the comments you wish they would have held back...

Christinaruth74

anybody respond with their pre-announcement observations after you spilled the beans?

my uncle, whom i hadn't seen in a few months, upon hearing the news said, "Oh! Ya know, I was gonna ask you about that."
To which my DH said in a hushed voice, "You're not suppose to say that..."

then when we went completely public, a very well-intentioned woman whispered that she had noticed my hips had gotten wider.

I know it's mostly bloat, but I have been feeling like much farther along than I actually am...which makes these comments all the more disheartening.  I'm just going with it though.  bring on the bloat and the belly bands....we're in it for the long haul.

anyone else have some not-so-flattering responses?

yvanehtnioj

Haha yes just this weekend we told my BIL & his fiance. She was like "I KNEW IT!!! Your boobs are huge!" Didn't bother me too much though. They are huge.

rebecca1198

My FIL said "Oh, that explains the pooch." I could've killed him.

Christinaruth74

rebecca1198 said:

My FIL said "Oh, that explains the pooch." I could've killed him.

OH EM GEE.

Christinaruth74

yvanehtnioj said:

Haha yes just this weekend we told my BIL & his fiance. She was like "I KNEW IT!!! Your boobs are huge!" Didn't bother me too much though. They are huge.

ugh. i would much rather have the size of my boobs be the telltale sign and not my ever-widening hips.

Miles2Go

My mother keeps telling me how others (namely her mom and sister) think I'm getting "chubby". That makes me feel great, thanks for sharing, Mom.

Laura_Elaine

I got my BFP when I was 4 weeks and some-odd days... we told my parents the next day, and my mom said "when we were over two weeks ago, you looked kind of pale and I wondered if you were pregnant again." Not necessarily rude, but two weeks before my BFP would have been around the conception date... and I don't experience MS, but even if I got MS, I doubt I would have had it immediately following conception!

My dad, once again (as he did when I was pregnant with #3) asked that he thought we would have figured out what causes this by now... *that's* irksome, especially coming from close family, and awkward to answer to your dad and my response, to my dad or to strangers, is that yes, we know... we love each other. But it makes me want to question why they (strangers who ask) obviously no longer have sex, as evidenced by their single child.

CamrynnsMommy

I had an acquaintance fb message me and ask me if the baby was planned and how we could afford another because they were struggling to figure out how they were going to pay for a second baby.

Christinaruth74

CamrynnsMommy said:

I had an acquaintance fb message me and ask me if the baby was planned and how we could afford another because they were struggling to figure out how they were going to pay for a second baby.

yikes. that's sweet.

yvanehtnioj

savannah_girl said:

how did you get pregnant if you still Co-Sleep.

LOL. Yeah cause the only place people ever do it is in their beds, at night, with the lights off, in missionary.

Christinaruth74

speaking of "at work", i told my supervisor pretty early on for a number of reasons and she has this adorable habit of staring at my stomach while we are mid-conversation.  it's as though the growth of my belly could be likened to Pinocchio's nose....it will magically happen right before her eyes.

kiyamurph

I just hate it when people have to tell me all of the symptoms I'm going to have because they had it.  For instance, one of my coworkers asked me if I've been throwing up at all and I said that I feel nauseous sometimes, especially after I eat, but I haven't been barfing.  Then she said, "oh just you wait, you'll start throwing up soon because I know when I was pregnant I couldn't stop" and blah blah blah.  Just because you barfed your damn brains out doesn't mean I will too.  I've had several of these, oh you will because I did comments and it annoys the hell out me!

CamrynnsMommy

savannah_girl said:

how did you get pregnant if you still Co-Sleep.

My dad asked me the same thing...my DAD! Awkward! ::shudders::

Christinaruth74

ugh ya, i had a friend comment to me on Facebook that it will only get worse from here (assuming because she had a rough pregnancy). but, let's also factor in the fact that she has, like, rheumatoid arthritis and about a hundred other health problems that clearly played a role in the duration of her pregnancy!

SNOakes

This is slightly different, but I'm sick of hearing "don't worry, it'll all be worth it". When someone asks how I'm feeling and I tell them that I'm very sick, this is all I hear. I already have a son so I'm well aware that it's worth it (and it absolutely is worth it), but that doesn't make 24/7 barfing any more glamorous than it sounds! It still bites!

SNOakes

ErBear1010 said:

A woman at work asked me if it was my husband's......

No way! Please tell me she was joking!

deanna1313

When we told my father-in-law he said "really?! Can you still fly while pregnant?" He lives in Florida most of the year. Not too bad, but when my husband wasn't around he asked me a couple if weird questions. " one being " I bet your happy since this is what you always wanted." I told him that I was shocked and my husband handled it better than me. He didn't believe me! Let's just say we have been married for over a year and are both 31. You would think I was trapping his son with a pregnancy or something!

IBackBevo

I keep getting asked, "How did that happen?"  I know it is because most people know about my medical issues, but it still feels strange...

pjsparkle03

I guess practice made perfect. I was really grossed out

marlow1219

My father-in-law responded with, "I was wondering. Pregnant women tend to look rounder in the face and larger in the chest almost right away." He IS a doctor, but still...I hate to think what he was REALLY thinking of me before we told him!

SurprisePartySue

My MIL asked my husband if we were really ready for this.... It made me so mad! I just wanted to be like. Well I guess not so we must do something about this.... I know I'm young (24) but me and my husband have been married for 3 years, both graduated college, husband owns his own business, and I've been working for the same company for 6 years. And to top it all off we talked about and planned this baby for a year.

kristine526

Wow. So that's why your ass is so wide! From a coworker. Lovely.

tbiscuit18

A Co-worker asked, "Is your husband excited about the idea of a baby?" 

Um...is my husband some kind of animal? WTF. It was planned, of course he's excited, idiot. 

pistolpackinmomma

My grandma asked my mom if we were happy about it and then was shocked when my mom said it was planned. The kids will be 16 months apart.

runningyogimama

Every single person we've told has asked if it was planned, since DD is 7 month old. Yes, it was, but if it wasn't, would that change anything?

pistolpackinmomma

@JmeJme DS just turned 10 months yesterday. I fully expected the planned/don't you know what causes that questions. I didn't anticipate people not believing us when we said it was planned. We tried for 2 months (not a long time but enough to not be an oops) so we clearly knew what we were doing!

pistolpackinmomma

Oh and I was thrown off when my mom asked "So how long did this one take?" Meaning how long we were TTC. I was thisclose to saying about 10-15 minutes but just couldn't bring myself to do it.

TeamKrueger

MeaganStringer said:

My MIL asked my husband if we were really ready for this.... It made me so mad! I just wanted to be like. Well I guess not so we must do something about this.... I know I'm young (24) but me and my husband have been married for 3 years, both graduated college, husband owns his own business, and I've been working for the same company for 6 years. And to top it all off we talked about and planned this baby for a year.

I'll be 24 when my LO arrives and I really don't feel like it's that young. I mean 24 isn't OLD by any means, but I feel like it's a reasonable age to start a family, especially if you know you want to start sooner rather than later. I never had any interest in starting at 30, but a lot of people seem to think that if you're not 30 with 100K/year salary than you can't possibly be ready for children. I would be mad at your MIL too, and probably will be mad at MIL when she undoubtedly says the same thing (she was an unwed freshman in college when she got started, FYI, lol)

pistolpackinmomma

TeamKrueger said:

MeaganStringer said:

My MIL asked my husband if we were really ready for this.... It made me so mad! I just wanted to be like. Well I guess not so we must do something about this.... I know I'm young (24) but me and my husband have been married for 3 years, both graduated college, husband owns his own business, and I've been working for the same company for 6 years. And to top it all off we talked about and planned this baby for a year.

I'll be 24 when my LO arrives and I really don't feel like it's that young. I mean 24 isn't OLD by any means, but I feel like it's a reasonable age to start a family, especially if you know you want to start sooner rather than later. I never had any interest in starting at 30, but a lot of people seem to think that if you're not 30 with 100K/year salary than you can't possibly be ready for children. I would be mad at your MIL too, and probably will be mad at MIL when she undoubtedly says the same thing (she was an unwed freshman in college when she got started, FYI, lol)

I was 23 when I got pregnant with my first (m/c) as well as when getting pregnant with DS. I was 24 by time I delivered and had just turned 25 before getting pregnant this time. Guess I'm a double whammy of young mom with 2u2. I'm also getting sick of the "oh you just stay home with the little one" crap. I love staying home with him but my hard labor job was much easier than chasing him around all day!

momthatlifts

"Most people usually wait to tell people until around second tri because miscarriage is so common"

ho11yday

I've been asked if I was happy (probably because I was crying when I was telling them it for other reasons).

boymum2014

"You look big for 13 weeks"

Ziegeficker

My step-mother said she could tell because my "face looked rounder."

:-|

Mlau32

I didn't tell my mom until week 10 or something...and her response was "does your husband know yet?"

UM. Yeah. LOL nah, maaaa...I'm telling you first at 10 weeks but ssshhh don't tell my husband. *eye roll* haha

JoelleOK

There is a women's group I go to once a month with ladies in their 60-80's. Every time I went they would hound me about getting pregnant so the kids would be close enough or other reasons. After several months, I finally said that we'd like to give our son a sibling in a very wistful tone of voice. They finally shut up about it. Because of bf I didn't get my period until DS was 16 months old, well after I'd shut that conversation down.
So far these ladies have been polite, but I'm still waiting for some crazy to come out.

jsaffer01

SNOakes said:

This is slightly different, but I'm sick of hearing "don't worry, it'll all be worth it". When someone asks how I'm feeling and I tell them that I'm very sick, this is all I hear. I already have a son so I'm well aware that it's worth it (and it absolutely is worth it), but that doesn't make 24/7 barfing any more glamorous than it sounds! It still bites!

This is my first, and my MIL tells me all the time it's worth it in the end. I kind of figured that out, otherwise people wouldn't be having babies.

mileswithmyles

I don't really wish that my friend would have held this comment back, but I found it odd.  She is also pregnant and due in March.  She quit her very easy job the minute two lines appeared on her home pregnancy test so she could "have a stress free pregnancy."

When I told her I was pregnant, she told me she couldn't believe I have been working this whole time(I am a teacher).  I've pretty much been able to keep up my normal routine and don't need to be wrapped in bubble wrap, thank you very much!

glowworm0166

My male co-worker: "Yeah, I can tell.  Your face is really breaking out."  To be fair my face is kind of broken out; however, it is pretty much always broken out (pregnant or not) and, to be honest, not something I want to chat about with anyone let alone someone I don't know that well...

TheLordsCanary

My FIL told us that our baby would be cursed by God.

QOTR

TheLordsCanary said:

My FIL told us that our baby would be cursed by God.

Well, he sounds like quite the charmer.

Emmyy04

Someone told me since I'm not throwing up that I'm going to get fat and gain extra weight and every little thing I eat is going straight to my ass and thighs.....