FET 5/20- BFP 1st Beta- 641 2nd beta- 2166 Sono- TWINS!!!! Two Boys! Born January 2015 @36 weeks. Healthy and no NICU! So blessed!
I just experienced this.It sucked having to rescind good news. I definitely learned my lesson.
Because I am a teacher and I have to have my friends cover me at work when I come in late, a lot of people at work are well aware of what's going on. I'm also really close with my family, so they all know what's going on too.
We were able to move on quickly and my FET is scheduled sooner than most people would expect, so we're just not telling anyone when it's scheduled for. Don't know how soon we'll tell people if we get good news this month, but I'll probably tell my mom before anyone else.
me: 30 DH: 33 Married since 7-20-2012
SMI
IUI w Clomid fail 9/13
started first IVF cycle Menopur and Follistim 10/13
ER 11/4/13
13 E 8 fertilized
5dt 1 blast 5 frozen 11/9/13. 9 day wait w progesterone (Crinone gel)
11/18 BFP! 30 11/20 down to 10 11/22 MC confirmed.
12/11-FET # 1: 2 5 day blasts
12/20: BFP! Beta 1: 396
12/23: Beta 2:1666
12/30: first u/s: twins!
1/7: baby a heartbeat: 117bpm baby b: slower development, heart's beating but too small to hear it.
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First mini-IVF Sept 2011... Only 1 egg! ... BFN
Switching RE
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BFN
Switching RE's within practice
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IUI#4 1/23/13 on 75iu x9 Follistim = BFP then chem preg m/c (Feb 2013)
IUI#5 BFN (April 2013)
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Me: 42, Hubby: 35, TTC since Jan 2010. Dx: DOR due to advanced maternal age. Also: Hypothyroidism (100mcg Levothyroxin). Positive for MTHFR (hetero-C677T), Factor V Leiden, and Fragile X (on DH side). Taking pre-natal vitamins.
First natural PG 9/27/11; mc: 1/20/12
First RE visit: 8/8/12, Saline Sonogram: 8/28/12, IVF injection class: 10/11/12, add FaBB Tab for FVL, +Vitamin D.
IVF #1: 10/17/12 Baseline: FSH- 9.4, E2- 24, LH- 3.7, Prog- 0.3 The u/s showed 6 follicles in my right & 9 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle & 150 Menopur SQ nightly. 10/21/12: Add Ganirelix SQ every morning.
ER 10/28/12: 13 Retreived. 7 Mature. 6 Fertilized. 5 Made it to PGS. ET 11/2/12: CANCELED. All 5 came back from PGS as having "severe abnormalities."
IVF #2: 1/7/13 Baseline: FSH- 8.8, 4 follicles in my right & 6 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle & 150 Menopur SQ nightly. 1/11/13: Add Ganirelix SQ every morning. hCG Trigger 1/16/13
ER 1/18/13: 9 Retrieved. 5 Mature. 5 Fertilized. 2 Made it to PGS. ET 1/23/13: CANCELED. All embryos (he even sent the ones not growing) came back from PGS as having "multiple severe abnormalities."
IVF #3: NEW RE! 3/1/13 Baseline: FSH- 9.6, E2- 61, Prog- 0.94, 3 follicles in my right & 4 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle& 150 Menopur SQ in PM. 3/7/13: Add Ganirelix SQ in AM. hCG Trigger 3/9/13 SQ.
ER 3/11/13: 6R, 2M, 2F. Day 3: one 8 cell, grade 0. Five day ET 3/16/13: one early blast, grade Fair. 3/24/13 AF came a day before beta. BFN
IVF #4: (Added acupuncture to this cycle.) 3/25/13 WTF & Baseline: FSH-11.8, E2- 56, Prog- 0.84 3/26/13 Start stims. 3/30/13 u/s: 5 follicles in my right & 4 in my left. Rx: 225 Bravelle& 225 Menopur SQ in PM. 3/31/13 Add Ganirelix SQ in AM.hCG Trigger 4/3/13 SQ.
ER 4/5/13: 5R, 3M, 3F naturally. Day 3: two 8 cell, grade 0, one 8 cell, grade 2 (Scale 0-best to 3-worst). Five day ET 4/10/13: two blastocysts (the 3rd stopped growing.) Beta 4/18/13: 2.5 BFFN. RE recommends we stop trying and focus on living childless, due to the extremely poor quality of my eggs.
***Decided to stop trying and live CFNBC. I couldn't adjust. So, six months later...
IVF #5: Changed RE. Going to one of the big name clinics now. OWDU: 10/29/13. Update: HORRIBLE experience. Disgusted and distraught at their complete unprofessionalism and how much money and precious time they cost us. Sickening. Have now changed RE again. New Patient appt. 1/30/14.
BFP! Out of nowhere, I got KU the old fashioned way! POAS 1/26/14 - Positive! FDLM 12/30/13. Beta #1 16dpo= 373. Beta #2 18dpo= 801. EDD 10/6/14
2/4/14 1st U/S revealed a 5wk2day sac but no fetal pole. Started 200mgs of progesterone suppositories daily
2/11/14 2nd U/S revealed a perfect 6wk1day "diamond ring" embryo with a beating heart! 138bpm! Add 1mg folic acid and 40mg Lovenox
2/25/14 3rd U/S: perfect 8w1d embryo, 178bpm. 3/6 start spotting. 3/11 10w1d U/S shows no heartbeat. Scheduling D&C. The Stork has forsaken me again.
IVF #5.2: New in-state RE. Supplement priming for 1.5 cycles prior to start of cycle, including DHEA 50mg (stopped 5/15), CoQ10 200mg 2x/day, L-Arginine- 1000mg 2x/day (stopped 6/5 due to cold sore!), myo-inositol- 2g 2x/day, melatonin- 3mg, and Neevo (prenatal for MTHFR).
5/16/14 Day 2 bw cycle prior: FSH- 12.22, E2- 38.37, Prog- 1.35, LH- 9.46. 6/2/14 Day 19 bw: Prog- 23
6/12/14 Baseline: E2- 122.7, Prog- 0.4. 5 follicles in left, 4 follicles in right. Start stims: 375IU Follistim & 150IU Menopur. 6/19 Increase Follistim to 425IU, Menopur still 150IU. 6/18 add Ganirelix. 6/23 Ovidrel trigger SQ. 6/25 ER: 8R, 8M, 5F naturally. Start Medrol & Doxy. 6/26 Start Endometrin. 7/2 Start Lovenox.
7/8/14 Beta= 137.4 BFP!!! (My first from IVF!) E2- 1109, Prog- >60. Stop CoQ10, myo-inositol, and melatonin. 7/9 2nd Beta= 281.4. TSH- 2.70. Increasing Synthroid to 100mcg daily. 7/24 6w3d u/s measured 6w3d, hb: 121bmp! 8/5 8w1d u/s measured 8w3d, hb: 164bpm! Graduated from RE to OB. Now I just need to find an OB!
EDD 3/18/15!
TTC#1 since April 2011
IVF#1 July 2012 5R, 3 made it to blast, sET c/p
FET#1 Aug 2012 2 blasts transferred BFN
IVF#2 Oct 2012
16R/6M/6F/2-8 cell grade 1 transfer
Beta 1-237.9, Beta 2-566, Beta 3-8657
US 6w3d shows one baby w/ HB 115
US 7w1d no more heartbeat/ D&C 11/30/12 normal karyotype
IVF#3 Mar 2013
6R/4M/4F 1 compacting and 2-8 cell transfer
ectopic pg MTX given 3 month break from TTC
IVF#4 Sept 2013--BFN
http://i61.tinypic.com/34zll06IVF#5-7 Apr 2014, Jun 2014 and Aug 2014 banking embryos for CCS testing. Praying for normals!
plus idk if any of you feel this way, but i kind of feel like if i tell too early i will kind of be made fun of? idk.. ive seen some random friends or people ive heard of that have announced their pregnancy (whether it was natural or ART bfp) right away. and they have gotten some sarcastic and rude comments from some people saying ohh u probably rolled out of bed after BD'ing and announced it. and i dont want to feel sorry for me if that makes sense. to say "awww it was so hard for her so shes too excited to keep it in lol"
only ppl i would tell right away is u girls, because only IF ppl understand the ups and downs of this journey.
6 rounds of clomid = no luck
IVF w/ ICSI & AZH #1 - Jan/2011 = ET cancelled OHSS
FET #1 & #2 - March/2011 & June/2011 = Chemical Preg.
IVF w/ Half ICSI #2 New RE - May/2012 = BFN!
May '12 - Sep '13 - Took A Break
Dec '13 IVF w/ Half ICSI #3!!!!! Switched RE
Protocol - Lupron trigger/Follistim/Ganirelix/Estrace/Vivelle/Crinone
6/27/14 - Emergency C/S @ 30w2d - Baby A 2lb 14oz, Baby B 2lb 11 oz
I'm thinking my husband will probably want to do the same
Me (32) DOR, elevated NK Cells/ 2 copies of MTHFR mutation/ MH (35) azoo/high DFI (TTC#1 since 2009)
IVFs#1-4: (4/10-2/12) all BFN
Surprise Bfp (9/11) - c/p
DS IUI#1-2 (9/12, 10/12) - BFN
DS IVF: (11/12) - BFN
DE/DS IVF#1: (10/13) - 2 day 3 embies transferred-BFFN
FET of 2 day 6 blasts: (12/13) - c/p
DE/DS IVF #2: (4/14) - 1 day 5 blast transferred...BFFN...again.
FET 5/14: 1 day 5 hatching blast transferred...another BFFN
Repeat SHG 6/14-normal / Endometrial Receptivity Array biopsy 7/14-Receptive Uterus
New RE, additional testing reveals elevated NK Cells
FET of 1 day 5 blast (RE recommends transferring 1 due to elevated NK cells) with lovenox, steroids & intralipids in October
Me: 28, DH: 30 TTC since March 2012
PCO & MTHFR Homozygous/Severe MFI (undescended teste & double hernia as baby)
12/12: 50mg clomid= bfn
1/13: 100mg clomid= bfn
2/13: 100mg clomid= bfn
6/13: IVF/ICSI (x1 4AA)=BFFN ~49R, 44M, 33F, 14 frosties OHSS
8/13: FET #1 (x1 4AA)=First EVER BFP 4dp5dt!! d&c @ 6.5 wks, blighted ovum
10/13: FET #2 (x2 4AA)= BFP 4dp5dt! Twins!!, perfect u/s then spontaneous m/c @ 5 wks
11/13= RPL/Karotyping= MTHFR Homozygous c667t
1/14= FET #3 our 2 year anniversary & hopefully our miracle
Sept '11-April '13 ~ Testing, failed multiple MFI treatments, saving & TONS of praying
January 2014 ~ IVF/ICSI & PGS ~ no response to stims ~ converted to IUI ~ BFN
February 2014 ~ On to donor embyros ~ 5 blasts!!!
March 2014 ~ FET #1 ~ Transferred 2 blasts ~ BFN
July 2014 ~ Kliman's mock cycle with endometrial function test
Sample too small for EFT, HE slide showed immature cells
New protocol planned, saving for another biopsy for EFT
January 2015 ~ Considering adoption options
April 2015 ~ Privately arranged adoption of planned pregnancy
DD#1 ~ Lillyana Violet Marie born 6/15/16, Finalized adoption 12/20/16
July 13, 2018 ~ BFP....WTF?!?!
7/16 Beta #1 ~ 466...7/18 Beta #2 ~ 1,077...7/23 Beta #3 ~ 5,291
7/23 US #1 ~ 1 gestational sac seen and yolk sac
7/30 US #2 and 1st OB appt ~ 1 perfectly round gestational sac, 1 perfect yolk sac and 1 teeny tiny heart beat seen!!!
The first time I knew something was wrong because my symptoms disappeared. The second I had no symptoms from the beginning so it didn't even seem real. We were just about to start telling people because the first u/s was so great and I was almost 10 weeks. This time around I don't think anyone but my mom and three girlfriends will know until at least 14-15 weeks.
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
Me 36 with endometriosis, PCOS, fibroid and ovulation issues, DH 40
TTC #1 since 04/12, BFP 10/12. Missed MC/D&C at 10 weeks 11/12
TTC #2 since 12/12
6 clomid cycles since 7/13, all BFN
IUI #1 (2 b2b) with clomid and trigger shot on 1/20/2014 BFN
IUI #2 with arimidex and trigger, B2B IUI's 2/24 and 2/25, BFN
IUI #3 with menopur injections and trigger, IUI 3/23, BFN
7 month break
Fibroid surgery 10/14
IVF cycle 1 beginning Nov. 1st...cancelled due to follicle issues. On hold for Dec. due to holidays.
IVF cycle 1.2- Gonal F (100) as of 1/12
While I've been pregnant four times, I never told anyone other than DH. We were getting ready to tell our parents about the first one and found out it was a missed miscarriage. I'm glad our families don't know about our struggles because although I'm sure they would be supportive, I just don't think I could handle their constant questions and suggestions about what we should be doing or trying.
I don't know when I'd feel comfortable telling anyone if I get pregnant again.
BFP #1: 1/4/13, EDD 9/8/13, Missed M/C confirmed 2/8/13, Misoprostol
2013: Three CPs w/ EDDs: EDD 2/10/14, EDD 3/24/14, EDD 6/24/14
IVF/ICSI #1 (Antagonist) - Jan 2014- 19R, 14M, 11F, 3 penguins (6BB, 4BB, 6BC) PGD tested- All Normal!
IVF/ICSI #2 (Antagonist) - Feb 2014 - 23R, 11M, 10F, 1 penguin (3BB) - Another Normal!
FET #1 - March 26, BFN
FET #2- Beta #1 (9dp5dt) -332, Beta #2 (11dp5dt) -1027, EDD 1/30/2015, Missed M/C, D&C 6/19/14
IVF/ICSI #3 (Lupron Down Reg) - Oct 2014 - 38R, 28M, 27F, 20 frozen on day 5, 16 normal penguins!!
FET#3 - February 1, 2015, Prep begins 1/13
All Welcome!
My TTC Journey:
Dx: Hypothalamic amenorrhea / mild PCOS (Pretty much a hormone/ovulatory disorder)
Progesterone to induce period w/ the goal of Clomid - never got period (September 2011). Referred to RE.
Femera - never responded to the meds (December 2011)
Clomid with TI - BFN (February 2012)
Injectables (Menopur) - hyperstimulated/canceled (March 2012)
Injectables #2 (Menopur) with TI- BFN (May 2012)
IVF - OHSS (transfer canceled), but 11 frozen! (June 1012)
FET - 1 transferred on 8/09/12. Beta#1 (11dp5dt): 350.3; Beta#2: 365; Beta#3: 157. Biochemical pregnancy.
FET # 2 - 1 transferred on 11/01/12. Beta#1 (11dp5dt): 337; Beta#2: 769. BFP!!! 1st ultrasound 11/28/12 showed heartbeat, but measuring 5 days behind. 2nd ultrasound 12/05/12 - miscarriage.
FET # 3 - 1 transferred on 1/24/13. Beta#1 (11dp5dt): BFN.
FET # 4 - 2 transferred on 3/21/13. Bet #1 (11dp5dt): 660; Beta#2: 1,300. Miscarried at home @ 6 weeks.
FET # 5 - 2 transferred on 7/12/13. Beta #1 (10dp6dt): BFN.
Attempted an IUI in late August 2013, but didn't respond well.
IVF #2 with PGS - Stims started 10/28 with retrieval on 11/11. Of 14 mature eggs, 10 fertilized, 4 made it to Day 5 & 1 made it to Day 6. We did PGS on the Day 5 embryos, and 3 of 4 were normal. Had ET on 11/17. Beta #1 (8dp6dt): 203. Beta #2 (10dp6dt): 618. We since had two ultrasounds & on 12/19, our RE released us to the OB. On 1/02/14, we had our first ultrasound with the OB where we heard the heartbeat. We are so thankful for the blessing & crossing every finger & toe for a healthy & successful pregnancy.
Next time we have discussed waiting until after the first sonogram with our families and best friends...the rest of the world will know somewhere well into 2nd trimester.
Me:36 DH:38 TTC#1 since 4/2012
Me DX: Hashimotos,Hypothyroid, DOR, MTHFR, DH: normal
IUI #1-#4 BFNs and a few cancelled cycles in the mix.
- poor responder
***Suprise BFP on 6/13/13. Natural MC @6wks 3days
IVF#1 and 2- Cancelled due to no response on max stimms
FET 5/20- BFP
1st Beta- 641
2nd beta- 2166
Sono- TWINS!!!!
Two Boys! Born January 2015 @36 weeks. Healthy and no NICU! So blessed!
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