Overtired Question (PR) updated

nancy30005

Fuck. I mentioned earlier about dropping the (one) nap. My question - at bedtime, if your kid is overtired: are all bets off and you make exceptions because of their emotional condition, OR do you stick to your guns/rules/schedule to teach them screaming can't get them their way?

God I hope this makes sense. I'm kinda upset.

Thanks, loves.

Nechie122

Just overtired ... we stick to the routine. In a weird way, I think it's comforting even when she fights it.

But if she's overtired because of an illness that's been messing with her sleep ... or jet lag ... or sleeping in a strange place ... then I loosen up and go into survival mode.

MrsCodeMonkey

We tend to rush through the motions and get DD in bed fast when she's overtired. Tonight was 7:10. She tends to sleep better if we don't prolong the process when she's tired.

Also, you have all my sorrys about the loss of nap. My kid is like a wild animal when she doesn't sleep well.

nancy30005

@Nechie122 - that's usually my line of thought as well. Tonight H decided he'd take the reigns (aboutfuckingtime) and he let him "scream it out". 

Tore my heart out. The "mommy! mommy! I want mommy" just sucks. 

Nevertheless, that little fart is sleeping. He literally screamed himself to sleep. 

Bourbon and coke for mom. 

(Oh yeah, do a shot @jack19 )

fancynewbeesly

We will rush through the routine. The only thing we may skip is the shower (she hates the shower) so it is a fight on a good day. Maybe a book as well--but she LOVES the books and would probably flip out if we skipped that part.

Sometimes I will try to choose a shorter book though. 

But we definitely condense the routine as quick as possible and put her right to bed.

nancy30005

I hear ya @Starearedkid and @MrsCodeMonkey - I love to just be like "peace out, homie", and rock him to sleep when he's like this. 

Tonight MH wanted to take charge and since I'm so "sensitive" it got to me. I guess I need to release some control sometime. Maybe. Once in a while. 

@jack19 - again. You're welcome. 

flyingsaucer

I say be a little more gentle when they are over tired but still stick to your guns... Also, sometimes kids go through a bad napping period but are not ready to drop the nap so easily. Don't give up so quickly! You may be able to get your LO back not rack with napping! And I really think that kids still need some mid day down time to regroup... So even my 5 year old had to "rest" (he usually lays down in my bed with toys or watches a movie) and-plus-also, mommy needs quiet time

SoDoMojo

When DS is overtired we cut out parts of the routine. Can't take a bath without splashing everywhere? Bath time's over. Can't sit nicely for books? No books. 

He'll freak his freak for a few mins alone in his bed. Then we go back in and explain it's bedtime. Goodnight. He's out. 

nancy30005

So he woke up 45 minutes after Dad let him "scream it out". And by wake up, I mean HELLBOYONEARTH.

Why do I second guess my Mother's Instincts? He was a hot mess. Almost made me wish I could nurse again. Shit. 

@jack19

Just do it for me, dude.

klondikebar

It depends on the kid and the circumstances. I'll change the routine a little, but I won't be a complete pushover. Extra snuggles, water and books. Ok. Cookies and a dance party until midnight. No way.

Transitioning to no naps can be rough for a little bit, but he'll adjust. It'll be ok. I'm an oddball, but I loved when my kids were done napping, especially my youngest that would not fall asleep anywhere except home. It was one less scheduling item to worry about.

 

SoDoMojo

@KlondikeBar I agree that once the naps were dropped it was nice. He goes to bed much easier at night. We don't have to plan around them, since he also wouldn't nap anywhere but home or in the car. 

On the rare day that he naps he's up til 10. I am lucky that at least he stays in bed, but he's in there singing and talking for 2 hours sometimes. 

Good luck@nancy30005! It sucks when bedtime brings such stress. 

nancy30005

@KlondikeBar and @SoDoMojo ,  I can totally see the benefits in the future. Like the fucking zoo, and travel....

Thanks, my sweeties.I love y'all! SDM, thanks for keeping your sig as your avatar. I it!!

KB - are you at the GTG in IA?

It's time for an ATL GTG. For shiz. Me and @Onderfulmother could probably organize...maybe?

I'm so tired, but I love all y'all for your input. I can't make a decision w/o TB!!

nancy30005

And again w/ the 45 minute shit. 
I wish I could soothe=nursing. Dried up be sadz.