**2IF Grad Check-in**

74dragonfly

This check-in is for grads of the Secondary IF board. Feel free to post if you want to be added.

Bumpee	Due Date	Team
KKDRAGONFLY	12/2	Blue
HopingforBaby2	12/2	Green
Lauren79	12/4	Pink
Kimberm01	12/27	Blue x2
mlamping	1/22	Pink
Huskermama	1/23	Pink
rcnavywife	3/22	Green
HopingForMore	4/20	TBD
tryingyetagain	4/26	TBD
MJC1116	5/5	TBD
cerad5	6/17	TBD
gmc222	6/21	TBD

**I need a volunteer to take over. I'm 2 weeks away from my c section. It doesn't take much time. **

1. How many weeks?

2. Any updates? A/S? Etc?

3. What kept your spirits up during 2IF? A song? Book? Bible quote? Wine?

4. Any worries about having a another child in terms of splitting time, other kids reactions, going back to newborn stage, etc?

74dragonfly

1. How many weeks? 36 weeks today. RCS in 2 weeks. 

2. Any updates? A/S? Etc? I am getting nervous baby will come on his own before my parents arrive. I have been having a TON of BH.

3. What kept your spirits up during 2IF? A song? Book? Bible quote? Wine? wine and prayer helped. 

4. Any worries about having a another child in terms of splitting time, other kids reactions, going back to newborn stage, etc? Im worried DD will be upset at lack of attention. She is excited for the baby but she doesnt know what a baby involves

tryingyetagain

We have our 16 week appt on Thursday and I'm starting to realize how fast everything is moving all of a sudden! I had a biopsy done Thursday for a "suspicious" growth on my scalp that the dermatologist thought might be skin cancer. Just one more thing to worry about.

Nothing really kept my spirits up although I did drink a beer every night while making dinner! I cut back on that though after noticing I was putting on weight, plus I was worried it was affecting the fertility situation.

DS isn't super excited about the impending addition. He has asked that we refer to it as a baby kitten for now (his own little adaptation tool, I guess). We did this at first to lighten it up a bit for him, but now I'm referring to it as the baby. He still corrects me by adding "kitten!" afterwards every time. He's old enough to know this is going to impact him a lot and he's nervous about it, I guess!

KK, I can take over the weekly email for you, unless someone else is interested. Which week do you want to be your last one? Can't believe your time is almost here!

74dragonfly

tryingyetagain said:

We have our 16 week appt on Thursday and I'm starting to realize how fast everything is moving all of a sudden! I had a biopsy done Thursday for a "suspicious" growth on my scalp that the dermatologist thought might be skin cancer. Just one more thing to worry about.

Nothing really kept my spirits up although I did drink a beer every night while making dinner! I cut back on that though after noticing I was putting on weight, plus I was worried it was affecting the fertility situation.

DS isn't super excited about the impending addition. He has asked that we refer to it as a baby kitten for now (his own little adaptation tool, I guess). We did this at first to lighten it up a bit for him, but now I'm referring to it as the baby. He still corrects me by adding "kitten!" afterwards every time. He's old enough to know this is going to impact him a lot and he's nervous about it, I guess!

KK, I can take over the weekly email for you, unless someone else is interested. Which week do you want to be your last one? Can't believe your time is almost here!

You are awesome to take this on. Thank you! Ill send you a PM.

MJC1116

Hi!

1. How many weeks? 14 weeks

2. Any updates? A/S? Etc? Nothing major, but the cat is definitely out of the bag with the pregnancy. We've made announcements and even put it on FB this weekend. I alluded to our issues in conceiving. It was really interesting to see how  many people responded privately via message or text to tell me either about their struggles with conceiving their children or how many friends asked questions about infertility as they are in the beginning part of their (hopefully short) journey. Infertility always felt so isolating, but really, so many people seem affected by it! I wish I would have known or at least had people to talk to about it while I went through it.

3. What kept your spirits up during 2IF? A song? Book? Bible quote? Wine? Bible verses were really important to me. When I'd hear something at Mass, I'd write it down in my journal and reflect on it. It seemed like every week God was speaking to me, I just had to be open to listening to the message. It also helped for me to believe with every ounce of my soul that there was another baby out there for me. I refused to give up hope. 

4. Any worries about having a another child in terms of splitting time, other kids reactions, going back to newborn stage, etc?  DD is so excited that a baby is coming, but truthfully, I don't think she understands at all what that means. I am anticipating a huge transition. It will be hard to give her the attention she will need and also tend to a newborn. It will be helpful to have her in school when the baby comes, and hopefully over summer, we can figure out a system. I have fears about my ability to divide myself up. Do any of you have fears about your love for both children? I feel like the love I have for my daughter is so intense that I'm afraid the baby will always be compared to her.  Then I feel like an ass for even thinking that. I'm hoping that it'll come naturally.

tryingyetagain

KK, I'm sure this is a stupid question, but where the heck are PMs know?  They used to be on the sidebar, down on the left, but it's not there anymore.  Is it "Inbox" under My Profile?  I didn't have anything in there.  Feel like I'm missing something!

Luckyu317

Can you add me?! I'm 11 weeks tomorrow, due 5/27.
No real announcements. I have my second appointment on Wednesday. I know I'm getting blood work, and I'm sure we'll listen to the heartbeat, but I don't remember what else we're doing. We have told close friends and family, but I don't know if/when well ''come out'' on FB.
I had a hard time during 2IF. I confided in DH, and two close friends, but we mostly kept our struggles to ourselves. It was always so hard when AF would rear her ugly head each month. I'm so thankful for modern medicine. It took us a year with an RE and 3 IUI's to conceive this baby.
I don't have any concerns- yet. I'm sure as our due date comes closer that will change. I'm hoping we'll be able to establish somewhat of a routine.

74dragonfly

Luckyu317 said:

Can you add me?! I'm 11 weeks tomorrow, due 5/27. No real announcements. I have my second appointment on Wednesday. I know I'm getting blood work, and I'm sure we'll listen to the heartbeat, but I don't remember what else we're doing. We have told close friends and family, but I don't know if/when well ''come out'' on FB. I had a hard time during 2IF. I confided in DH, and two close friends, but we mostly kept our struggles to ourselves. It was always so hard when AF would rear her ugly head each month. I'm so thankful for modern medicine. It took us a year with an RE and 3 IUI's to conceive this baby. I don't have any concerns- yet. I'm sure as our due date comes closer that will change. I'm hoping we'll be able to establish somewhat of a routine.

Welcome Luckyu317!

cerad5

1) I'm either 7 or 8 weeks.  By LMP 8 weeks , but at my ultrasound last week the sac and baby were both measuring closer to a week behind. Makes sense, I usually ovulate around CD 20 or 21.

2)Another US tomorrow to better figure out due date and ensure heartbeat is normal.

3)My faith. Praying, hoping. My DH was also an amazing support system. The occasional glasses of wine when AF showed didn't hurt either

4)I haven't thought about any worries yet, I'm just so thankful to be pregnant.

 

kimberm0511

1. 32 weeks.

2. Not much to report. Had a checkup today.. measuring 38 weeks! No ultrasound today though...another one at 34 weeks.

3. Prayer, dh, my older kids

4. No worries about going back to newborn stage. I am a little worried about splitting time. My 8 yr old is involved in so many sports and other activities, so I'm not sure how that's going to work out. I'll have to miss some games for a bit, which makes him sad. It'll all work out soon though I'm sure!

hopingforbaby2

1. How many weeks?

 36 weeks 1 day

2. Any updates? A/S? Etc? 

I have been having weekly sonos because of high fluid and everything is Looking good! Repeat c/s is in 20 days!!!! Can't believe it's so close!!!

3. What kept your spirits up during 2IF? A song? Book? Bible quote? Wine?

My DS always kept me in good spirits. And reminding myself how lucky I am to have him!  

4. Any worries about having a another child in terms of splitting time, other kids reactions, going back to newborn stage, etc?  No real worries.  DS is very excited. I'm thinking he'll adjust fine.  He also goes to pre-k three full days so I'll have alone time with the baby. 

rcnavywife

1. How many weeks? 20 weeks!
2. Any updates? A/S? Etc? Had our A/S yesterday and all is well! Also saw my OB and nothing to report which is great!
3. What kept your spirits up during 2IF? A song? Book? Bible quote? Wine? My DS, and many a glass of wine when AF arrived.
4. Any worries about having a another child in terms of splitting time, other kids reactions, going back to newborn stage, etc?Definitely some worries with three coming on splitting time and not pushing our older DS aside.

mlamping

Hello, 

I am 29 weeks

I have a second three hour glucose test tomorrow and my ob next week. 

I got the circle and bloom cds that helped a lot. I will listen at night and it will help me go to sleep. 

I had my DH and family, but my anxiety was still pretty high. 

This time I know it will be a bit easier, but harder since I have a three year old. I am very scared and hoping I do a great job. I had horrible post par tum with Zoe, and I hope to enjoy the first few months more with this little girl. 

Good luck to all! 

jeannaqueena

kimberm0511 said:

1. 32 weeks. 2. Not much to report. Had a checkup today.. measuring 38 weeks! No ultrasound today though...another one at 34 weeks. 3. Prayer, dh, my older kids 4. No worries about going back to newborn stage. I am a little worried about splitting time. My 8 yr old is involved in so many sports and other activities, so I'm not sure how that's going to work out. I'll have to miss some games for a bit, which makes him sad. It'll all work out soon though I'm sure!

@Kimberm0511!!! 32 weeks, what a blessing you are doing great!!! I am so so so thrilled for you!! Keep making sure to update bc I come back to check on you!!!

kimberm0511

jeannaqueena said:

kimberm0511 said:

1. 32 weeks.

2. Not much to report. Had a checkup today.. measuring 38 weeks! No ultrasound today though...another one at 34 weeks.

3. Prayer, dh, my older kids

4. No worries about going back to newborn stage. I am a little worried about splitting time. My 8 yr old is involved in so many sports and other activities, so I'm not sure how that's going to work out. I'll have to miss some games for a bit, which makes him sad. It'll all work out soon though I'm sure!

@Kimberm0511!!! 32 weeks, what a blessing you are doing great!!! I am so so so thrilled for you!! Keep making sure to update bc I come back to check on you!!!

Omg I know! I can't believe I've made it so far! Time has officially started dragging though....hope you are doing well! Are you on another board? I've been curious as to how you are doing!

huskermama

1. How many weeks? 29 weeks today!

2. Any updates? A/S? Etc? Nothing new here..just getting big and miserable but so happy to e where we are so trying hard not to complain.

3. What kept your spirits up during 2IF? A song? Book? Bible quote? Wine?  I prayed...a lot...and started blogging which helped as well

4. Any worries about having a another child in terms of splitting time, other kids reactions, going back to newborn stage, etc? Our DD is 5 and has been asking for a sibling for quite some time. She is elated and I think she'll be fine. I'm actually more worried about DH and I adjusting to having a newborn again and as a family of 4

mlamping

1. How many weeks? 29 weeks 

2. Any updates? A/S? Etc? Had my three hour glucose test today, not fun. Got sick from it. I have my OB next Friday and ultrasound on the 19th. 

3. What kept your spirits up during 2IF? A song? Book? Bible quote? Wine? Not much, I have high anxiety and I was very worried. I did try the Circle and Bloom cds and they helped a bit. I just hated all the waiting. 

4. Any worries about having a another child in terms of splitting time, other kids reactions, going back to newborn stage, etc? yes very much so, I had a lot of issues in self esteem the first time and I am worried I wont be able to do it the second time  as well. Lets hope I am better a bit.