Getting grief for baby name

jldubb0626

My mom is the only one who's ever said anything about our name choices. She HATED DS #1 name, but bottom line it's your child and you are the only one who has to like it. FTR, I don't see how anyone could be upset about Noah.

mrsjenni

Sometimes you just need to tell people to fuck off.

Let me tell you a little story.  When we were naming our first son, we were getting opinions from everyone.  And that doesn't really bother me too much... I kind of have a "I don't really care what you think" attitude when it comes to names anyway.  Well when DH and I finally decided on the name Carter, we told everyone that asked.  Of course MIL still had something to say... "have you thought about this? What about this?"  even when I told her the name was 100% decided.  When she continued to say stuff I had to put her in her place... "Listen MIL, this is OUR kid and we picked a name we both love.  You had your chance to name your kid.  You picked BOB.  But thanks for your advice."

I love my MIL, I really do, but she just wouldn't stop.  Since then she hasn't said a damn thing about any of our names.  And I don't blame her.  

AnnikaD20

What's wrong with Noah? It's a really great name.

We're not telling anyone because I don't want to hear any comments, and I don't think it's that important for all the church ladies to be able to embroider his name onto burp cloths.

peanutmuse

mrsjenni said:

 When she continued to say stuff I had to put her in her place... "Listen MIL, this is OUR kid and we picked a name we both love.  You had your chance to name your kid.  You picked BOB.  But thanks for your advice."

I think this is the best advice/statement right here, @mrsjenni. Bottom line, just tell people -- you can pick your kids' names, your dog's name, your cat's name, etc. But you can't pick MY kid's name. Period.

BabyHokie2014

This is why we don't tell anyone!  DD was her name when we announced her birth and no one could say anything about it!  We have a short list now, and I know its killing our parents not to know, but they know we won't tell and its almost comical to see them squirm with impatience :-)

Hkula

We haven't really gotten any negative feedback , but I think next time around we'll keep it to ourselves. Like @peanutmuse said it's hard enought to find one both parents like with out the off hand comments from everyone else.

FSUNole31

We finally have (almost) agreed on a name, but yesterday DH asked his mom what she thought and she didn't care for it so now she keeps texting name suggestions.  I made it very clear to DH that it better not sway him away from a name we have finally agreed on since finding out she was a girl in August!

jessicacss

H and I could not agree on a name for the baby until the very end!  So fortunately, as a FTM, I didn't have too much stress from others.  But when we finally chose Chloe, he wanted it to have a K instead of a C.  I don't know why it made me cringe so much, but he finally relented when the lady from Social Security came to ask for her info.  

With this pregnancy, I have been discussing different names that I like with my mom, and she says that sounds lovely to me.  Well, yesterday, my sister came over, and she was skyping with my mom on her cell, and my mom starts saying all these weird names.  I got so upset, that I just shouted out, is Cassandra (my 21 year old, single sister) pregnant?!?!  I *hope* that we finally agreed on the name for this little girl, and my mom is discussing what I should name it with my younger sister?  I was furious! 

As most other people have said, I love the name Noah, if I ever have another one, and it's a boy, we will definitely go biblical

mommabird77

Everyone has an opinion.  I was much more affected by people's opinions when I was having my first.  I think it was due to being an unsure new mom, and I have a wanting to please personality.  Well, I did have one, that has kind of gone away.  Now, I could give two shits whether people like it or not, it's my child.  This is your child, they got to name their children, it is your turn to name yours.  They will deal.

 

megs12914

@hopeful808-- Yep. Those are my english bulldogs. I love them to death. I always tell people that if you want a dog that does what it's told or is fairly smart than they are not the dogs for you!

Rebis58

We've been pretty open with our names when people have asked (Norah or Julian - team green). Nobody has said anything negative about either name, but we've had a lot of people react by saying something like "Oh, I love Norah" (ignoring Julian) or have commented about Julian being "interesting" or "unique" or asking where we came up with it. I think it's kind of funny - I've never thought of Julian as unique.

I can't imagine what anyone's problem with Noah could be, it's a great name

HereWeGo2

MamaP19 said:

We told a few people names that we were considering for DD, but almost everyone had something negative to say. The name was too old sounding, too unique, reminded them of someone they hate, or they just didn't like it. We learned our lesson and kept the final two choices to ourselves. People hated that we wouldn't share but we knew that their negativity would sway us from a name we really loved.

We learned this with our first. Fortunatly it was a boy name that was ruined for us and we ended up having a girl. We learned the hard way not to tell though. Hard to do, but not worth having the "perfect name" ruined for us! For some reason (almost) no one says bad things about the name once the baby is here.
Unfortunatly this has become the "unsolicited advice" we offer our friends when they announce they are expecting...

Witt0878

I know the feeling! My family had a war over the name my husband and I chose for our son! All that matters is that you guys like it that is what we've come to!

rowanthefrog

Ugh, I hate that. Thankfully people never gave us flack for our older sons' names. We've kept this one a secret just bc its a surprise that we are naming him after my dad, but people have already made many comments about us not doing another E name. I swear, as if its anyone's business but yours!! I see why some people keep the name a secret. Noah is a wonderful name and if you love it then let those comments roll right off your back!

As a side note, a good friend of mine named her a daughter a name that I just...wasn't a fan of. Of course I never said a thing to her while she was pregnant (not my business!!!) and now I can't imagine her daughter with any other name! I don't even think about how I didn't like it before. So people will come around and forget that they didn't like it once he's here, I promise!

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WinsyWade

The only negative opinion came from my step-mom.. Super predictable. Apparently Annabelle is the name of a cow in a childrens book. When she said it outloud I think she felt like an ass and she laughed all awkwardly. Too bad lady, it's already set.

jblank03

megs12914 said:

@BuckeyeANG-- My mom wanted me to use Jack (her father's name) and I am still keeping it on the table. The in-laws don't love it. I just keep getting friends telling me it's too popular (my only concern) or suggesting other one because they don't like it. I guess that's part of the problem when you tell people because then you get their feedback!

Our baby is Noah too   When DH and I tell people the name it's more in the context of "This is the kid's name" as opposed to this is going to be his name.  Maybe it's in my head, but I feel like it's stopped some people from making stupid comments because they realized the decision has been made, that's his name, don't say something you wouldn't say if I were holding the baby in my arms.

Also, MH threw out the name of Napoleon (I'm still not sure if it was as a joke or not...) so I was very happy we could agree on Noah!