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Loss check in

Hi ladies, thought I'd post since we have so many new Mommies these days. ((big hugs everyone)

Welcome to our checkin!

I am sorry to have to welcome new loss moms this week but am so glad that you have found us. I hope we can bring each other some much needed comfort and support. Please feel free to join in when you are ready and share as much or as little as you wish. Also, if you have any questions you would like answered, just ask! Any lurkers out there please don't be shy, we would like to be able to support you too.

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

QOTW: Do you have any special plans to remember your baby/make it through Thanksgiving?

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

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  • Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I am eating better which in turn makes me feel better. I was also open with my boss about how difficult the upcoming holidays have been and she was really supportive.

    What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
    Continue to be healthy. One more month of birth control then we can TTC! Yay!

    QOTW: Do you have any special plans to remember your baby/make it through Thanksgiving? 
    We're going to my parents instead of my in-laws like normal. Quiet thanksgiving. I also feel comfortable crying at my parents house when I miss Ana, unlike my in-laws.

    Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
    Missin' my baby girl, tired of being a loss Mom, tired of going day to day just surviving.

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  • Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? 
    I don't know if new, per se, but I have been eating healthier this week, along with dh. Soon we'll be exercising, and I know that will help my mood, also. 

    What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? 

    The next goal I have for myself is to neatly put away all maternity clothing and things in a storage container. It is a mean reminder in the back of my closet and it is best put away.

    QOTW: Do you have any special plans to remember your baby/make it through Thanksgiving?

    I don't have any plan in specific, although I am wondering if I should put the twins' pic frame and urns in my bedroom. I'm afraid my family will put their paws on the twins' things and I am not cool with that.

    Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

    Returning to work next week (yuck) and also wondering when AF will rear her ugly head. 
    On 10/23/13 Baby Sophie and Baby Gabriel born at 21+5 weeks. They grew wings and flew away from us. May God bless them always. We love you beans!
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  • Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
    This week has had a lot of ups and downs. Colton's memorial last Sunday was perfect and very healing, I felt so much happier and lighter all week, just knowing that we had honored him and hearing all of the sweet things our friends and family had to say about him. But then, later in the week, we got our blood work results back and everything was normal, which means we have no idea what caused our loss and that has been difficult to accept.
    What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
    I need to call my doctor now that our test results are in and talk over what the next step is, what a possible next pregnancy would look like, see if I can meet with a high risk specialist. We have been cleared to start TTCAL in February so I would like to have an idea of what that looks like before then (I am such a planner!)
    QOTW: Do you have any special plans to remember your baby/make it through thanksgiving?
    DH and I are actually splitting up for thanksgiving, which I know sounds kind of crazy, but his mom has really been pressuring us to go there for the holiday and I don't feel up to it with all the family and questions and who news what else, so instead, I'm going to go to my family which should be better, and DH and DS will go to the in-laws.
    Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
    . Just feeling sad. It seemed like everywhere I turned at church this morning, there was a newborn baby ( one mom had twins and all I kept thinking was "I just want one!"). It really bummed me out, came home and crawled back in bed.
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    DS1 born 6/5/10 at 40 weeks via emergency c-section due to fetal distress and IUGR caused by placental insufficiency
    DS2 born still 8/28/13 at 32 weeks via emergency c-section due to a complete placental abruption - cause unknown
    Baby #3 on the way, EDD 2/29/16.  Originally twins, but we said goodbye to Baby B at 8 weeks.
  • On my iPad! Sorry for block of text! Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I feel so much better this week...not as defeated and hopeless. Ready to move forward yet not as obsessed with ttc as I was after my first 2 losses...this alone is bringing me so much peace. What is the next goal you have for yourself? We have an appt with an RE on dec 9 (however I am having my d&c tomorrow and they want me to ask my ob if that is too soon to come in...I am sort of thinking it is but I had no idea how long it would take to get in so at least now I can reschedule and know it won't be forever away. We are going to get full rpl testing done...it feels really good to be actually doing something about all of this. Qotw? Eeeekkkk...loaded question...we lost bunny the day before thanksgiving last year...it was awful. Her angelversary was actually last week though this year...we celebrated her then. Honestly I just want to enjoy the holiday with dh and be happy. I will be doing lots of stuff around Christmas in her honor. What's on your mind this week? I have a d&c scheduled for noon tomorrow...ready to just move forward at this point. This year has been so hard...just ready for some positive things to happen. @shandormfl2 thanks for posting this...yay for only one more month tta!

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  • Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I'm struggling this week,i tried to be optimistic but it seems like its getting harder and harder to deal with as time goes on.
    What is the next goal you have set for yourself
    I am going to do some early spring cleaning to keep myself busy and exercise!
    QOTW:
    Do you have any special plans to remember your baby/make it through Thanksgiving? Im afraid of how I will feel that day,i know we will all be extra emotional. I just want thu stay in bed. I want to get a journal and write to my baby.
    Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I just want to get through the holidays in one piece.



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    Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?  I finally was able to take her teddy bear from her grave and wash it.  The first time I saw it soaking wet and dirty I lost it and was so upset, but then when I tried to take it home to wash it I got upset too, she needed it there with her.  So I finally took it this weekend and now it's all clean and fluffy.  We've decided to keep it at home during the winters and take it back out in the spring.

    What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?  I don't have any....I feel so up and down lately.  I'll do well for a few weeks/months and then I'll have several bad days, like now, where I miss her so much and I'm so upset.  I just go with it and feel what I need to feel. 

    QOTW: Do you have any special plans to remember your baby/make it through Thanksgiving?  I don't know, I'm a little nervous.  I hadn't really thought about it much until today, but it just hit me today that Thanksgiving would have been the first major holiday and we should be taking her to dinner with us.  Dinner is at my dad's and his gf's family will be there too, so I'm a little nervous about having to put on a happy face.

    Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?  Just missing her...she would be about 4 months old by now.

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    Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? 
    I went to my first grief counseling appointment. My therapist seems pretty awesome and it went really well.  

    What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? 
    There are a lot of babies being born / about to be born in our department here at work. I'm working on being able to handle the news and emails and sending congratulations in a heartfelt way without getting upset.

    QOTW: Do you have any special plans to remember your baby/make it through Thanksgiving?
    Not in particular. Just glad it will be with my IL's and will be nice and quiet with nothing much expected of me.

    Open topic:  Just thinking of how hard it will be this Christmas.

     
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    EDD 2/15/14 - Stillbirth at 21 wks 10/02/13
    EDD 8/12/15 - MMC 1/12/15
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