It played out differently in my mind and heart!

Faith709

Four months ago my fiancé and I thought we where expecting and we both where very excited about it. That's what makes it much more difficult now. We both wanted another child and wanted it together. However a week ago he walked out of my life without giving me a chance to tell him the news. I just found out about the pregnancy on Monday and have not been able to reach him. He doesn't respond to my E-mails or texts nor is he answering my calls. While I knew I wanted a baby and I was sure I wanted him as the father, I never imagined it would like this.

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Faith709

I haven't mentioned it in the messages at all. Mostly just left the messages as I am concered about him and don't understand what's going on for him to have just disappeared out if no where. My fear with telling him via message is that he will think I'm being a desperate GF trying to hold on to him. We are both 33 with kids from previous marriages. I want to hear back from him because he cares about me not because he feels obligated. (I hope that makes sense)

mamaHippo23

My guess is if he suddenly walked out of your life, then he is probably going to avoid all communication with you for a while. You might need to be more straightforward in your attempts to reach him if you expect him to respond.  I know you are hurting and you want him to want you, but some of those feelings will have to stay separate from the pregnancy situation. No matter what's happening with your romantic relationship, if you want him to have any involvement with the new baby you will have to find a way to tell him. I'm sorry, I know it's a very painful thing. Good luck!