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Hmm I want to smack you

luvbostonluvboston member
edited November 2013 in Parenting after a Loss
That is what I was thinking today when a co organizer for my pregnancy/new moms group told me that another girl lost her full term baby and that I should stop emailing her on our listserv and when I said how horrible she must feel and I would def make sure to take her off because I know how it feels having 6 m/c the co org said no you wouldn't because this was a full term real baby

Um wtf, I wanted to smack her.
6 m/c
Anovulatory cycles, increased Synthroid Diagnosed Sep 2010
Natural cycle Dec 2010 BFP M/C 6 1/2 Weeks, D&E Jan 2011
1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011
Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks
1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks
Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
DQ ALPHA HLA MATCH, High NK Cells Diagnosed Dec 2011
IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone)
IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone)
Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells
Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone) 
Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
Nov/Dec 2012 LIT Treatment
Dec 12 Humira
Jan 2013 BFP
Humira,LIT,Prednisone, Lovenox, IVIG, Baby Aspirin
Miracle Born August 2013 Premature

Yours doesn't have to be a sad story


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    Mom2anAngel2Mom2anAngel2 member
    OMG!!! I want to smack her too! How completely insensitive. I don't think I will ever understand why people just don't get it.

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    BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13

    BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks

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    KJsbabeKJsbabe member
    So when exactly does a baby become "real"?? 30w? 20w? 12w? What's her magic number where babies go from being clearly "fake" to actual "real" babies??

    What a b!tch...
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    BFP #2 11/3/10; BO at u/s 10w6d 12/16/10; Natural MC 1/7/11; D&C 4/21/11
    BFP #3 10/27/11 Please stick, LO!! 2/6/12 It's a Girl! Alexis Grace born 6/29/12
    BFP#4 4/27/14 Stick, stick, stick!! 8/11/14 It's a Boy! Evan Wesley born 1/8/15
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    luvbostonluvboston member
    andrea ri 80 said:

    Thoughts and prayers for the mama :(

     

    Sorry, it seems like the other woman could have chosen her words better and it probably hurt your feelings, she maybe a loss mom herself, but I do definitely think experiencing miscarriage(s) is different from infant loss or late term loss.  Clearly, it is all painful, but differently so. 

    I know for a fact this bitch never lost anything because I know her she has always thought I was a mutant for one reason or the other she told me I was high risk for delivering at a certain hosp. And when I told her I was having a c section it was the end of the world.

    6 m/c
    Anovulatory cycles, increased Synthroid Diagnosed Sep 2010
    Natural cycle Dec 2010 BFP M/C 6 1/2 Weeks, D&E Jan 2011
    1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011
    Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks
    1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks
    Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
    DQ ALPHA HLA MATCH, High NK Cells Diagnosed Dec 2011
    IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone)
    IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone)
    Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells
    Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone) 
    Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
    Nov/Dec 2012 LIT Treatment
    Dec 12 Humira
    Jan 2013 BFP
    Humira,LIT,Prednisone, Lovenox, IVIG, Baby Aspirin
    Miracle Born August 2013 Premature

    Yours doesn't have to be a sad story


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    orangegogglesorangegoggles member
    andrea ri 80 said:

    Thoughts and prayers for the mama :(

     

    Sorry, it seems like the other woman could have chosen her words better and it probably hurt your feelings, she maybe a loss mom herself, but I do definitely think experiencing miscarriage(s) is different from infant loss or late term loss.  Clearly, it is all painful, but differently so. 

    This was kind of what I was thinking too. It sounds like the girl (the one who told you that) is a biotch though and probably used the opportunity to make a rude and hurtful comment towards you. Instead of saying anything she should have kept her feelings to herself. Every loss is tragic but they are all different form one another, I don't think they can measured. 
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    BFP #2 7.23.11 ~ EDD 3.28.12 ~ MC on 8.16.11
    BFP #3 11.17.11~ EDD 7.31.12 ~ MC on 1.18.12
    BFP #4 4.12.12 ~ EDD 12.25.12~ Born on 12.26.12
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