Being a show off?

SamanthaJoD

Now that I’m getting fairly big (25 weeks pregnant), I’m getting more comments from strangers. For instance, the coffee shop girl will ask “is this your first?” or the waitress at the restaurant will ask “when is the baby due?” Whenever I get comments like this, I cannot help myself but to reply with “They are my first TWO babies!” or “There’s actually TWO babies in here!” When I do this around my husband, he calls me a show off (jokingly I hope!). I can’t resist sharing my twin news when opportunity strikes because I’m just so excited! I certainly don’t mean to brag or anything (the extra expenses and hard work that comes with twins is nothing to gloat about).

Do you ladies do this too? Or do you keep quiet about the fact that you’re having twins when strangers comment on your pregnancy?

zazu13

I feel the need to explain why I'm so big for 20 weeks When people ask when I'm due I can tell they're thinking "wow, I thought you were closer" so it makes me feel better to explain. When asked if it's my first I also tell them it's my first AND second. I am super excited, too, so as long as I'm up to getting all the inevitable questions (are they identical? do they run in the family?..) and unsolicited advice, then I am happy to share with whoever will listen. Congrats Mama                   

marcobonny

I do the the same thing! I'm 27 weeks pregnant and when people ask when I'm due I also feel like I need to explain why the date is farther away than they are thinking in their head at that moment. I sometimes feel like a show off too...but I think I'm slowly getting over that! My husband is actually worse than me! That'll be the first thing he says when someone starts talking to us...it's pretty comical/sweet in my eyes! We're both just so excited about our twins!! So don't feel like a show off!! Enjoy the moments!

CaliCarly77

I do the opposite - I try not to say twins until I am pressed. I usually just say yes, I am pregnant, due December (so they aren't shocked by my size, December could mean Dec 1) and its a surprise (since we aren't finding out). I just don't want to get in to it with everyone and answer the questions. I know a lot of twin moms say that when they are out with one baby, they tell people that baby has a twin, but I also hope to not do that - I don't want my kids to feel like they don't have individual identities. 

That said, if it is NOT a stranger, then I do tell them we have two on the way. 

jezebel57

i'm starting to get the comments from strangers and i have to say, i don't mind it like i thought i would.  one lady at the supermarket offered to run back and get me a free thing of pork chops i didn't grab because she's "been there" (i didn't share any info).  A cashier asked if it was a boy or girl and i responded "2 boys" and then she just asked if these were my first children.  Another lady at the MFM office (shares a waiting room with an imaging dept.) asked if I was pregnant.  lol.  I was like, lady, i am measuring full term so bless your heart for asking so nicely.  I told her it was twins and she was so excited for me and said she could hardly tell at all.  i don't mind if they start off with a  question and it leads into a conversation.  

LittleLady77

I usually make a cute twin comment. I want people to know why I'm so big AND I'm proud of my twins.

nblondheim

I am measuring 14 weeks ahead so I look like I am ready any day and this has brought up a lot of comments from others who aren't at my job all the time like substitutes and complete strangers. I usually get asked my due date and when I reply March 9th they just about faint! I then tell them that I am having two which produces a whole other reaction! I am also very proud of my twins and want to explain why I look so big but have time to go yet!

Paradisemoon

People don't usually ask me directly. They always say something to my other kids. Some thing along the lines of "Oh you must be happy to be a big sister again!"  My DD#1 is always happy to report that we're having identical girls. Which is usually followed by DD#2 saying "That means it's twins" So cute   It always takes everyone by surprise!

VeryBlessedMom

Hoping to get bigger here. People look confused when I tell them I'm 13 weeks. Then I spring on them is triplets and they're shocked. But I was this big at 6 months with DD. Hard for people to believe a sz 0 could have 3, but interested to see how big I could get!

ntdane

I tend to do this too. People will ask if we know what we're having and I respond with "Twins!". Then they respond by telling me how small I look, which is funny to me because I'm a little bigger than I was with DS at 41 weeks and I just hit 25 with the twins and I'm already in XL or higher maternity clothes . People have been so excited about it that it's a lot of fun, especially since I don't have family or friends close to share the excitement.

tootsscott

Like @amylou333, I always say they're my first and second. It's hard work carrying these people around and I want the extra attention for it.

I'm on HBR until I deliver now and my sister came to visit last night and wheeled me to the coffee shop in the hospital. A nurse we passed in the hallway smiled and said, 'looks like you're ready to drop something' and I just responded '2 things!' Lol. Can't help it!

raraavis28

I was like that when I was pregnant too.....with the exception of a very quick exchange or a not-dealing-with-people day. "First two!" would just always pop out.....and, it's true, toward the end I felt like I needed to justify how huge I was. :-P I remember this lady in the hospital elevator giving me tips for getting "that Christmas baby here on time," to which I replied "Well, actually there are two of them....and they're not due for a month so I hope they're not here by Christmas!"

raraavis28

P.S. @tootsscott.....sorry to hear about the HBR....hopefully it won't be for long, but will be for long enough!

chickaboo1974

No I didn't like the attention.  If I was buying two of the same thing- they always asked if I needed a gift receipt- I said no I will be using both thank you.   I just never wanted to open up the conversation- because it ALWAYS came around to "oh are they natural?"  People are SO nosy.

LottaLattes

I was more tempted when I was 37-38 weeks along to deny I was pregnant :P
It depended on the situation for me, if I didn't feel like having a 10-minute conversation about it, I just told them how far along. I don't mind the twin fuss most of the time, it is super lots of work but crazy fun to have multiples.

sunkiss674

Now when I'm at work I keep getting comments like "boy you look like you're about to pop any day now"  or "do you know what your having" so now I feel more compelled to tell people I'm having twins. (Not to mention I'm super excited!)

 I am in awe of how strangers get so excited for me (its kind of a cute) and most of all I am told by a lot of my patients I am blessed. I won't lie it makes me feel good when they tell me I look way to small for twins (these are my favorite patients).

Dragonfly1226

When I was pregnant usually the conversation would go:

Stranger - You're pregnant. When are you due?
Me - The beginning of June.
Stranger (looking shocked at my hugeness) - Wow! Are you having twins?
Me - Yes.
Stranger (relieved) - Oh! [Insert generic comment about twins here.]

I don't think I ever really had to bring it up before someone asked except for the beginning when I was telling friends and family that I was pregnant with twins.

SV917

It depended on what question was asked and/or whether I was in a hurry. If I was asked whether it was my first, I usually said first two. If they asked if I knew what I was having or tried to guess themselves (everyone guessed boy based on how I carried), then I would say I'm having a girl and a boy. If they just asked when I was due, I would just give the date unless they expressed some shock at how big I was. I was also surprised at how total strangers would be so excited about my twin pregnancy.

Stephanie2167

Happy_Yahoo_Personaler said:

I did ALL the time.  I loved seeing people's reactions.

Them: "Oh, do you know what you are having?"

Me: "Yep.  Two girls." <smile>

Them: <pause a beat as they process, look of shock> "Twins!"

This exactly for me as well.

bumpuser924057

I don't think I've ever had one baby out and about without the other, at least not yet, but whenever people comment on the twins I feel compelled to tell them that I also have a two and a half year old son.  Usually that's in response to the comments of "oh, a boy and a girl, you got lucky" or "oh, one of each, now you're done!" or "boy, you sure do have your hands full, I don't know how you do it" or something else that's similarly asinine.  

jennyshawn0808

thecheshirekat said:

I don't think I've ever had one baby out and about without the other, at least not yet, but whenever people comment on the twins I feel compelled to tell them that I also have a two and a half year old son.  Usually that's in response to the comments of "oh, a boy and a girl, you got lucky" or "oh, one of each, now you're done!" or "boy, you sure do have your hands full, I don't know how you do it" or something else that's similarly asinine.  

This exactly

whitehousem

I used to get the "are you sure there's not more than one baby in there?" when I was prego with DD (Usually from strangers or acquaintances). I'm actually looking forward to this question now. Lol. I tell people it's twins bc it's exciting and if I'm talking/answering questions about being pregnant I might as well share the whole story. Most people think it's really cool or really crazy (I would have been this person before) so it's fun to see their reactions.

kymberli00

I don't just share my triplet news right away but there's so many questions as to why I am so big and due in may when I tell them there's 3 there's lots of comments...ones I don't appreciate and some that don't bother me. Most people are excited and want to know more and some seem disgusted. But I'm proud of my miracles.

katekat8721

I'm still in the blissful honeymoon stage of being pregnant, so yeah, I'm a show off lol. I'm excited! I'm sure this will change as things progress and the annoying comments become an every day occurrence!

KatieGummow

I just slip in "they," and when people put 2 and 2 together it is like magic.  "Oh yeah, they take a lot out of me..." ........."THEY?  Like two?!"  It's sweet.  Show off, damn it!  Making a baby is hard, making two is even harder!!

CaliCarly77

DH and I went out a lot this weekend and we got a lot of "wow you are about to pop! How far along are you?" I am 32 weeks but kept answering "I have 4 - 5 weeks left" so I wouldn't have to explain. While I love the attention from friends and family, having to answer the same questions over and over to someone who I will never see again drives me nuts, and/or having to hear about all of the twins they know - their sister's best friend's brother had twins wow omg. Maybe its because talking makes me out of breath too, lol. But I am certainly proud of my babies!!! And I tell everyone at the dr offices we go to for sure!

TommysGirl56

I've been getting lots of stranger questions lately, too.  When they ask "Boy or girl?" I reply "It might be one of each!"  I agree with a pp, it makes me feel better to explain that it's twins, because when I've answered as to how far along I am, I feel like people are wondering why on Earth I am so big!