Pregnant after dating a short time.

Seppinger

I love my boyfriend we've only been together 6 months and I'm pregnant after our first trip away together. It's defanitly out of order wanted to be married but we've talked about it and still very excited. He really is a great guy and I wish we would've waiting but I am really happy!! Anyone pregnant in a kinda of new relationship and any advice?

hab83

This happened my first pregnancy with my now 5 year old.  My then boyfriend (now husband) and I had been together just four months when we found out we were expecting a little one.  Talk about a shock!  We agreed to give our relationship time before deciding to get married, vowing we would marry out of love for each other and not only because of our child.  We moved in together in July of 2008, about nine months into our relationship and had our precious daughter in September.  He proposed in May of 2009, we were married 1/29/10.  It CAN work out ok, though I will say I feel extremely lucky since things could have gone very differently.  I guess my advice would be to try not to stress about it (MUCH easier said than done) and try to focus on your relationship with each other as much as possible before baby gets here.

 

Good luck!

tealowl

S/O and I have been dating less than a year, but fell in love within 2 weeks of dating...a total rarity. This is our second pregnancy together, the first we lost.

It can def work out. I dated and married someone that was an almost decade long relationship and still divorced. Length of relationships don't mean anything to me.

If someone horrible would happen and we would break up and still have a child, we've already had the discussion that we would still co parent a child positively together.

beltonjc1

He sounds like a really great guy!! I'm very happy for you two. I would suggest you take a couples class. Lots of places have premarital/marriage classes to build strong relationships. Babies change things and a good class can bring up questions in a fun way that you had never considered before issues even come up. I'd also suggest you find other couple friends with little babies or who are pregnant too. Lastly, I'd suggest you guys find a great church with great people if you don't already have one or that's something you'd be willing to try. Anything you can do to focus on the two of you and build a strong network of support around you. My husband and I don't have family close and weren't really plugged in with our neighbors when our first arrived. Now I'm expecting our third, and I know lots of families going through the same stuff from ttc, breast feeding, worrying about daycare, potty training, crazy inlaws, and everything in between, it really helps (both of you)to have lots of people you can talk to over coffee or dinner who are in the same boat. Hth

Seppinger

Thanks ladies for the feed back makes me feel a lot better with the great success stories. I love BT a lot and O wouldn't to be with anyone else and getting ready to have a baby. I feel like he was sent to me and I will try to focus on us as we prepare for the little one!