Hi Ladies,
I am still nursing my almost 20 month old DD and we just found out we are pregnant with number 2 (due early July). I'm feeling ok so far but my boobs do hurt. DD has been demanding nursing and I am just so exhausted. She is still in our bed which I don't mind but she nurses all night long. We tried nightweaning when she was 15 months and it just didn't work and we never tried again.
My midwife told me that most of the time toddlers wean on their own when mom gets pregnant. I don't know. She doesn't seem to want to wean anytime soon. If anything, she has become more demanding with it. What has your experience been? Also, if she doesn't wean than what do I do when the new baby comes? I didn't plan on weaning her but now that I am pregnant and my boobs hurt, I would at least like her to not be nursing as much.
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Every kid is different, of course, and there's no predicting what will happen, but I thought I'd share my experience. Congrats again!
Thanks! Yes we are also going to try to slowly and gently transition her to her own room. We are getting a twin matress and we're just going to start by putting it on the floor in her room. The idea is that I can lay with her and then remove myself once she's asleep.
You make the weaning sound so easy. I have been telling her that nursies have yie yie(Spanish for boo boo). During the day it has worked but nighttime is a whole other story. Last night I had had it with the nursing and I finally told her nursies yie yie and she kicked and screamed and threw a full on tantrum. The only thing that calmed her was DH gave her a bottle of milk.
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I never thought I would tandem nurse, but it works for us. Neither J. nor A. ever seemed bothered by a change nor supply while I was pregnant. That's my way of saying that each kid is different and you won't know if yours will wean while you are pregnant or not until it happens (or not).
It's absolutely okay for you to set limits. I am most likely going to drop A.'s midmorning nursing session soon.
As for what you do when baby arrives, you keep nursing (if you want to). Baby always gets to nurse when baby wants to. And if older LO wants to nurse, you nurse them if you're okay with it. I highly recommend introducing a phrase like "mommy's milk is resting." When I tell A. that, it's easier for her to deal with not being able to nurse.
Congrats on the pregnancy!
Regarding my experience, I too became pg with #2 at around 20m. I decided to night wean right around his 2nd birthday because night nursing was making me miserable. He took it in stride, despite being up every few hours to nurse. I simply told him that nursies were sleeping, and he fussed a bit and then went back to sleep. He never truly cried though initially. We've had a few set backs here/there, basically if I ever let him nurse at night it opens the flood gates so I have to be very strict and he is happy. We still bedshare BTW.
I know a lot of women report LO weaning due to changes in milk/drying up of supply but that has not been my experience. I work FT so during the week he only nurses am, before bed and occasionally when I first get home but not always then. He used to nurse every day when I got home, but I don't beleive it's pg that's changed things just that he's gotten older. Hard to know for sure though. During the weekends, he'll ask to nurse throughout the day if we're home not doing much but if we're busy or out in public he rarely asks. I was always open to tandem nursing when #2 arrives and now that it's getting close I see that being reality.
IMO there are two people to consider - mom/baby. If you're not happy with the nursing situation you can change it. LO may not like it, but sometimes that's how things go. And I don't think you need to make a decision now. Setting limits in terms of number of sessions and their duration may help you get past the initial discomforts. GL!