GTKY: The Great Debates

TurtleMonsters

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Cloth until I can't take it any more
2. Med free or Epi? C section.
3. Birth Center or Hospital? hospital
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team P/B

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? probably
6. Vaccines? yes
7. Baby wearing? yes
8. Bed sharing? yes
9. Breastfeeding? yes
10. Pacifier? Maybe...last one wanted nothing to do with it from day 1, so we didn't do them.
 
 

flmomof4

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable, but we did try cloth with DD.  It made her bad diaper rash worse.
2. Med free or Epi? Med free
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Birth center, if it was an option, but it's not in IL for a VBAC.  I'm planning to use an alternative birthing room in the hospital.
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team Pink/Blue

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? Yes
6. Vaccines?  Yes
7. Baby wearing? Yes
8. Bed sharing? Yes, occasionally
9. Breastfeeding? Yes, for 1.5 years+
10. Pacifier? Yes, if baby wants it.  DD had a paci until 4 months when we stopped swaddling.  She's been a thumb sucker since.

natkay02

Vaccinations: the one parenting issue where YOUR decision effects MY CHILDREN.

More to be said at a later date when I'm not fuming from all the "no's" to #6.

natkay02

Salsera29 said:
6. Vaccines? YES and I think it is extremely irresponsible to say no. ETA: If you don't get your child vaccinated you shouldn't be allowed to send them to school with other children. My kid isn't going to get polio cause you have beliefs.

Amen.

DelilahSun

Disposable RCS (spinal block) Hospital Yes to finding out Team Pink/Blue Yes to circumcision, vaccines, baby wearing and pacifier Sleep in our room until 10/11 months in a crib Always start out trying to breastfeed and usually 100% FF by 12 weeks.

DelilahSun

^^^ Sorry, didn't format correctly.....

Lottie&Paul

1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable 2. Med free or Epi? Epi (I'll have a RCS) 3. Birth Center or Hospital? hospital 4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team Pink/Blue 5. Circumcision? Yes 6. Vaccines? Yes 7. Baby wearing? Yes 8. Bed sharing? Yes 9. Breastfeeding? Yes 10. Pacifier? Yes, after a good latch is established

Salsera29

natkay02 said:

Vaccinations: the one parenting issue where YOUR decision effects MY CHILDREN.

More to be said at a later date when I'm not fuming from all the "no's" to #6.

I wish I could love this more than once.

ksuRN09

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable
2. Med free or Epi? Epi
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital but birth centers are fine, too. We just don't have any here.
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team Pink/Blue

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? Yes
6. Vaccines? Absolutely yes
7. Baby wearing? No big opinion on this
8. Bed sharing? No
9. Breastfeeding? I'm going to try it but if it doesn't work, it won't be the end of the world for me.
10. Pacifier? Yes until age 1 then it needs to go

cookieinva

This or that's... 1. Disposable 2. Open to epi: induced the first time and thank god for the epi since I pushed a 10+ lb baby out my poor vag 3. Hospital; love my ob and that's where he works 4. Team Pink/Blue Yes or no's... 5. Yes 6. Absolutely yes 7. I'll try it but DS never took to it. 8. No plans to; DS was in his crib from day 1 no problems, hoping for the same. 9. I'm open to whatever I need to feed my baby. I will try harder to BF this time but be less upset if I have to supplement. 10. If wanted, it is not the end of the world.

helloblueeyes

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Probably disposable, unless i can get DH on board with cloth
2. Med free or Epi? Hoping for med-free
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team pink/blue

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? DH says yes, and i defer to his expertise on all things Penis
6. Vaccines? Yep
7. Baby wearing? Sure
8. Bed sharing? Not if can help it
9. Breastfeeding? I have promised to try, but it would mean i end up pumping at work and i don't know how well that will work out
10. Pacifier? Sure
 
 

iciclezest

1. Disposable
2. Epi
3. Hospital
4. Team pink/blue
5. Circumcision? Yes
6. Vaccines? Yes...no brainer
7. Baby wearing? Yes
8. Bed sharing? No
9. Breastfeeding? Yes
10. Pacifier? Yes, if needed

cakebatter27

I'll join in.

1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable.  I don't care how green it is, I'm not touching shit on purpose.
2. Med free or Epi? I'm going to try to go med-free but my OB will know that I want to know the cut-off in case I change my mind.
3. Birth Center or Hospital? hospital
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team green for now!

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? on the fence
6. Vaccines? on the fence
7. Baby wearing? yes
8. Bed sharing? absolutely not
9. Breastfeeding? absolutely yes
10. Pacifier? not if I can avoid it

TeacherGirl17

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable
2. Med free or Epi? Epi
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hosptal
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team Pink/Blue

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? Yes
6. Vaccines? Yes
7. Baby wearing? Not all the time, but I do love my ergo
8. Bed sharing? No
9. Breastfeeding? Yes
10. Pacifier? Yes, but not until BFing is established

hupp0013

This or that's...

1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable.  We tried cloth.  DH hated it. 

2. Med free or Epi? Epi

3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital.  That is what we have in the area.

4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team green again

Yes or no's... 

5. Circumcision? Yes.  

6. Vaccines? YES!

7. Baby wearing? Yes some.

8. Bed sharing? We did rarely with DD.  We may with this one too.  It does make it really hard for DH to sleep.

9. Breastfeeding? Yep, if it works out.  It was really tough in the beginning with

DD.  

10. Pacifier? If they will take one, I'm not opposed.  DD didn't take one.

sheacox

natkay02 said:

Vaccinations: the one parenting issue where YOUR decision effects MY CHILDREN.

More to be said at a later date when I'm not fuming from all the "no's" to #6.

@natkay02 agreed... i was shocked at how many people were saying 'no'...

FutureMrsDewes

This or that's
1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable
2. Med free or Epi? Med free
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team Pink/Blue

Yes or no's
5. Circumcision? Yes
6. Vaccines? Yes
7. Baby wearing? Yes
8. Bed sharing? No
9. Breastfeeding? No. I had breast cancer 3.5 years ago in my right breast and I am BRCA 1+ so I got my left breast removed. I don't have any natural boob left lol
10. Pacifier? Probably

[Deleted User]

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable
2. Med free or Epi? I'm putting my epi on order ASAP
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team pink/blue

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? Yes
6. Vaccines? Yes
7. Baby wearing? A little
8. Bed sharing? When necessary
9. Breastfeeding? Yes
10. Pacifier? I hope so, my son never used one and my nipples took a beating.

Meller515

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable
2. Med free or Epi? I'm a fan of modern medicine
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team Pink/Blue. Too impatient

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? Yes
6. Vaccines? Yes
7. Baby wearing? I'll try it
8. Bed sharing? Probably a bassinet next to the bed
9. Breastfeeding? Hopefully
10. Pacifier? I'd use it to comfort but not as an all the time type thing

V1981

FutureMrsDewes said:

9. Breastfeeding? No. I had breast cancer 3.5 years ago in my right breast and I am BRCA 1+ so I got my left breast removed. I don't have any natural boob left lol

Wow. Way to be proactive and a survivor! So scary but glad you shared!

Lola825

I'll play...

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable but I'd like to try cloth.
2. Med free or Epi? Game time decision.
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team Pink/Blue. DH wants to know.

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? Yes
6. Vaccines? Yes
7. Baby wearing? Yes if the baby likes it.
8. Bed sharing? Not for us, I'm too light a sleeper. But I have nothing against those that it works for.
9. Breastfeeding? I plan to.
10. Pacifier? We would like to avoid it if at all possible.

bzbear2

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable
2. Med free or Epi? How can you all possibly decide this NOW?! Depends on how the birth goes. 
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Pink/Blue. I like feeling the connection knowing if it's a boy or a girl.

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? NO!
6. Vaccines? YES YES YES
7. Baby wearing? absolutely
8. Bed sharing? first 6 months at least in a cosleeper (sidecar) and then we'll see. We bedshared with DS for 1.5 years (never saw THAT one coming)
9. Breastfeeding? yes! (still am BFing DS at 22 MO)
10. Pacifier? YES YES YES (FTM - I always thought NO but boy was that pacifier a lifesaver. So so so happy we had it)

Aab7114

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable
2. Med free or Epi? Epi as soon as possible please!
3. Birth Center or Hospital? I think our hospital has a birth center?? I haven't toured it yet.
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team pink/blue

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? Yes, DH is Jewish.
6. Vaccines? Yes!!
7. Baby wearing? I'd try it.
8. Bed sharing? An absolute no for both of us.
9. Breastfeeding? I'll try until I go back to work, I don't want to mess with pumping at work.
10. Pacifier? If yes, I want to wean ASAP. Rather this than thumb.

ddubzz

Oooh oooh, I hope I pass this pop quiz! 

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable
2. Med free or Epi?  Epi if VBAC, otherwise RCS
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue?  We are going to find out

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision?  Yes
6. Vaccines?  YES!!!!
7. Baby wearing?  Yes
8. Bed sharing? Yes for the first few weeks

9. Breastfeeding?  Yes, goal is 9-12 months... did it for 14 months with DS.
10. Pacifier?  Not for the first month, but maybe afterwards

splaster79

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Cloth
2. Med free or Epi? Epi
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team Pink/Blue

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? Yes
6. Vaccines? Yes
7. Baby wearing? Yes
8. Bed sharing? Yes
9. Breastfeeding? Yes
10. Pacifier? Yes

perkypicklepants

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable?disposable
2. Med free or Epi?epi
3. Birth Center or Hospital?hospital
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue?we will find out

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision?probably
6. Vaccines? i hate that this one is even a debate. yes most definitely
7. Baby wearing? sometimes
8. Bed sharing?hell no

9. Breastfeeding?maybe, DD couldnt because of a lactose intolerance, but I want to try again
10. Pacifier?yes, but they are a bitch to break let me tell you

SummerMomma2Be

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Disposable
2. Med free or Epi? Med free with epi available
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital (I don't know of any birth centers near by)
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team Pink/Blue

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? Yes
6. Vaccines? Yes
7. Baby wearing? Yes
8. Bed sharing? No
9. Breastfeeding? Yes
10. Pacifier? Yes

Cheekers2010

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable?  Cloth
2. Med free or Epi?  Pain Med free if at all possible.  I won't hate myself if I have to give in.
3. Birth Center or Hospital?   Birth Center-except I'm high risk so I'm not allowed.  I went with a birth center with my first.
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue?  Team Green

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision?  Nope.  But, I'm not an activist about it.  I just find it unnecessary.
6. Vaccines?  Yes.  On an alternate schedule. 
7. Baby wearing?  Meh.
8. Bed sharing?  No.  But, room sharing=yes.  I believe it's best for baby to be close at hand during the early months.
9. Breastfeeding? Yes.  Extendedly if possible.
10. Pacifier?  Meh.  My DS would never take one.  I wanted him to, but then was grateful I didn't have to break the habit.

Mom2anAngel2

1. Cloth or Disposable? Both. Cloth at home, disposable for travel and daycare
2. Med free or Epi? Epi!
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital 4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Pink/blue

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? Yes
6. Vaccines? Without a doubt!
7. Baby wearing? Sometimes
8. Bed sharing? NO
9. Breastfeeding? Yes
10. Pacifier? If baby wants it

nicole336

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Cloth
2. Med free or Epi? Med free if possible
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital- I'm high risk. I wish I could do a home birth
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? pinl/blue

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? no preference- will leave it up to DH
6. Vaccines? alternate schedule
7. Baby wearing? yes
8. Bed sharing? no- I sleep like a maniac and would be terrified of squishing him/her or suffocating them with my 10,000 pillows I need to sleep
9. Breastfeeding? yes
10. Pacifier? only after breastfeeding is established.

cyndelgrace

natkay02 said:

Salsera29 said:
6. Vaccines? YES and I think it is extremely irresponsible to say no. ETA: If you don't get your child vaccinated you shouldn't be allowed to send them to school with other children. My kid isn't going to get polio cause you have beliefs.

Amen.

BPaws said:

My ultimate answer for each and every one of these things is "whatever you choose for you is the best choice". I don't really care what you feed your kid or what they wear on their ass, but these are my opinions on what works for our family. If you don't vaccinate your child I think you are stupid. I have no problems mincing those words. 6. Vaccines? This is the only one I think I would judge someone else on. Hell yes for vaccines. Unless your life will be at risk for getting them, don't put my child at risk for not. Why the eff wouldn't you? 

As a parent and care provider who has seen and experienced vaccine injury firsthand, this isn't so cut and dry. There are also, for many people, religious beliefs that contribute to the choice not to vaccinate. And assuming that a child's life isn't at risk when receiving a vaccination is an ignorant statement. You may deem the risk worth it for immunity but many others do not. 

cyndelgrace

BPaws said:

natkay02 said:

Salsera29 said:
6. Vaccines? YES and I think it is extremely irresponsible to say no. ETA: If you don't get your child vaccinated you shouldn't be allowed to send them to school with other children. My kid isn't going to get polio cause you have beliefs.

Amen.

BPaws said:

My ultimate answer for each and every one of these things is "whatever you choose for you is the best choice". I don't really care what you feed your kid or what they wear on their ass, but these are my opinions on what works for our family. If you don't vaccinate your child I think you are stupid. I have no problems mincing those words. 6. Vaccines? This is the only one I think I would judge someone else on. Hell yes for vaccines. Unless your life will be at risk for getting them, don't put my child at risk for not. Why the eff wouldn't you? 

As a parent and care provider who has seen and experienced vaccine injury firsthand, this isn't so cut and dry. There are also, for many people, religious beliefs that contribute to the choice not to vaccinate. And assuming that a child's life isn't at risk when receiving a vaccination is an ignorant statement. You may deem the risk worth it for immunity but many others do not. 

*****************^ As I said. If there is an underlying medical issue for which the risk is greater when receiving the immunization- fine, that's perfectly understandable. It's not all black and white. But choosing not to vaccinate your child puts MY child at risk and that is not ok.

That's the thing with vaccine injury, it isn't only the sick kids deemed at risk who sustain it.

rachoochoo2

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? Cloth
2. Med free or Epi? Med free (this time. Both my girls were inductions with epi's)
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Undecided yet. One of my hospital options has a birth center.
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? GREEN

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? yes
6. Vaccines? yes
7. Baby wearing? yes
8. Bed sharing? no
9. Breastfeeding? Yes (can't wait to do it again!)
10. Pacifier? No. My kids wouldn't ever take one.

Cheekers2010

Meller515 said:

2. Med free or Epi? I'm a fan of modern medicine

What the heck does that have to do with anything?  I'm a fan of modern medicine, too.  Doesn't mean I'm going to get an epi.

lowen83

1. Cloth or Disposable?DISPOSABLE
2. Med free or Epi? DRUGS PLS
3. Birth Center or Hospital?EITHER
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? PINK/BLUE

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? YES
6. Vaccines? YES
7. Baby wearing? EITHER
8. Bed sharing? ABSOLUTLY NOT
9. Breastfeeding? ABSOLUTLY
10. Pacifier? SURE

had a c section at a hospital with DS after 16 hours of labor and made it 10 with out epi. Had him circumsized. Breast feed for 8 months while using disposable diapers and broke paci before he was 1

cyndelgrace

BPaws said:

BPaws said:

natkay02 said:

Salsera29 said:
6. Vaccines? YES and I think it is extremely irresponsible to say no. ETA: If you don't get your child vaccinated you shouldn't be allowed to send them to school with other children. My kid isn't going to get polio cause you have beliefs.

Amen.

BPaws said:

My ultimate answer for each and every one of these things is "whatever you choose for you is the best choice". I don't really care what you feed your kid or what they wear on their ass, but these are my opinions on what works for our family. If you don't vaccinate your child I think you are stupid. I have no problems mincing those words. 6. Vaccines? This is the only one I think I would judge someone else on. Hell yes for vaccines. Unless your life will be at risk for getting them, don't put my child at risk for not. Why the eff wouldn't you? 

As a parent and care provider who has seen and experienced vaccine injury firsthand, this isn't so cut and dry. There are also, for many people, religious beliefs that contribute to the choice not to vaccinate. And assuming that a child's life isn't at risk when receiving a vaccination is an ignorant statement. You may deem the risk worth it for immunity but many others do not. 

*****************^ As I said. If there is an underlying medical issue for which the risk is greater when receiving the immunization- fine, that's perfectly understandable. It's not all black and white. But choosing not to vaccinate your child puts MY child at risk and that is not ok.

That's the thing with vaccine injury, it isn't only the sick kids deemed at risk who sustain it.

Can you elaborate on this?

Sure, I realize that there are groups of people that we suggest not vaccinating (those with certain allergies, sicknesses, etc.). But to say that there is no risk to the general healthy public when vaccinating is not true. So, we try to prevent vaccine injury by not vaccinating those most at risk for side effects but that doesn't mean that any of our healthy children will not be injured in the process of the recommended vaccination schedule. Some of these injuries are lifelong and some result in death.

Mrs.DeRuysscher

This or that's...
1. Cloth or Disposable? we are undecided but probably disposable
2. Med free or Epi? not sure yet going to try my best to go med free but i am not good with pain
3. Birth Center or Hospital? Hospital
4. Team Green or Team Pink/Blue? Team Pink/Blue

Yes or no's...
5. Circumcision? If a boy yes
6. Vaccines? yes
7. Baby wearing? hoping to try this
8. Bed sharing? probably not going to have a bassinet in the bedroom for the first couple months but baby will have it's own room and crib
9. Breastfeeding? I would like to try to
10. Pacifier? up for debate still but probably for a little bit 

mamac12

This or that
Clothe
Had a c-section last time thinking same this time so yes epi
Birth center
Pink/Blue

Yes or no
Circumcision- No, didn't with our first
Vaccines-yes
Baby wearing - yes
Bed sharing- we do in the mornings
Breast feeding- Yes, was able to with my son and loved it
Pacifier-would like to try. my son never took one but would like to try with#2 so hopefully they can self soothe

cyndelgrace

BPaws said:

BPaws said:

BPaws said:

natkay02 said:

Salsera29 said:
6. Vaccines? YES and I think it is extremely irresponsible to say no. ETA: If you don't get your child vaccinated you shouldn't be allowed to send them to school with other children. My kid isn't going to get polio cause you have beliefs.

Amen.

BPaws said:

My ultimate answer for each and every one of these things is "whatever you choose for you is the best choice". I don't really care what you feed your kid or what they wear on their ass, but these are my opinions on what works for our family. If you don't vaccinate your child I think you are stupid. I have no problems mincing those words. 6. Vaccines? This is the only one I think I would judge someone else on. Hell yes for vaccines. Unless your life will be at risk for getting them, don't put my child at risk for not. Why the eff wouldn't you? 

As a parent and care provider who has seen and experienced vaccine injury firsthand, this isn't so cut and dry. There are also, for many people, religious beliefs that contribute to the choice not to vaccinate. And assuming that a child's life isn't at risk when receiving a vaccination is an ignorant statement. You may deem the risk worth it for immunity but many others do not. 

*****************^ As I said. If there is an underlying medical issue for which the risk is greater when receiving the immunization- fine, that's perfectly understandable. It's not all black and white. But choosing not to vaccinate your child puts MY child at risk and that is not ok.

That's the thing with vaccine injury, it isn't only the sick kids deemed at risk who sustain it.

Can you elaborate on this?

Sure, I realize that there are groups of people that we suggest not vaccinating (those with certain allergies, sicknesses, etc.). But to say that there is no risk to the general healthy public when vaccinating is not true. So, we try to prevent vaccine injury by not vaccinating those most at risk for side effects but that doesn't mean that any of our healthy children will not be injured in the process of the recommended vaccination schedule. Some of these injuries are lifelong and some result in death.

And some aren't. As someone who had a child with a reaction to the MMR vaccine and still chooses to vaccinate, the minimal risks of the vaccine itself outweigh by far the risk of the disease we are vaccinating against. I'm not coming at this from an uneducated standpoint, I assure you. I've some my research and spoken to doctors. Likewise, I'm sure you've done yours.

I guess the difference here is, I don't think you are stupid but you seem to think I am for making a different choice.

cyndelgrace

BPaws said:

@cyndelgrace Fair enough, that was a little harsh of me to write initially.

Thanks for saying that. I think it's important for families to make an educated choice and clearly we can agree on that at least. I do understand the logic from both sides and work with families on both sides of the fence and the ones straddling the damn thing just trying to do what they think is best.