Possible loss

roughkat

Hi, I've posted before but I failed at my Thursday "Trippin' Thursdays" task and I'm not even sure if people remember me.  So I'm sorry if this is asking too much if I haven't been as active as I should be.

One reason I haven't been posting much is I've been really struggling for multiple reasons, most of which I don't want to get into.  So again, I'm sorry if I'm asking for support when I haven't been giving it.

I had my arthritis surgery (some of you might remember that) and it sucked.  Way worse than I was led to believe.  The recovery has been painful and hard.  We had our third (and final, as we are advised to meet with the RE to discuss IVF since this has failed) IUI after my surgery.  I was supposed to test on Tuesday.  *TMI Alert*  I started AF today, except way worse cramps than normal and my flow is heavier.  I've also passed some significant clots, which I've never done before.  I'm not asking for medical advice, I realize once a miscarriage starts there's nothing to be done.  I'm just feeling broken.  Now we're headed to IVF.  I really never thought it would come to this.

I'm not sure what the point of this post is.  I'm sorry I'm not always here.  I'm trying.

KC1212

@roughkat

Hi I remember you (and wondered about ya!) Nobody on here is like "where is @roughkat ?!- she is such a slacker for not posting her Thursday checkin OMG" :P

I'm sooo sorry that you are having a hard time. I'm confused - you had an IUI and now a miscarriage?? ((Hugs))

I JUST suffered my first loss last weekend so, I know how heartbreaking it is Sometimes it's good to just step away for awhile. I get it.

pettycrocker

Of course we remember you. You weren't gone that long. 

Did you actually do an IVF cycle? Did you get a positive test, your post just says you were supposed test Tues, I'm not sure if you mean last Tues. or this Tues coming up? Your period might just be like this because of all the drugs with IVF.  

I'm so sorry you are having a hard time with your recovery That really sucks! I hope you feel better soon. 

You do not have to apologize to anyone here. You're here when you need to be, and off when you need to be. You're always welcome. 

kndeckar

Please do not feel guilty for not posting. I remember you from not too long ago. I'm so sorry your having such a hard recovery & AF. It's always terrible when you aren't expecting it. T&Ps!!

CheesyPeas

Of course we remember you!  And don't worry about being gone for a while.  I've had those times too where I've had to step away.  There is certainly no need to apologze to us; we're here for you, anytime!

I'm sorry you're having a rough time.  ((hugs))  My loss was late 1st trimester, so I think the experience would be much different than a chemical pregnancy.  If feel like you're having a loss though and want to know, you could try taking a pregnancy test.  A lot of HPTs will remain positive for a while after the bleeding starts.  I would say this is less likely for a CP, so if it's a BFN, it won't tell you anything necessarily.  If it's a BFP though, you won't have to wonder. 

freakyfast

CheesyPeas is right, if you really want to know you can test.  The HCG will be in your system for awhile. Lots of (((HUGS)))

Jen071407

Everyone needs a break every now and then, no worries at all It sounds like you have lots going on. ((Hugs)) I've also wondered about possible chemical pregnancies based on heavy flow w/clots, but my RE thought it was more a result of all the meds. Have you tested?