Baby naming

luvboston

We are going to have a baby naming ceremony and I want to somehow say something about all the babies we lost do you think that's appropriate when we are supposed to be celebrating LO? Also what would you say ESP if everyone doesn't know what we went through ?

kaf7

I'm not sure what your religious beliefs are, but could you say something along the lines of how you know that your LO is watched over by 6 little angels? Or something like that incorporating how you feel your other babies are a part of LO's life? I think the key is to not dwell on the losses but to honour them and celebrate the miracle you have now and it doesn't really matter if not everyone understands the sentiment. Does that make sense?

Mrs.AmyDylan

Are you intending for everyone to know about your past losses? You mention that not everyone knows. If you are ready to share can you put something in the program for the naming so you aren't answering a ton of questions. 

I love @kaf7 idea, but if you weren't intending to share specifically can you have six candles previously lit somewhere in the area where you are doing the naming as a more silent representation?

As for the appropriateness, it is your baby, your ceremony. I think it is perfectly reasonable to be respectful of loss even in a time of joyous celebration. 

kzawisl

I love Amy's IDE of six candles, and maybe a note in the program explaining the significance?

Dragonfly1226

I think the idea of having six candles is awesome!

MoFree

I also think that lighting six candles is a meaningful way to acknowledge your previous losses.

If you don't mind me asking, in what religion or denomination is the baby naming?

nycbride0707

I'm assuming you are Jewish since that is the ceremony for Jewish baby girls. Personally, I'd rather just focus on the beautiful baby you have now. Candles aren't typically part of a Jewish ceremony, but it is a nice idea if that is something you wanted to do (although people might ask why, since its not the norm). If you or DH are speaking, maybe you can make mention of the fact that you waited a long time for this baby, and it wasn't an easy road (without going into specifics).

luvboston

MoFree said:

I also think that lighting six candles is a meaningful way to acknowledge your previous losses.


If you don't mind me asking, in what religion or denomination is the baby naming?

Jewish