Coed baby shower invite wording question?

Laurenandshaun

Hi fellow bumpies, I need your input. I went to a shower earlier this year and they had the traditional shower for the ladies and the men celebrated in the man cave separately and did a chuggies for huggies gathering with beer and food. Mostly beer Most of my husbands friends would not be caught dead at a traditional shower but I thought their party was a good idea as the dad to be can celebrate too. The dad to be came up when it was time to open presents. My question is this...I like this except for the fact of requiring the men to bring diapers...one joint gift is more than enough in my opinion! Just want the men to be included and have fun in the man cave....how would the host word this type of party on the invitation? Would it say coed shower even though the men arent partaking in the traditional shower? Or send out baby shower invites to the women but put something to say men are invited?or should my husband just message the guys he wants to invite separately? Or is it rude if some men are allowed to come and others aren't invited to bring their significant other? Any ideas on how to convey this on an invitation clearly is much appreciated

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EastCoastBride

Personally, I'd just have the husband reach out to his buddies who he'd like to hang out w/ and just say "Hey- come w/ your wife and hang out w/ me.". 

If they really aren't being expected to come to the shower, I wouldn't invite them to the shower.  They probably won't come! 

bumpuser794640

We wanted our male friends to feel comfortable coming, but not pressured, so I asked the hostesses to include this line on the invitations:

"Spouses and significant others are welcome to join the celebration!"

DH doesn't have any male friends that we're not also friends with the female half of the couple, so we just addressed the invites to the women, and H has been letting the guys know that they're welcome when he talks to them as well.

shaunessa

Darbie914 said:

EastCoastBride said:

Personally, I'd just have the husband reach out to his buddies who he'd like to hang out w/ and just say "Hey- come w/ your wife and hang out w/ me.". 

If they really aren't being expected to come to the shower, I wouldn't invite them to the shower.  They probably won't come! 

The bolded.  I don't understand the reasoning behind having a co-ed shower if the men will be in some other area doing their own thing.  The point of having a co-ed shower is to have everyone join in the celebration together, not basically have 2 separate parties in the same place.

Honestly, I'd let the guys plan to do their own thing on the day of the shower.  Or if you really want them there, have them partake in the whole shower without special activities for them.  

This.  I don't like the idea of them being there, but not really being there.  Either they partake or do something else away from the shower itself.

SingleMom31

I second having your husband reach out to his friends. "Hey guys, While Lauren and the ladies are doing their shower thing, you're welcome to come over and keep me company. We'll have plenty of cold beer and the game/movie/____ on. -Shaun"

Laurenandshaun

Thank you ladies for the suggestions!