For those who already have two, is this normal?

tessajd · November 2013

Tonight was the last time I put #1 to bed before Thursday's C-section for #2. Is it normal that I balled doing it (without DD seeing the tears)?? I feel so sad that things are going to change. She has been my everything for 23 months.

I also feel petrified about the work that's about to begin!!!

JulyMomma2U2 · November 2013

It's normal. I bawled my eyes out the morning I was admitted to the hospital... In the moment, I was feeling SO much guilt guilt that my DS1s world was gonna change completely.. But, nearly 4 months later.. I can honestly say DS1 absolutely adores his little brother.. And I honestly don't feel like anyone is shorted on attention.. I've learned how to always incorporate them both so no one is ever left out,, even for bedtime , while im feeding DS2, DS1 plays in his bedroom and I'm able to talk to him and such.. Really, I remember being right where you are, and now I know all that anxiety was for nothing!! Good luck on Thursday!!!

crazybride5705 · November 2013

Well my 2u2 was not planned, my son was 2 months old when I found out that I was pregnant again plus I had two older children. When I found out I cried my eyes out, I didn't think I would be able to have two small children so close in age. But I had the second baby on baby #1 birthday, and they will be 6&7 this year. If I can do it anyone can:)

memali26 · November 2013

Yep. When I said good bye to DD1 before leaving for my induction I lost it the second the door closed behind me. I was sad to leave her for 4 days, I was sad to know she wasn't my only any more, I was scared of how I'd handle two. DD1 was just about 19 months old and honestly, she barely noticed things changed when her sister came home. Now they are 2 and 3 and best friends, and I'm really looking forward to giving them another sibling. But I'm sure I'll still bawl like a baby when I head in to have this one, I think it's totally normal

laura1 · November 2013

Yup - I did the same thing. Both times. But you all adjust - it becomes the new normal. And as they get older they become BFFs (and partners in crime). And they both love DD#2 and she loves them right back. You will be fine!

FmrAFBrat · November 2013

It's normal. I rocked DS for about an hour and held him the morning I was in labor. I was so sad when we dropped him at my mom's house on the way to the hospital. I knew that his little life was about to change forever and I felt guilt over it.

He has adjusted just fine though and he LOVES his little brother.

michelle7482 · November 2013

It is yes it is. I didn't feel any mommy guilt my whole pregnancy, which was planned, but the night before and the morning of my induction I cried my eyes out

shj5u · November 2013

So normal, but it doesn't make it any easier when it's happening to you. I had mom guilt my whole pregnancy with DS2 and totally cried after putting my DS1 to bed for the last time before heading to the hospital. While I can't change how I felt, I wish I hadn't felt like I was losing something or betraying DS1 on some level. DS1 just turned 3, and DS2 is 16 months old. I am still SO close to my DS1 (he's a clingy little guy

, and DS2 is just a giant ray of sunshine. I don't think anyone has felt slighted, and it is nothing short of fantastic having the both of them.

Weird, weird mom emotions! We are thinking of trying for LO#3, and I am starting to feel the mom guilt all over again--even with a great perspective. Oy vey!