Tired of family feedback..(BFP mentioned, not mine)

MAnn620

How do you deal with insensitive in-laws? Mine can be the most loving and supportive bunch, but they are also extremely old fashioned and thick-headed.

During dinner last night (one that I worked 3 days to prepare), a cousin called as soon as I put the first carrot in my mouth. She's PG and due on my birthday! I got very emotional very quick. It's hard to hear. It's not that I'm not happy for her, I just feel sorry for myself.

Long story short, my in-laws feel that I'm being overly sensitive, ridiculous, and that I'm young and need to "relax". They want to know if I'm now going to avoid family functions because of this news. You can't make this up folks. I cannot believe their nerve.

How do you deal with this? Through tears, I stood up for myself, but I feel that they are totally out of place.

2redtulips

Ouch. That was pretty cold of them. I am sorry. 

mrs.chaiffetz

I am so sorry this happened.  My MIL and FIL say stupid stuff all the time so I just decided that I would hold any and all info from everyone.  I don't say a word and if they ask me anything I just say we are still deciding what is best for us.  They are nice people they just don't get the pain that goes with all this.

 

And please go ahead and be sad!  Like you said, you are happy for her but sad for you.  No one can tell you that isn't okay.  I have several cousins who are now married and I am sure someone is going to get KU soon.  I just keep thinking - I will be happy for them and then be sad for me at home. 

 

((HUGS))

JadziaDax

I'm sorry you had to go through that, especially during the holidays. I learned to deal by not telling my MIL anything anymore. I don't think she has bad intentions, I think she's just thick headed and has her own way of thinking. You tried to confide in your in-laws as I tried to confide in mine and in the end we ended up feeling miserable... we really need to be choosy with who we confide in, especially dealing with such strong feelings.