I'm new here, and 6 weeks pregnant. We are lucky enough to have several friends and family members who have recently had babies, and will be borrowing or receiving gently used a car seat (less than a year old and from a close friend so I know it's safe), stroller, bouncy seat, etc. etc. We are also planning on cloth diapering, breastfeeding and pumping (when I return to work), and trying to be as gentle on the earth as possible. I also really don't want lots of cheap plastic toys that will go in baby's mouth.
My baby registry will include cloth diapers and accessories (I am knitting wool covers), an Arm's Reach co-sleeper, and not much else that needs to be purchased brand new. But my new co-workers will be throwing me a baby shower, as will some friends. I know, first world problems and I will happily donate excess to organizations that help moms without as many resources as I have.
Any tips for encouraging people to honor our preferences? I'm totally fine with clothes and toys from the thrift or second hand stores, but I know people freak out and want to buy tons of brand new stuff for babies.
Thanks in advance!