Anyone else have a husband out of work?

amalloy1

Just needing to vent!! It's been 1.5yrs since my  husband was downsized (business/consulting) & as we get ready for the arrival of our new LO in January, I'm freaking out realizing I'm going to have to go back to work sooner than 12 weeks.   I'm starting to be angry with him, which is not good!  I'm sure he's trying as hard as he can, but then I'm not so sure. Since we have security & insurance with my job there isn't the urgency there would be if I didn't have a job either.

heatherneeny76

Yes, my husband lost his job in June. He's worked part time off and on, but nothing permanent. Luckily we can pay the bills on my salary with him working PT. I'm hoping he can work second shift after baby is here so we can save on day care though. We can't afford that on my salary!

kelley72

Yes!  ughhh!  My dh has been out of work since June as well.  He was layed off and is unable to work due to his health right now (or atleast what he used to do on his feet for 8+hours a day).  We are hopeful he is either a. miraculously cured and 100% better so he can go back, or b. he can stay home for a few months with lo... It isn't a win-win either way but with him out of work I do rather Love the idea of dh watching lo for atleast a few months before we go to daycare.  I am more nervous about daycare than I am about $.  We are strapped and have been but we are surviving... Of course I want him to get better too so.

You are not alone in this stressful time and I am worried about being jealous of my dh when I go back (after 8wks) and he is at home...

delatl

My DH was out of work for about 2 years after we married in 2010. His company was sold and it took a long time for him to get back on his feet. Now he's working and doing great but that was a very hard time. I remember feeling very worried and alone. I felt like unless someone had been through that, they couldn't understand. So I just want to say that I feel your pain and am sending good thoughts and ((hugs)). It will get easier.

amalloy1

Thanks for the comments.  I know he's applying but I'm the one who combs through the job section on Sundays & tells him about job fairs in the city. I feel like he should be doing that without me asking him or bringing up the job issue.  He'senjoying the time at home with our DD & it does make my life easier in one way since we don't have to worry about a babysitter or day care,  but now I'm worried he's getting too comfortable.  I can't really talk about it to my family or friends because I'm a little embarrassed & don't want to let them know it's becoming an issue, but I've never not worked for a year & 1/2 since I started babysitting at age 12 so this is getting hard to deal with!   I feel like if I was the man of the house, I would be doing any job just to bring in some money & have work on my resume, even if it's at McDonalds!

I appreciate you all sharing your stories too. It helps....

rascus15

I can understand your stress.  DH works a job that has hours cut back in winter.  It has never been an issue before, but now due to pregnancy issues I am only working half days.  We are starting to feel the pinch so I am getting quite concerned. 

 Hope your situation gets better soon.  I know you don't need the added stress (((HUGS)))