Are you a pregnancy one-upper?

tootsscott

When your pregnant (or formerly pregnant) friends/family talk about their pregnancy, do you feel the need to one-up them because you're having multiples??? I really feel like it whenever anybody says anything to me, but I try to remember that their experience is just as real, hard, terrifying as mine is!

For example:

I'm 31 weeks and had my friend come over Friday to do my dishes, vacuum and basically do a quick clean of my house.. SUPER appreciated it, I tried to 'help' along the way but most of my time was spent sitting on the couch making her 6 mo old laugh while she did everything. I'd explained to her that I hate asking for help and that even though I know she wasn't looking at me like I was lazy, I felt the need to help out. She insisted that the next time she came to help, she would expect me to sit on the couch and keep my feet up.. and she would even drop her kids at her parents house so I didn't even have to bother with them. HA!

So at church yesterday, I graciously thanked her again for her help on Friday, and one of our other pregnant friends (just one baby, 29 wks pg) chimes in and says '[Friend], when are you going to come and clean MY house?!' ... This girl is still working and insists on working until she goes into labour (fine!), and has had a very healthy pregnancy.. she posts all these elaborate meals she cooks on facebook, etc. It took everything in me to be like ' What are you talking about.. clean your own damned house!" ... but I didn't!  

Anybody else feel like this? 

jezebel57

i am in awe of anyone who can still stand up at this point. lol.  

i'm only 27 weeks but do feel inclined to say things when others share their pregnancy stories about how big they were, how they felt, etc... that this is a completely different experience i'm betting.  this is my first pregnancy so i don't know how carrying a singleton feels, and luckily i've been blessed with a pretty good pregnancy thus far, but the risks are completely different, my body is completely different, and every pregnancy is different.  so i do find myself saying "you have no idea how i feel" when they start sharing.  

JordynLeighx3

The only time I ever felt inclined to say this is when friends of mine pregnant with singletons roughly 30 weeks or even 40 weeks complained about how uncomfortable they were. When at 30 weeks for me, I was already measuring nearly a month overdue and still had 8 weeks to go.
I kept those thoughts to myself though. We're all uncomfortable.

CaliCarly77

Amylou333 said:

That being said, the person who asked me to volunteer to deep clean my church when I'm 32w because "I wont be too far along by that point" came dangerously close to a face punch! 
At this point, if I bend down to scrub the floor- there's a real chance I'll never get up again haha

Hah!! I was asked to teach a class an hour away at the end of this month - I thought it was a practical joke!!! It apparently is NOT!!! People don't get it - I can't walk a block. I just can't. Let alone shop or clean for more than 15 minutes (I put on a timer so I don't over do it and have BHs)

I have to really bite my tongue - I have 4 friends all pregnant due the same week as I am or around then, its so weird. So...yeah, I just don't say anything.