d&e

jonahsma

Has anyone else had a d&e?? We were 23 Weeks and had a d&e I wish I would have delivered then I would have gotten to hold my Emily.

bunnybun4

On my iPad so apologies for weird formatting... I had a d&e at 19 weeks...I had several pretty unique circumstances and I don't really know if I had any other options. At the time I couldn't even fathom delivering her so I was glad to do the d&e without any questions. Looking back now, yes it hurts that I didn't get time with her...but I just have to give myself some grace and remember that at the time that was the best decision I could make in a very limited amount of time, we did what we had to do to make it thru a very horrific circumstance. I also tell myself that now I can think about her as the sweet little wiggling baby on our us and not whatever she would have looked like when we had to have her. I know it hurts that we never got to hold our lo's but we just have to remember that we just did what we had to do. ((Hugs))

princezjk

I agree with marylaurena.  Someone at my IRL support group shared some advice she had received from a fellow loss mom that has helped me on days where I beat myself up for not taking enough pictures of Izzie.  "Forgive yourself for decisions you made on the worst day of your life"  I think this is the same sentiment marylaurena was sharing, but this mantra has been helpful to me and hope it can help you as well.  (((hugs)))

jonahsma

Thanks ladies . Hugs and blessings to you all!