I've asked about this before, so I appreciate those who are willing to chime in again. We are going through the transition process from EI to School District, and we now have an IEP written up but still have not nailed down the best placement for DD. We have a few options but I'm still struggling with understanding what will be the best fit. DD will be 3 in December, she was dx with Autism in August, however we have been involved with EI for almost a full a year now. DH and I visited a local ABA based preschool, which in theory I had always felt would be the best fit for DD. While visiting the administrator did allow us in to see the rooms but we weren't able to see any of the therapists working with children. I understand ABA is highly individualized, so perhaps it wouldn't have really given me any idea of how it would look with DD anyway...I don't know, but I didn't leave feeling like I had gained any particular knowledge of the therapists or what a typical day at the preschool looked like. We catalogued the experience and did an observation at the local inclusion preschool. I loved the public preschool but I am concerned that DD will not be successful in that kind of situation. The teacher of the preschool said they do not expect DD to be able to sit and follow instructions immediately, and stated it could take months for her to get it, and thats okay. Their response is that if she doesn't follow instructions or starts to get overwhelmed the aide will take her aside until she can return. Our EI interventionist seems to think that the inclusion (public) preschool is the best environment for DD, her explanation being that DD has many skill sets already but is really lacking in social communication/interaction. My understanding has always been that at DD's age and with her dx that social situations are usually only effective if they are facilitated appropriately...so I guess I"m just confused. When I see all these kiddos sitting on their "letter" carpet, lining up when told, picking up library books etc. I just can't picture DD doing this. Am I selling her short? I don't think the interventionist has any kind of motive for suggesting she go to the inclusion preschool, I do believe she thinks DD can be successful. I just don't know.... DD does have some good pre academic skills, shes potty trained (but needs help getting on a full sized toilet), and she can follow instructions to a point, but she is very self directed. Sometimes she flat out says "no" to things asked of her, sometimes she complies, and other times she simply ignores requests all together. I guess she could be an entirely different kid when it comes to getting directions from a teacher/other adult but she doesn't experience this very often and I have no way of knowing. Any thoughts on what my next move should be?