2nd time moms/repeat c-section moms

Lisa07

Hi Everyone. I posted a few times here during my pregnancy (gorgeous baby boy born July 27, 2012!) and have lurked here and there since. I just found out I'm pregnant with #2 (edd July 5, 2014) and I'm having some serious anxiety. It took us 2+ years and fertility treatments to have our son and because of ovulation issues, etc. I just never thought I would get pregnant naturally. Yes, I realize how ignorant that sounds. The point is, I never really thought about #2. I was just so blessed and thrilled to have our son so now I'm completely freaking out about how to split attention between my full-time job, son and the new baby, about making sure the new baby is healthy, and most of all about a repeat c-section. I had a horrific labor that ultimately ended in a c-section and the need for a blood transfusion and almost a week in a hospital. I'm not exaggerating when I say my husband thought I was going to die. I feel guilty for feeling so anxious about this, but I don't know how to turn off the worry button and I just lay awake all night thinking about terrible things. My husband is being great, super supportive and was absolutely thrilled when we found out. I know when we tell my family, they will be just as supportive. I guess, I'm looking to hear how other mothers find the right balance for caring for a newborn and a toddler and if anyone here had a second c-section and how recovery affected caring for the kids. 

hokiemama06

Just wanted to say that I don't have the experience yet, but I will be having a RCS in March for baby #2.  I felt like it was the right decision for our family with lots of pros (being able to prep Thomas, having things lined up, preventing an emergency situation, etc.).  DH will be taking the first two weeks off to help me with both kids - and I think that's going to be essential to the success of recovery and transition. 

Do you have family/friends around who can help for the first few weeks, until you get back on your feet?

bumpuser1509193

First off, CONGRATS! All your feelings are totally normal! I don't have any experience with any of your questions, but I wish you all the best!

sarahandeddiejune212008

I was in the same situation with IF so getting pg naturally was a shock for me too. Both of my c/s were scheduled (both breech babies). A scheduled c/s is much different than an emergency. It is relaxed and it's great to know your baby's b-day ahead of time.

As far as recovery - it was more difficult with a toddler, but not horrible. DH stayed home for two weeks after we left the hospital. We had lots of snuggle time because I couldn't move easily and was nursing. We watched movies and read books.

You just have to remember to take it easy. Take any help that is offered. And from what I've heard, recovery after a scheduled c/s is easier than after an emergency c/s too. GL!

Lisa07

Thanks very much for your replies. I think the shock is slowly wearing off. I do have family help nearby, I'll just need to take it!