STM-- Vent and honest answers please

Chelsea33833

This is my first baby and I am anticipating a very rough few months (maybe longer!) after baby is born simply based off the horror stories everyone feels they HAVE to tell me about their pregnancy. I am achy and strange things are happening to my body but overall it's been a fairly easy pregnancy. I HATE the "you just wait" comment because I do believe it's based off their experiences, their feelings and not necessarily how my experience will go. And for the fact that I hate anyone telling me how things will be without offering up any helpful advice. When I tell people I am having a boy, they immediately groan and tell me I'm "in for a lot of work!" Thanks for your opinion but if you are just going to throw out negative comments then I don't have time for it! People maybe just don't realize how negative they come off sometimes.

SFmissionmama

mrsjenni said:

It's all hard.

This.  However.  I'll take caring for a newborn - even the first few weeks - over being pregnant any day.  

quidditchcapn1120

I have had rough pregnancies so my view is tainted by that. In addition, DS was SUCH an easy baby- easy to console, great sleeper, great nurser, never sick.

So, for me, pregnancy is harder. Especially the end of pregnancy.

shortstuff15

I like the comparison of apples to cucumbers.  They are both so different, yet hard in their own ways.  For me, each pregnancy has gotten harder and this pregnancy is hands down harder than either of my newborns were.  I still don't like to complain because my pregnancies are cakewalk compared to some, but for me I would take newborn status over pregnancy any day.

ksonne

Both are difficult, but personally I feel that caring for a newborn is more difficult. It's the constant sleep deprivation that makes it so hard. Sleeping in 1-2 hour increments night after night, and week after week is completely draining and a whole new level of exhaustion. However, it is the MOST rewarding experience as well.

angiek1

It goes in stages. When I look back I can easily say this was hard, but not as hard as x,y,z. It all preps you for what is next, builds your tolerance, etc. I have a 2 year old and I will say at times a newborn is easier, but then I'll also say I love how independent DD is.