So do I go? -UPDATE

Throw3ks · November 2013

LO is 13weeks actual/3weeks adjusted. I just got the word that my grandmother who lives 6 hours away is dieing. As in within the next couple weeks. She hasn't met my DD and from what my aunts have said she keeps asking to meet her, her only great grandchild before she passes. Sounds like she will not be returning home unfortunately and will be in the hospital/hospice setting. Do I bring my DD to meet her? Do I risk bringing her around a hospital setting? Why does family feel the need to put this kind of pressure on me.
She has had her 2mth vax and synagis. Incase that may be a factor. We would be traveling by car just the 2 of us as my H has to work.
UPDATE: Unfortunately we didn't get to see gram/great gram in time. She passed away 11/22 and we were going to head to see her today 11/23. I'm a little bummed and a little relieved. She was living in pain and was very scared. No way to be. Now she can be at peace. I will have to deal with the wrath of my idiotic family since I didn't get there in time with my LO but oh well. Not much I can do now.

kck329 · November 2013

I would go, you won't regret seeing your grandmother before she dies. Bring your DD but keep her in a wrap or carrier the whole time. Tell everyone ahead of time that the only person who can touch her is grandma and you can even ask the hospice to provide a sterile robe or gloves for grandma to wear if you are concerned about that. Wash your hands a lot and don't stay a long time.

I'm usually one for staying in hiding no matter what but this seems like an exception. If you are really nervous, you could call your pedi for suggestions

LaciJaxx · November 2013

Oh dear, so sorry to hear. I have lost all my grandparents already, before my LO was born. That being said, I would take my LO if I were in your shoes. I'm assuming like the PP that your grandma doesn't have anything that might affect you & yours. The 6 hour drive will probably be a little rough so plan for lots of stops along the way. Hugs!!!

Throw3ks · November 2013

Thank you for the advice. You are all probably right, I won't regret it but I will definitely be on my toes the whole time on germ watch. Grams has cancer, battled it for years. The drive is going to be daunting but worth it in the end.

ashleymarie512 · November 2013

So sorry to hear about your grandma!

Good luck on the drive!

KTZ17 · November 2013

I'm sorry about your grandmother, Throw3ks. I agree with PPs that you should go. Is she still sleeping a ton? She'll hopefully sleep most of the drive.

Kelly_12 · November 2013

Sorry to hear about your grandma

I agree with everyone, you should go. You will regret it if you don't. Just be careful and diligent and you will both be fine!
Goodluck on the drive!

Throw3ks · November 2013

@bostonkisses2 that is a good point I will call and check. I didn't even think about that. Thank you.

jbranden12 · November 2013

I would go. Even if they don't have restrictions on the floors, I would ask if there's a place your grandma could go to sit and visit so you don't have to walk down the floor with your DD. In my grandfather's rehab hospital, there's a little parlor they can make available. ((HUGS))

km0022 · November 2013

I agree with PP and would like to add in that we traveled home when DD was 12 weeks actual, 7 adjusted and it was a 9 hour drive. We drove at nighttime, less traffic and DD slept more. But driving by yourself at night may not be the best option, it's just whatever you felt the most comfortable with. Or you could leave after a early morning feeding when she still is going to go back to sleep.

Hang in there and I hope you don't feel too stressed with whatever decision you choose.

PhillyGal34 · November 2013

Nothing to add except I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother.

Fwiw I would go. It would mean the world to her and as long as you make it quick and as safe as possible I don't see a problem. I got a uv cover that covered the whole infant carrier. It was mesh on the sides but that was summer. It kept hands off him though.

KTZ17 · November 2013

Sorry for your loss, Throw3ks. It's tough that you didn't make it in time, but you tried. And you have a newborn, your family needs to cut you some slack! Edited for typo.