Fuuuuuuuck

WasNotWas

I just got this e-mail from my MIL:

In regards to Thanksgiving, I must have "misunderstood" you last week when you mentioned that your Thanksgiving was going to be at your Mom's or your house, since some of your Mom's family was coming.  Sorry my bad.... I spoke to Jim and he decided it would be at his house and Mike, Carole and Aleksandra have been invited to his house.  I'm sorry and hope you're not upset!!!

Jim lives 20 minutes from me.

Is this a good thing or a bad thing?

anustart

I don't get it. 

shadypines

I need more info...

angelashly

Did you want them there?

WasNotWas

I asked my MIL who was coming and what they were bringing for Thanksgiving and that's how she responded...that they were going to have Thanksgiving at my (single) BIL's house 20 min from me. I had told her that my mom was inviting my aunt and uncle and she took that to mean she wasn't invited...I guess

WasNotWas

My MIL also thinks I hate her...she called MH crying the day after I gave birth to Tyler saying that I must hate her because when she came to visit I didn't even look at her...she also calls me ungrateful. She gets me elaborate gifts (Burberry scarves and Coach purses) and no matter how I thank her, she makes it a point to call me ungrateful.

WasNotWas

I don't dislike her, but she is BSC and a pathological liar. I just don't want this to be an issue...

shadypines

justAphase said:

Good riddance, I say

+1

WasNotWas

@justAphase that's where I'm leaning...she's just a masterful guilt tripper so I'm trying to consider all the angles...

flyingsaucer

LOl at your MIL writing "my bad". I would call her to talk or have your H call. Emailing with these things never ends well

LuckyDad

When she put "misunderstood" in quotes, it makes it sound a lot bitchier than if she hadn't used the quotes.

WasNotWas

LuckyDad said:

When she put "misunderstood" in quotes, it makes it sound a lot bitchier than if she hadn't used the quotes.

YES. and the hope you're not upset (triple exclamation)

KTdidit

Yeah that sounds pretty bitchy and full of drama. Have your H call her and explain that they aren't NOT invited, don't want her using that as ammo for some stupid all-about-her argument at a later date.

WasNotWas

kaholland4 said:

Yeah that sounds pretty bitchy and full of drama. Have your H call her and explain that they aren't NOT invited, don't want her using that as ammo for some stupid all-about-her argument at a later date.

My H was in your same wavelength. He's addressing it now. Just gonna say you were never not invited, you know where we live and what we are doing that day

LuckyDad

WasNotWas said:

LuckyDad said:

When she put "misunderstood" in quotes, it makes it sound a lot bitchier than if she hadn't used the quotes.

YES. and the hope you're not upset (triple exclamation)

Points to her for using "you're" and not your or *shudder* ur.

WasNotWas

@luckydad I feel like every word was chosen with care

MrsT0514

Add me to the AWish MIL club. Although she's gotten better over the years, she still seems to think part of the world should revolve around her and her plans.

@WasNotWas I think YH is handling this the right way. Just let her know she's obviously invited, but if she has other plans, then so be it.

Gotta love drama queens.

WasNotWas

@mrst0514 I am so the anti-passive aggressive person so it's hard to let this shit go. But she's gonna be around for a while so I've got to step back and let H handle it. As long as we stay same team all is well

MrsT0514

WasNotWas said:

@mrst0514 I am so the anti-passive aggressive person so it's hard to let this shit go. But she's gonna be around for a while so I've got to step back and let H handle it. As long as we stay same team all is well

Yep. This is my take on it as well. As long as DH and I stay on the same team, is what matters. She just likes to throw hissy fits now and again. I try my best to kill her with kindness while still getting my point across. Whats that saying again? You get a lot more with honey than vinegar? Yep...that.

randomsalpal

I deal with difficult family members all the time. I would just not put any thought into her stupid email.  Go to the dinner and kill her with kindness....Bitchy people hate that. Have several glasses of wine in front her, as well, she will love that. 

LoveActually4

Those quotations make me ragey.

WasNotWas

randomsalpal what's great is she isn't going to be at our dinner! The Thanksgiving that she is planning is at my BIL's house 20 minutes from ours. MH is like eff it, if she doesn't want to come over, that's fine.

@loveactually4 between the quotations and the triple exclamations after I hope you're not upset...

LoveActually4

@wasnotwas I didn't even make it to the exclamation points. I read "misunderstood" and was all

WasNotWas

LoveActually4 said:

@wasnotwas I didn't even make it to the exclamation points. I read "misunderstood" and was all

I'll be sure to "speak up" next time...

LoveActually4

WasNotWas said:

LoveActually4 said:

@wasnotwas I didn't even make it to the exclamation points. I read "misunderstood" and was all

I'll be sure to "speak up" next time...

Clearly, this was all your fault.