Health & Exercise

Intro and question about losing friends

Baby0322Baby0322 member
edited November 2013 in Health & Exercise
This is my first time posting. I started exercising and eating healthy back in March. I've lost 36 and have 25 to go. I've been really interested in nutrition and doing lots of research. I've totally changed my lifestyle but my question is, does anyone feel more alone since they've changed their lifestyle? I feel like friends, society, and even family shy away from people who are trying to be more healthy and active. I almost feel like I've lost a couple of friends. Either that or I know some really sucky people.
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Re: Intro and question about losing friends

  • I think there can be some truth to that.  Certainly a lot of social events involve unhealthy food and drinks.  For example, someone might think that their "health nut" friend wouldn't want to join them for wings and beer at the pub.

    On the other hand, sometimes people get really focused on working out and dieting and they don't make time for their friends.  Maybe you could try to reach out to your friends and involve them in something that fits with your new lifestyle.  For example, ask a friend to join you for a stroller walk in the park, take a yoga class with you on Tuesday nights, try out a new vegan restaurant, or organize a pot luck dinner with a healthy theme.
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  • I have a slightly different take.  Seems like I 'lost' friends after the child came along.  People at different stages in their lives tend to drift in different directions (I am an 'older' first time mom and most of my friends had children that were already nearly grown or never intended to have children).  However, in the year and a half that I've gotten myself in shape, especially this year, it doesn't bother me.  My family and my health is my priority.  This year I've actually reconnected with old friends as we started training for our half marathon together and I have had other friends that I haven't had much contact with in years except through facebook message me to tell me that I inspire them and seeking my advice and wanting to do what I do.  Except for those that want to continue to party all the time.
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  • I know what you mean. There are definitely people who shy away from their old lifestyle in fear of gaining all the weight back and sadly maybe push friends away without realizing it. There are others who can adapt and still enjoy their daily routine. Show your friends and family that you can still be fun you while being healthy you and that they should in no way shy away from you! I'm sorry you are going through that. People should be supporting you!

    Another thing is no matter what situation you are in, you make your own 'healthy' decisions. Just because you are a health conscious person doesn't mean you can't have a life!
  • When I was heavier, I went out all the time and certain aspects of socializing just aren't a part of my lifestyle anymore and those friends have gone by the wayside.  Over time, my night-owl, bar-hopping tendencies got traded in for being an early-riser and a runner.  Eventually you'll make other friends whose lifestyles are more congruent with the healthy choices you're making, and your true friends will always stick by you no matter what.  


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