TTC after 35

Can I be happy and sad on the same day?

Tomorrow is my 10 year anniversary and also would have been my EDD for my MC.
I'm trying so hard to just focus in the positive and celebrate my 10 years. But I keep thinking that I should have a baby in my arms when I celebrate.
Ok now that I wrote that I feel so stupid. I am grateful for what I do have and I am not going to let it get me down. I have one beautiful 9 year old son with my husband and I am truly blessed to have him. I want another but I have to accept the fact that it might not happen.
I will only focus on the good tomorrow.
Thank you for letting me get that out.

  Me:39, DH:40

DD born 8/96, DS born 8/04

TTC#3

NTNP since 2006, active trying 1/13

Natural M/C 3/13 at 7 weeks

CP 2/14

Daisypath Anniversary tickers

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Re: Can I be happy and sad on the same day?

  • I had a conversation over lunch with my husband and I was excited/hopeful and then knocked myself down in the next breath.  Sorry you're having a tough time. Happiest of anniversaries tomorrow--in spite of the sad feelings about the miscarriage. That's a tough one.

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    Me: 37--Thyroid Cancer survivor. H:38. DS born 6/22/2011; BFP#2--11/5/12--Missed miscarriage discovered 12/21/2012.  BFP#3--5/20/14--another MMC 6/16/14.
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  • I hope you and your DH can find a way to celebrate despite the sadness associated with the date. 10 years is a lot to celebrate and I hope you can find some thing to make it a wonderful day for you and your hubby!
    *TW below*
    Me: 40 DH: 38
    TTC since November 2012
    BFP IUI Cycle 2 Dec 2016
    Baby Boy Due Sept 12 2017
    Elias (Eli) born 9/2/17 at 7:07pm weight 8lbs 10oz and 20.5 inches long!!


  • Congrats on 10!! that is an accomplishment! I think its ok to be happy and sad at the same time. wishing you peace for you day. I hope you enjoy your day.

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    Me: 41 DH: 46. We are TTC our 1st, started July '11,
    3 cycles clomid with Ob,
    1 cycle Tamoxifen with Ob,
    Diagnosed PCOS 11/5/12
    clomid, trigger & timed bd 12/12 BFN
    1st clomid IUI 1/4/13 BFN.
    2nd clomid IUI 2/13 cancelled didn't respond to clomid.
    3/15/13 scheduled laparoscopy & on bcp.

    May 10 IUI from injectibles - BFN 

    May 22 done with interventions it will either happen or it won't. 

    February 2014 No longer actively trying, but not preventing. 

    SURPISE BFP 4/2/2015!!!!!!!!!!

    Miscarriage 4/23/15

     

  • I completely understand your conflicting emotions. My EDD was October 19. I had such anxiety leading up to the day so I made sure to plan fun things on that day and celebrate all the blessings I do have. Oddly enough I felt relieved once the day passed since I had been dreading it for 6 months.
  • Congrats on 10 years! Hoping you two do something nice and also something to remember your EDD. HUGS...

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!


     

     

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  • I can't thank you all enough for your kind words and understanding.

      Me:39, DH:40

    DD born 8/96, DS born 8/04

    TTC#3

    NTNP since 2006, active trying 1/13

    Natural M/C 3/13 at 7 weeks

    CP 2/14

    Daisypath Anniversary tickers

             imageimage

    All welcome

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